Thank you very much for your input and recommendations. I will have a look at the first book.

Thank you very much for your input and recommendations. I will have a look at the first book.

Thank you for your valuable input and deeper insights. This is a thread for discussions and sharing information; so I am more than happy to follow the discussions of others within the same topic.
One thing that is still not clear to me and it is related to doms. Does degrading a sub in an act that Read more… is somehow a turn on for the sub yet meaningless to the dom, how does the dom act towards this act (carry it out or refuses) and how does the dom feel? (empowered, annoyed,...)
Another question for female doms, why does humiliating a male sub is part of domination (acts like pissing, slapping, spitting, insults,....) unlike male dominating females (tends to focused on rougher sex with humiliation )

When I first read this post I thought it was a fantasy story, but I will assume otherwise.
In my opinion this is extreme and she wants to 247 control every single aspect of your life. The kinky life style has its limits and it can't be that extreme. Just like play there are safe words to be used Read more… and if you want to have a relationship with such a person then you need to be able to speak and have your vanilla time as well as the dom/sub time. It can't be this way.
I can see that you are in a difficult situation, you are probably not satisfied and I think you are in trouble.
You need to plan your exist from this toxic situation. In my opinion exit and not adjustments.
But to move forward I would like you to ask yourself the following:
1-If you bring up any discussion regarding changing of the situation and have some level of freedom and not the current 100% slave situation, what would be her reaction? And are you even allowed, in her point of view, to bring this discussion up?
2-Never ever make a permanent change to your self (vasectomy)
3- I wonder if she has sex with other partners, cuckolding you or perhaps he inclination is towards women and that's why she is not interested in having sex.
4-Your financial situation, can you have your own bank account and your own salary deposited in it or will all hell break loose from just bringing this topic up?
5-Are you brainwashed by her current beauty and physique, because it will not last for other 5-10 years. Age will catch up with all and especially women. Check Chalize Theron and her current situation.
6-What if she ends this whole relationship, are you going to be a bankrupt sub?
Man I am concerned about this situation and the probable brainwashing that women can do but again I see this extreme and toxic just like the other comments.

I love long silky hair, preferred brunette.
I also love when it is in a neat bun, just the look of it turns me one while she is giving me a blowjob, while touching it.
I love the pulling hair during the intercourse itself, somehow it is more intimate.

In my opinion and based on what you said, you are not sure of what exactly you want or you don't have a clear definition of FWB whether with yourself or yourself and your partner. So that is the first thing that you need to address.
The second thing and to partially answer your question, FWB maybe Read more… negative on a point that wasn't covered in the previous comments, which is pair bonding. I guess after several encounters you develop some kind of attachment (or your partner to you) and with several FWB, this factor will (not may) affect having a long term relationship. So I would suggest that you read on pair bonding and how it affects men and women differently.

Yes I do think it is a fantasy.

I would encourage you to try it in real life to overcome the paranoia. A lot of things are different when experienced and expectations vary a lot.
For me I though having sessions with dominatrices would be nice but I was disappointed. And trust me I have tried several ones with different Read more… activities. So I guess it was a fantasy but not for me.

Could you please elaborate more.
For me I am interested in a Trans woman for her beauty and character just like any other woman with no interest in her penis (if we are talking about pre op). At the same time and I have to be honest, Trans woman has something different in building, voice and Read more… attitude; so there is for sure another aspect to it not sure what it is; so if you could elaborate more on your previous answer I would be thankful

I have the same question and by reading the comments I find that people are not accepting a simple question from your side.
I guess your question is simply how is it sleeping with a Trans and perhaps I may extend your question by why are you attracted to a trans since you are straight.
I had the Read more… same thought since I am interested in the person herself as well as her feminine beauty and never by the penis (we are talking about pre-op). Since a large number of Trans women (MTF) are pre op and straight men are not attracted to penises, you may get confused about your reason of attraction.
In my opinion you need to break down what you are exactly attracted to to understand yourself but don't have high hopes since myself I still have questions after sleeping with two different Trans women.

Same for me, it has to be a bit spontaneous and at the right moment. Like in a doggy position and at the right moment, I have a sensation of high and some kind of relief that time stops regardless of the intensity of pulling or the intercourse.