About me
Interested in:
I’m looking for:
- Friends
- Kinky Dates
- LTR (relationship)
- Events & Places
- BDSM Lovers
Description
I’m just a person looking for someone who will treat me like Belle: a princess in public, devoured in private (mostly). My heart tends to take up residence in my vagina so I have a hard time doing casual, but if the chemistry’s doing the thing, I’m totally cool with taking that L.
Limits
no or urine play, no vomit, no , no needles, and no knives. most of everything else is up for negotiation unless I’ve forgotten, in which case I’ll come back to edit!
My roles & archetype
My kinks & fetishes
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The Spicy Sads
This one made me feel very seen and validated. I’ve been struggling with the bare minimum for the past few days and I just keep trying to drown everything out, binge reading to get by. But honestly I can’t keep it up anymore and I feel like that 4 hour cry is gonna come around tonight. Thankfully Read more… I’m in a safe space and I know I won’t do anything to harm myself or anyone else, but I feel the pieces starting starting to crumble deep in my chest. I’m disappointed that this hit me when I was just starting to get somewhere within the vetting process, and I feel completely alone even if I know that’s not the case. So thank you for validating me💜
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The Spicy Sads
How do y’all deal with the spicy sads (depression) when you don’t want to talk to anyone and can’t make yourself do it (executive dysfunction), even if you know you’re ignoring a potential Dom you actually like?
LikeMagictounge1, Wanderlust235, SugarDddyand 73 more… · 30 Replies
Nocturne ➦Nocturne quote brattymindgames:❝I keep an open journal and often *** myself to write in it. Even if it’s just the highs and lows of my day. Every dom I’ve ever maintained a healthy relationship with has access to it — and it’s just a great way to check in on my mental health. And in all honesty, I Read more… think the last thing sir wants is me just crying on them for no reason.❞
That's a great way to deal with it, I wish more people would have such open communication in this regard to keep things clear. I personally also keep a journal, never shared it however, though I did note down relevant things to talk about in important relationships if I couldn't address it at that moment.
That's a great way to deal with it, I wish more people would have such open communication in this regard to keep things clear. I personally also keep a journal, never shared it however, though I did note down relevant things to talk about in important relationships if I couldn't address it at that moment.
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· 03.05.2023 18:14:04
brattymindgames I keep an open journal and often *** myself to write in it. Even if it’s just the highs and lows of my day. Every dom I’ve ever maintained a healthy relationship with has access to it — and it’s just a great way to check in on my mental health. And in all honesty, I think the last thing sir wants is me just crying on them for no reason. I keep an open journal and often *** myself to write in it. Even if it’s just the highs and lows of my day. Every dom I’ve ever maintained a healthy relationship with has access to it — and it’s just a great way to check in on my mental health. And in all honesty, I think the last thing sir wants is me just crying on them for no reason.
LikeNocturne, Yo-majesty, MRvc1963
· 03.05.2023 18:05:16
Deleted profile Op, when I was younger, the deeper I went into depression, the more I reached to virtual people instead of real person in my life, than, when I hit the bottom, while leaving in a different country, I stopped to reach anybody. Now, I too tend to disappear when I don't feel right.
One of the things Read more… that help, was seeing a therapist. I didn't have the *** to do it, so I went to a university to see a student in his last part of his doctorate. 35$ for an hour instead of 120$. It helps, a lot!
Another ressources I used, was a woman shelter. I know in Canada, some are for women victims of domestic ***, and some are just for women needing help.
About the executive dysfunction, I have it, my daughter have it too. My only advice is to do a list of things that need to be done. Add as much as you want. You can do a list of self-care too. Than when the day is too much, do what you can and skip the rest. It's an open list, not for the day, the week, etc. Just ok, I need to have my tax done, to do the dishes, wash my clothes, to eat.
Than at the end of the day... Hey I've eaten thrice today! That's good!
Or, ok, I add 3 things to the list and didn't do anything on it, that's ok, I'm still there to try again tomorrow.
Last thing, I rejoin a lot of people telling about being honest with the one you are talking too. When you feel you beginning to downside... Just tell the Dom, hey, by the way, if I disappear for a while, it will be because of myself and my mental health not because of anything that you've done. I will think of you on that time, but I won't be able to reach out.
I hoped I help you a bit. Take care of yourself, and begin the list of self-care, because when you'll need it, you won't be able to do it
One of the things Read more… that help, was seeing a therapist. I didn't have the *** to do it, so I went to a university to see a student in his last part of his doctorate. 35$ for an hour instead of 120$. It helps, a lot!
Another ressources I used, was a woman shelter. I know in Canada, some are for women victims of domestic ***, and some are just for women needing help.
About the executive dysfunction, I have it, my daughter have it too. My only advice is to do a list of things that need to be done. Add as much as you want. You can do a list of self-care too. Than when the day is too much, do what you can and skip the rest. It's an open list, not for the day, the week, etc. Just ok, I need to have my tax done, to do the dishes, wash my clothes, to eat.
Than at the end of the day... Hey I've eaten thrice today! That's good!
Or, ok, I add 3 things to the list and didn't do anything on it, that's ok, I'm still there to try again tomorrow.
Last thing, I rejoin a lot of people telling about being honest with the one you are talking too. When you feel you beginning to downside... Just tell the Dom, hey, by the way, if I disappear for a while, it will be because of myself and my mental health not because of anything that you've done. I will think of you on that time, but I won't be able to reach out.
I hoped I help you a bit. Take care of yourself, and begin the list of self-care, because when you'll need it, you won't be able to do it
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28.04.2023 18:40:11
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Muse with me: love language in the lifestyle
I love all these answers! Keep them coming!!
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Muse with me: love language in the lifestyle
Hi all, I was musing about this earlier and thought I’d like to get some feedback from the community. How does your love language play into your personal dynamics?
My love language is tied between quality time and gift giving. While I recognize this is probably a trauma response to childhood Read more…neglect, it’s pretty much the only way I’m comfortable expressing or receiving affection.
Have you ever been in a position where you feel like you might be accused of buying your D-type or S-type’s love? How do you go about expressing these concerns if you have them?
Additionally, how do you express your love language in a way that’s genuine? For example, with words of affirmation: anyone can call you beautiful, but how does a person say or hear that and feel the genuineness of the action? Does it all stem from the foundation of trust, or is there something else?
Excited to hear back from as many as possible ☺️
My love language is tied between quality time and gift giving. While I recognize this is probably a trauma response to childhood Read more…neglect, it’s pretty much the only way I’m comfortable expressing or receiving affection.
Have you ever been in a position where you feel like you might be accused of buying your D-type or S-type’s love? How do you go about expressing these concerns if you have them?
Additionally, how do you express your love language in a way that’s genuine? For example, with words of affirmation: anyone can call you beautiful, but how does a person say or hear that and feel the genuineness of the action? Does it all stem from the foundation of trust, or is there something else?
Excited to hear back from as many as possible ☺️
Nocturne Anyone can call someone beautiful, but when people make it personal, a particular characteristic of someone they truly like, it becomes something that feels genuine. When I look at the eyes of one person that I love, I feel like I truly soften in some way, telling them that will feel much more Read more… engaging than if I call them cute.
For love languages in general, I can value all of them, though I particularly often have a craving for physical touch, or quality time that doesn't feel surface level, and have difficulty accepting or at times even giving gifts; it gives me stress.
With words of affirmation, I enjoy explaining what I like about people, what they do well, and I find it to be important for me to hear what went well after a scene (as well as what can go better of course) for me to feel secure.
Quality time in a D/s dynamic might be doing a scene together, or simply having a deep discussion on the subject of needs, interests, preferences and curiosities. It's something I value.
Physical touch during a scene, when I inflict *** I like to give physical affection during cooldowns, reaffirm that I love them and ask whether they enjoyed it, whether they want more and such, and they can reaffirm that they are happy, and the touch can make feel us both even more at ease. But I also enjoy it as a way to take control, pulling them close, or guiding them in some way.
Gift giving is something I don't have much connection to, personally. I don't think it's buying affection, though financial stress is something that has affected me enough for me to have difficulty with people spending *** on me.
Acts of service, as a service Dom, I love to know I'm making my sub enjoy a scene, that I'm helping them meet their needs and fantasies, and when they focus on what I enjoy, I can feel particularly loved as well.
For love languages in general, I can value all of them, though I particularly often have a craving for physical touch, or quality time that doesn't feel surface level, and have difficulty accepting or at times even giving gifts; it gives me stress.
With words of affirmation, I enjoy explaining what I like about people, what they do well, and I find it to be important for me to hear what went well after a scene (as well as what can go better of course) for me to feel secure.
Quality time in a D/s dynamic might be doing a scene together, or simply having a deep discussion on the subject of needs, interests, preferences and curiosities. It's something I value.
Physical touch during a scene, when I inflict *** I like to give physical affection during cooldowns, reaffirm that I love them and ask whether they enjoyed it, whether they want more and such, and they can reaffirm that they are happy, and the touch can make feel us both even more at ease. But I also enjoy it as a way to take control, pulling them close, or guiding them in some way.
Gift giving is something I don't have much connection to, personally. I don't think it's buying affection, though financial stress is something that has affected me enough for me to have difficulty with people spending *** on me.
Acts of service, as a service Dom, I love to know I'm making my sub enjoy a scene, that I'm helping them meet their needs and fantasies, and when they focus on what I enjoy, I can feel particularly loved as well.
Likedoubletrouble129, funsized_ang
· 22.04.2023 15:22:20
funsized_ang I love all these answers! Keep them coming!! I love all these answers! Keep them coming!!
Likedoubletrouble129
· 22.04.2023 4:39:30
doubletrouble129 Meeting the needs of my sub is not a problem for me or performing their love language. It's meeting my love language needs of acts of service. This connects me mentally to you which is why I have uniforms and nurses fetishes because I pretty much know if they got into that profession then it's some Read more… care for people in there. The sub will think it's acts of service to me, no it's to others that turn me on. Want your pussy ate, go feed the homeless and watch how fast it happens 🤷🏾♂️ you want some attention or punishment not hold the door for an elderly and watch what happens next. Simple to me, hard for others to figure out even after cheating for them and telling them this rather then them figuring it out on their own. Keep your gifts, donate *** coats and watch me jack rabbit you 🤣
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· 21.04.2023 19:30:21
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What's your jam right now?
Strangely enough, I’ve had In The Heights stuck in my head for weeks!
LikeGymfreak69, MrMako ·
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I’m just a person looking for someone who will treat me like Belle: a princess in public, devoured in private (mostly). My heart tends to take up residence in my vagina so I have a hard time doing casual, but if the chemistry’s doing the thing, I’m totally cool with taking that L.
no or urine play, no vomit, no , no needles, and no knives. most of everything else is up for negotiation unless I’ve forgotten, in which case I’ll come back to edit!
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