While the ratio of m to f is higher and it appears that it is easier, I would say the actual relality is that woman still have to wade through alot of men to find a decent one. Thus balancing the ratio out.

Beautiful writing x

Again I will go back to the importance of taking things slowly (for all involved). Triggers will happen, however long you have been together, how you manage them is the key. A Dom can't be expected to know all triggers and they will only know what a sub tells them. How a Dom responds to triggers Read more… though is important, they need to acknowledge and reassure the sub without judgement . Trust comes with time. Imo both rushed in.

What matters now is what you take forward from this experience,learn from it and grow.

Reading this it appears that both of you have rushed in to play. Ruff play is subjective and we all like different levels and at different times. Take time out and reflect on her comments. If you are still seeing each other site down and communicate ,how to address this. It is important to start Read more… slow and build up to theses things.

Imo anyone using the term true sub or Dom for that matter is using manipulation techniques to get what they want . As @John54, points put be your true self