Switch

Switch - BDSM from both sides of the whip

What is a switch?

Switch is the BDSM term for someone who isn’t always just Dominant or only submissive, they are a combination of the two. They enjoy being the top in a scene sometimes but are equally as comfortable being the bottom at other times. They have a real desire for both but may be more Dominant or more submissive. Switches don’t tend to have a 50/50 split Dom or sub.

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switchguy226969

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Manchester, UK

TonyMilanowski

TonyMilanowski

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Dferguson81

Male (35)    176 cm, 95 kg

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Inverness, UK

SamerMike

SamerMike

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Ashdod, Israel

Mickyp

Mickyp

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Peterborough, UK

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Rbpanda

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ElleFire

ElleFire

Female (51)    163 cm, 68 kg

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Minneapolis, USA

BerryBrighton

BerryBrighton

Female (37)    150 cm, - kg

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Brighton and Hove, UK

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Blonde-pet

Female (38)    164 cm, 59 kg

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F8d

F8d

Female (37)

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Dublin, USA

jayjaysub

jayjaysub

Female (51)    167 cm, 85 kg

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Wolverhampton, UK

Suzie999

Suzie999

Female (28)    171 cm, 90 kg

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Hartenbos, South Africa

Which BDSM archetype matches well with a switch?

Switches work well with other switches, especially in long term and/or monogamous relationships, as they can take turns in both roles. They will work well with submissives and dominants too and a switch might have play partners in both roles who they play with depending if they’re feeling more Dominant or more submissive at the time. All people who identify the need to sometimes be dominant and sometimes be submissive count as switches. It might be that they are submissive 90% of the time but if they have the desire to be a top then they are a switch. Any mix of the two roles is considered switch.

Do switches get the best of both?

It can be considered that switches get the best of both worlds. They can understand what the pain feels like because they experience it themselves so they are considerate Dominants. They understand the time, effort and responsibility that goes into being a Top so they also make very patient submissives.

How do switches work within a BDSM scene?

Some switches can switch within a scene, if they’re playing with another switch. This takes careful handling regarding consent but some switches do have the capability of changing from top to bottom almost at the flick of a switch. Other switch personalities might be very definitely Dominant in one scene and won’t change to a submissive mind set so quickly. They will plan their scenes according to which trait they are feeling at the time.

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