Our Guide to FemDom or Mixed Wrestling

Do you love the idea of a BDSM power exchange that is all about physical Dominance? No equipment, just strength? Maybe you should give FemDom wrestling – AKA mixed wrestling – a try. But what does it involve and how can you get started? Here's our essential guide.

What is FemDom wrestling?

Wrestling has long been seen as a guy-on-guy sport, but, in fact, there is a growing trend for men looking to be Dominated by women using wrestling moves and holds. Known as FemDom or mixed wrestling, there are Mistresses up and down the land offering sessions for submissive men to live out their fantasies of being physically Dominated by a woman. It's the ultimate expression of girl power.

What’s the goal in mixed wrestling?

The woman is always going to be the winner when it comes to mixed wrestling. The male can readily submit to her or struggle and try to fight back – it depends on exactly what floats your boat. The Domme will use a variety of wrestling holds to subdue the male submissive and might also punch and slap, but it will depend on what has been negotiated before the scene. 

Ready to grapple? Get a grip on mixed wrestling 

FemDom or mixed wrestling is a heady power exchange that ends with the guy giving over complete control to his Domme. The sexual kick often comes from being defeated by the all-powerful woman. The sub male will, in effect, become owned by the Domme and will become little more than one of her possessions. 

How do you get involved in FemDom wrestling?

The great news: anyone can do it. You don't have to be a professional wrestler and can start by watching videos online – there are loads out there. Then experiment by incorporating some moves into your BDSM playtime. However, be sure to know the risks. Don't try any holds or moves you're not 100% confident in. Don't try to knock anyone out without specific training. It's essential to always practice Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK). 

 

“FemDom or mixed wrestling is a heady power exchange that ends with the guy giving over complete control to his Domme. The sexual kick often comes from being defeated by the all-powerful woman.”

You can also search for professional Dommes who offer FemDom wrestling sessions. Obviously, this may come at a cost, but you'll be confident they know what they're doing. They'll be able to give you the exact session you're looking for. You can also head over to our wrestling dating pages here on Fetish.com to find like-minded folks you may want to start grappling with.
 

BDSM wrestling: what positions do you use?

Any traditional wrestling moves work well, and those you might already incorporate in BDSM restraint play. Check out videos online to see what appeals to you most.


The female wrestler sits triumphantly on the face of her defeated male Wikimedia Commons/gaynewyorker

Safety and consent in mixed wrestling

As with all BDSM practices, safety and consent are essential, and boundaries must be agreed upon in advance. There can be no doubts on what is permissible. Indeed, your first step is to establish a safeword.
 

Also, ensure that you've agreed on a non-vocal symbol if the pain becomes too intense for the sub. For example, in FemDom wrestling, the sub can 'tap out' if he can't tolerate the pain. And then, of course, his magnificent mistress has the ultimate satisfaction of knowing that her dominion is complete!
 

Why does the male sub submit?

Mixed wrestling allows a male sub to live out a fantasy he may have harbored since childhood: an overwhelming desire to completely submit to a woman. Fantasy FemDom wrestling matches in hotel rooms, apartments, and even specialist gyms provide a safe and non-judgmental arena to live this dream.

 

“Mixed wrestling allows a male sub to live out a fantasy he may have harbored since childhood: an overwhelming desire to completely submit to a woman.”

However, some men yearn for the total power exchange of FemDom wrestling for other reasons. In being overpowered by a Domme, they can shake off unbearable stress by concentrating on the moment, being totally submissive to the Domme holding them down. 
 

Using toys in FemDom wrestling

You might want to concentrate on restraining another person with your body, but the joy of this kind of BDSM play is that you can add in other toys and equipment. You can employ bondage ropes, chains, or other restraints to keep the submissive in place once you've got them under your control.
 

Once the submissive is in the losing position, the real shenanigans involved in mixed wrestling can begin. Whip out that dildo, and shackle him with those handcuffs. Collar him up – and demand he submits. Now is the perfect opportunity for the Domme to really push the sub's limits – and seize even greater control. •

Looking to get involved in mixed wrestling? Get chatting about FemDom wrestling in the BDSM forum 
 

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