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Description
A kind and loving man who also happens to be kinky and into domination and sadism. Feel free to reach out and get to know me more.
Limits
***, Diapers, Creepy Old Dudes, People who can’t respect basic decency or boundaries.
My roles & archetype
My kinks & fetishes
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How do you create and set up a scene?
I’m not a very type A individual, never much enjoyed organization and shirked authority. As you could probably guess this made my scenes a bit chaotic and I had to lean heavily on my ability to build trust with my partner, ability to listen and respect boundaries, and to play wisely. Still I have a Read more…lot to learn! I’ll explain how I’ve set up an bdsm play session in the past, and I’d love to hear how others do it, whether Dom, sub or switch. How do you make the magic happen!?
An example scene I’ve done:
1. First we discussed limits and interest as well as established consent of course.
2. Then I took the sub to my bedroom and after setting the mood I made her get on all fours facing away from me.
3. I tied a tie around her eyes so she didn’t know what I was gonna do, then I began to tease and stroke her curves, smacking her peach like ass when it beckoned to me.
4. After I teased her for a bit and I could see her pussy glistening, I restrained her arms to her thighs to keep her locked into the doggy position, then I got out my bullwhip and used that to tease her as well.
5. Then I rolled her over and spanked her tits and slapped her face, and I finished her off with a vibrator I controlled.
6. She was begging me to fuck her, but because it was our first meeting and I didn’t want to, I made her wait.
Many things weren’t planned in this scene and I only had a basic idea and the obvious talks beforehand. So that’s a chapter from my past I only hope to improve from there. So, How have you planned your scenes?
An example scene I’ve done:
1. First we discussed limits and interest as well as established consent of course.
2. Then I took the sub to my bedroom and after setting the mood I made her get on all fours facing away from me.
3. I tied a tie around her eyes so she didn’t know what I was gonna do, then I began to tease and stroke her curves, smacking her peach like ass when it beckoned to me.
4. After I teased her for a bit and I could see her pussy glistening, I restrained her arms to her thighs to keep her locked into the doggy position, then I got out my bullwhip and used that to tease her as well.
5. Then I rolled her over and spanked her tits and slapped her face, and I finished her off with a vibrator I controlled.
6. She was begging me to fuck her, but because it was our first meeting and I didn’t want to, I made her wait.
Many things weren’t planned in this scene and I only had a basic idea and the obvious talks beforehand. So that’s a chapter from my past I only hope to improve from there. So, How have you planned your scenes?
Apophis72 Think of a scene as a passage from a book, write in the third person. Some of the best scenes written are about control, think how you would like to control your sub, this will give you a good idea of her responses, write the whole scene down and send it to your sub, get their input, then plan it for a weekend away, or at least without interruption, the anticipation of a kinky scene will build and make the finale earth shattering Think of a scene as a passage from a book, write in the third person. Some of the best scenes written are about control, think how you would like to control your sub, this will give you a good idea of her responses, write the whole scene down and send it to your sub, get their input, then plan it for a weekend away, or at least without interruption, the anticipation of a kinky scene will build and make the finale earth shattering
LikeLovestruckSadist, Pleasure_Paradise
· 08.07.2026 8:02:32
King_Larry32 Well I am type A So I plan a scene in my mind I have a full time mate/sub so we do scenes twice a week and sporadic free use the rest of the time.
I start with a full body inspection generally I will turn her to the door after we enter the room place her hands stretched up on the door and while Read more… keeping her hands on the door with one hand I carress her body all down one side teasing her nipples grabbing her hair to turn her head so I can breath on her neck and ear then switch hands and carress her other side then depending on what we are doing I will usually start with restraining her wrists to the bed and play between her legs a little licking and sucking and then I use one of a couple of toys like clit sucking vibrator (Tracey’s dog is good) use scarves to bind her legs together and let her simmer for 30-45 minutes using the remote to change settings about the time she finds her rhythm after that I take her to the playroom where I restrain her to the table and put her in stirrups and use vibrators dildos fingers and edge her for another 45 minutes or so then I relentlessly push her to cum over and over and I turned her into a squirter so I get her gspott full and work her a while then when she is nearly spent ragged breathing begging me don’t stop I bring the squirt! I ring it out of her make her cum so hard and so long she goes into full body spasms.
I Switch it up occasionally start her standing and do serious breast play binding them then use a crop and paddle and flogger and get her all wet choking and breaking the breasts but we always end on the table in stirrups since I started her squirting she is insatiable in her pursuit of the full body squirting orgasm. I have created a monster 😇good thing she’s exactly what I want!
I start with a full body inspection generally I will turn her to the door after we enter the room place her hands stretched up on the door and while Read more… keeping her hands on the door with one hand I carress her body all down one side teasing her nipples grabbing her hair to turn her head so I can breath on her neck and ear then switch hands and carress her other side then depending on what we are doing I will usually start with restraining her wrists to the bed and play between her legs a little licking and sucking and then I use one of a couple of toys like clit sucking vibrator (Tracey’s dog is good) use scarves to bind her legs together and let her simmer for 30-45 minutes using the remote to change settings about the time she finds her rhythm after that I take her to the playroom where I restrain her to the table and put her in stirrups and use vibrators dildos fingers and edge her for another 45 minutes or so then I relentlessly push her to cum over and over and I turned her into a squirter so I get her gspott full and work her a while then when she is nearly spent ragged breathing begging me don’t stop I bring the squirt! I ring it out of her make her cum so hard and so long she goes into full body spasms.
I Switch it up occasionally start her standing and do serious breast play binding them then use a crop and paddle and flogger and get her all wet choking and breaking the breasts but we always end on the table in stirrups since I started her squirting she is insatiable in her pursuit of the full body squirting orgasm. I have created a monster 😇good thing she’s exactly what I want!
LikeLovestruckSadist, ST311PH, Pleasure_Paradise
· 08.07.2026 7:59:33
A kind and loving man who also happens to be kinky and into domination and sadism. Feel free to reach out and get to know me more.
***, Diapers, Creepy Old Dudes, People who can’t respect basic decency or boundaries.
The weight of a hidden world
I want to thank everyone for their kind and thoughtful comments. They were enjoyable to read and I’m happy to see people engaged with what I wrote. Personally I was burned out by kink when I quickly saw how shallow it could be. I started to wonder, if there was even a place for true connection, or Read more… if everything had been spoiled by the commodification of 21st century. I felt like everything was for sale, all values accounted for. Any offbeat variable in existence, was simply a blemish on produce to be tossed away at the end of the night. Words may be words, but yours have brought thought and comfort. So I thank you all again with my whole heart and send all the positivity I can into your life journeys.
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The weight of a hidden world
I’d like to discuss the feelings of extreme isolation that kink has brought me, despite never truly finding a dynamic yet, that stoked my inner flame and made me feel whole and seen. Still the world inside of me that was bursting and waiting to get out weighed heavily. Something about my desires Read more…alienated me, even before I opened my mouth it seemed like somehow myself and the rest of the community were in a deadly dance, one where if I revealed myself I would be thoroughly executed socially and spiritually. I’m curious how others deal with feelings of isolation, and how they deal with the inner world of kink that may not always come to light? I’d love to hear about your journeys, and how your kinks have affected you for the positive or negative.
eyemblacksheep ➦eyemblacksheep quote LovestruckSadist:❝if everything had been spoiled by the commodification of 21st century.❞I actually have a very different take on this. Like, particularly in event spaces - you can see people are real and you can chat, and no one is garaunteed to be interested in anything, Read more… but if they are then there's no, shall we say, financial barriers.
Online also. I think that perhaps there are undoubtedly more with financial interests in some circles, that there are not fewer without. That perhaps it's kinda always been hard and challenging to find the right connections.
The flip of course, is fraudsters aside, there are more opportunities to play/try without going through the making-friends/being-seen circles, but with a hand in pocket.
Online also. I think that perhaps there are undoubtedly more with financial interests in some circles, that there are not fewer without. That perhaps it's kinda always been hard and challenging to find the right connections.
The flip of course, is fraudsters aside, there are more opportunities to play/try without going through the making-friends/being-seen circles, but with a hand in pocket.
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· 30.06.2026 18:01:20
LovestruckSadist I want to thank everyone for their kind and thoughtful comments. They were enjoyable to read and I’m happy to see people engaged with what I wrote. Personally I was burned out by kink when I quickly saw how shallow it could be. I started to wonder, if there was even a place for true connection, or Read more… if everything had been spoiled by the commodification of 21st century. I felt like everything was for sale, all values accounted for. Any offbeat variable in existence, was simply a blemish on produce to be tossed away at the end of the night. Words may be words, but yours have brought thought and comfort. So I thank you all again with my whole heart and send all the positivity I can into your life journeys.
LikeLilith_Aleera2
· 30.06.2026 17:40:48
eyemblacksheep there's things I see from time to time - and obviously I've my own direct experiences
when I started into kink I was very much like... well, kid in a candy store - a whole world had opened and the possibilities were endless.
I know others have similar experiences.
And over the years I've had a lot Read more… of play, a lot of experiences, a lot of experimentation a lot of amazing times. But there have also been periods where.... things didn't work out. Where nothing I seemed to do resulted in gaining what I wanted. There is a lesson in there I will finish with.
But anyway. I see people who come into kink to whatever degree, and it's like a door opening and they see a glimpse and wonder what more there is to see and they're already excited. And then, like... if it's online they'll start messaging people aaaaaannnnndddd no reply. And if it's in person they might again end up struggling to get what they want. And it can feel lonely, like everyone else is playing and living out their fantasies... except them.
The issue of course is they only see part the picture. Not the struggles the others have had. Not the time. The prep. The commitment. So on.
And ultimately, the main thing... when your happiness relies on a reaction from another person this often sets you up for unhappiness. Because you can't control how they'll respond. There's stuff you can do which might influence a favourable response but you can't garauntee it - and that is my lesson I was aluding to previously and that is the problem I see many fall into.
When I did feel that kinda isolation, which was largely around 2017/2018 - I kinda ultimately had to pull myself up and go back to the start. Taking pleasure in people's company without it necessarily being play. Trying not to take no's personally (that can be hard sometimes) and it got me back on track.
when I started into kink I was very much like... well, kid in a candy store - a whole world had opened and the possibilities were endless.
I know others have similar experiences.
And over the years I've had a lot Read more… of play, a lot of experiences, a lot of experimentation a lot of amazing times. But there have also been periods where.... things didn't work out. Where nothing I seemed to do resulted in gaining what I wanted. There is a lesson in there I will finish with.
But anyway. I see people who come into kink to whatever degree, and it's like a door opening and they see a glimpse and wonder what more there is to see and they're already excited. And then, like... if it's online they'll start messaging people aaaaaannnnndddd no reply. And if it's in person they might again end up struggling to get what they want. And it can feel lonely, like everyone else is playing and living out their fantasies... except them.
The issue of course is they only see part the picture. Not the struggles the others have had. Not the time. The prep. The commitment. So on.
And ultimately, the main thing... when your happiness relies on a reaction from another person this often sets you up for unhappiness. Because you can't control how they'll respond. There's stuff you can do which might influence a favourable response but you can't garauntee it - and that is my lesson I was aluding to previously and that is the problem I see many fall into.
When I did feel that kinda isolation, which was largely around 2017/2018 - I kinda ultimately had to pull myself up and go back to the start. Taking pleasure in people's company without it necessarily being play. Trying not to take no's personally (that can be hard sometimes) and it got me back on track.
LikeLilith_Aleera2, LovestruckSadist
· 27.06.2026 14:56:41
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