Mixed Wrestling FemDom: The Ultimate Erotic Wrestling Fetish Guide

Curious about a mixed wrestling fetish that blends physical domination, raw energy, and total surrender? Then, FemDom wrestling — also known as mixed wrestling FemDom — might just be your next obsession. But what does it involve, and how can you get started? Here's our essential guide.

What Is FemDom Wrestling — and Why Is Mixed Wrestling So Hot?

Wrestling has long been seen as a guy-on-guy sport, but, in fact, there is a growing trend for men looking to be dominated by women using wrestling moves and holds. This form of erotic wrestling — often called mixed wrestling FemDom — is rising in popularity, with professional Mistresses across Europe and the US offering sessions for submissive men who crave total physical domination.

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What’s the goal in mixed wrestling?

The woman is always going to be the winner when it comes to mixed wrestling. The male can readily submit to her or struggle and try to fight back – it depends on exactly what floats your boat. The Domme will use a variety of wrestling holds to subdue the male submissive and might also punch and slap, but it will depend on what has been negotiated before the scene. 

FemDom or mixed wrestling is a heady power exchange that ends with the guy giving over complete control to his Domme. The sexual kick often comes from being defeated by the all-powerful woman. The sub male will, in effect, become owned by the Domme and will become little more than one of her possessions. 

What Makes Mixed Wrestling a Unique Fetish?

Some kinks are about sensation — but a wrestling fetish is about full-body power. You’re not tied down by cuffs — you’re overpowered, pinned, and undone.

Whether you love the Domme’s thighs around your neck or the slow build of resistance turning into surrender, mixed wrestling taps into something deeply erotic.

It’s sweaty. It’s intense. And for many subs, it’s the only place they feel free to give it all up.

Why Erotic Wrestling Feels So Powerful

For many subs, mixed wrestling is more than a fight — it’s a ritual of surrender. You're not just losing a match, you're giving in. Some crave the physicality. Others are drawn to the mental domination: being toyed with, teased, and overpowered by a confident, commanding woman.

This is where scissoring, smothering, and slow, humiliating pins come in. Each grip becomes a message: You’re not getting out.

Even subs who are physically stronger might find themselves submitting to a smaller Domme — thanks to smart tactics, tied hands, or psychological control. In erotic wrestling, strength isn’t always what wins — power is.

Playfighting vs. Erotic Wrestling: What's the Difference?

In kink spaces, play fighting usually means spontaneous, playful power play — sometimes chaotic, always consensual.

Erotic wrestling, on the other hand, is often more structured: rules, rounds, holds, and a clear Dom(me)/sub dynamic. It can look like sport, but the goal isn’t to win — it’s to dominate, pin, tease, and tap into control through physicality.

Some scenes focus on strength and resistance. Others are pure fantasy, where the sub is bound or restricted and overwhelmed from the start. 

And that’s the beauty of it: you set the rules, then break them — together.

How do you get involved in FemDom wrestling?

The great news: anyone can do it. You don't have to be a professional wrestler and can start by watching videos online – there are loads out there. Then experiment by incorporating some moves into your BDSM playtime. However, be sure to know the risks. Don't try any holds or moves you're not 100% confident in. Don't try to knock anyone out without specific training. It's essential to always practice Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK). 

 

“FemDom or mixed wrestling is a heady power exchange that ends with the guy giving over complete control to his Domme. The sexual kick often comes from being defeated by the all-powerful woman.”

You can also search for professional Dommes who offer FemDom wrestling sessions. Obviously, this may come at a cost, but you'll be confident they know what they're doing. They'll be able to give you the exact session you're looking for. You can also head over to our wrestling dating pages here on Fetish.com to find like-minded folks you may want to start grappling with.
 

BDSM wrestling: what positions do you use?

Any traditional wrestling moves work well, and those you might already incorporate in BDSM restraint play. Check out videos online to see what appeals to you most.


The female wrestler sits triumphantly on the face of her defeated male Wikimedia Commons/gaynewyorker

Safety and consent in mixed wrestling

As with all BDSM practices, safety and consent are essential, and boundaries must be agreed upon in advance. There can be no doubts on what is permissible. Indeed, your first step is to establish a safe word.

Also, ensure that you've agreed on a non-vocal symbol if the pain becomes too intense for the sub. For example, in FemDom wrestling, the sub can 'tap out' if he can't tolerate the pain. And then, of course, his magnificent mistress has the ultimate satisfaction of knowing that her dominion is complete!
 

Why does the male sub submit?

Mixed wrestling allows a male sub to live out a fantasy he may have harbored since childhood: an overwhelming desire to completely submit to a woman. Fantasy FemDom wrestling matches in hotel rooms, apartments, and even specialist gyms provide a safe and non-judgmental arena to live this dream.

 

“Mixed wrestling allows a male sub to live out a fantasy he may have harbored since childhood: an overwhelming desire to completely submit to a woman.”

However, some men yearn for the total power exchange of FemDom wrestling for other reasons. In being overpowered by a Domme, they can shake off unbearable stress by concentrating on the moment, being totally submissive to the Domme holding them down. 
 

Using toys in FemDom wrestling

You might want to concentrate on restraining another person with your body, but the joy of this kind of BDSM play is that you can add in other toys and equipment. You can employv bondage ropes, chains, or other restraints to keep the submissive in place once you've got them under your control.

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Once the submissive is in the losing position, the real shenanigans involved in mixed wrestling can begin. Whip out that dildo, and shackle him with those handcuffs. Collar him up – and demand he submits. Now is the perfect opportunity for the Domme to really push the sub's limits – and seize even greater control. 

When Wrestling Gets Real: A Mixed Wrestling Fetish Fantasy Comes to Life

For some, mixed wrestling is just a hot fantasy. For others, it’s a turning point. One reader shared how a playful idea turned into a full-blown power shift:

“We were just messing around — a normal couple with some kinky curiosity. I’d seen a few FemDom wrestling clips online and casually joked about her trying a move or two on me. She rolled her eyes… then grabbed me. Suddenly I was flat on the floor, arms pinned, and her thighs clamped around my head like she’d been waiting for this moment forever.”

“She didn’t say much — just gave me this quiet, cold look that said you’re mine now. It was more than play. She told me to kneel, made me lick her feet, and the teasing turned into full domination. Cuffs came out. Then the headscissors. Then the tap-outs. She pushed me, and I crumbled. And yeah — I begged. And she didn’t stop.”

“It wasn’t just a wrestling fetish anymore. That night changed something. For her, too. She discovered a new side of herself. And I discovered exactly what kind of submission I’d always wanted.”

For many, mixed wrestling FemDom becomes a physical and emotional journey — where power play meets raw energy, lust meets trust, and a little “let’s try this” turns into yes, Mistress.

Wrestling Moves With a Kinky Twist

While classic holds like body locks or full mounts work just fine, a few moves have gained cult status in the erotic wrestling scene:

• Headscissors – where the Domme wraps her thighs around the sub’s neck and squeezes him into submission. A favorite among fans of scissoring, breath play, and slow psychological domination.
   
• Breast smothering – not just soft, but suffocating. A post-match position where the Domme pins the sub down with her chest, controlling both breath and vision. Intimate, humiliating, and seriously hot.
   
• Victory pins – sitting on the sub’s chest or face, arms pinned, total stillness. Whether playful or punishing, it’s a clear power pose and a visual trophy.
   

You don’t need to be a trained wrestler to enjoy these moves — what matters is negotiation, chemistry, and control. That’s why playfighting is such a popular crossover between BDSM and physical kink: the goal isn’t a fair fight — it’s dominance.

Ready to Tap Out?

If the idea of being held down, dominated, and made to submit has your pulse racing, maybe it’s time to explore your mixed wrestling fetish in real life.

Browse the FemDom wrestling forums on Fetish.com, watch some steamy erotic wrestling clips, or book a session with a Domme who’s ready to wrestle your ego to the floor.

Your fantasy deserves a ring — or a mattress.

Looking to get involved in mixed wrestling? Get chatting about FemDom wrestling in the BDSM forum 
 

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