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Let's face facts, men are generally selfish creatures who take, take, take. And that's vanilla men! Add Dominant to the mix and the selfishness goes Godzilla.

Personally, i would classify myself as a hard Dom, a sadist who likes taboo and extreme.

However, my ego isn't as fragile as the majority Read more… of men/Doms. If I had a sub/slave, I would actively encourage her to tell me her fantasies and generally what gets her juices flying.

For me it's not even a debate. I'm not saying that there's a rule book and all Dominants should follow the same rules, etc, but any Dominant/Domme worth their salt should be aware of their submissive's/slaves fantasies and what makes them tick.

Communication is a cornerstone of any healthy relationship. It isn't difficult to listen.

As long as trust and boundaries (if there are any) are firmly established and there's absolute consent, it's perfectly fine.

Consent and trust are unbreakable requisites in all parts of BDMS.

If you think that's frustrating, try being a sapiosexual in what must be one of the most stupid eras of mankind: people are so bereft of patience that there's "short videos" online, as they have no attention. People prefer IM to ***s because they can't put a dozen words together. There's the POTUS Read more… who has started a war with the sole intention of driving up oil prices so that his family can get wealthier.

Not even mentioning what humans are doing to the Earth. As well as essentially teaching AI to be sentient and eventually take over.

So yes, being a sapiosexual in these times is a challenge. Humans ponder whether or not there's intelligent life on other planets, I ponder whether or not there's intelligent life on Earth.

I'm a demisexual and a sapiosexual, so imagine how hard it is for me! ;)

This is why communication is so important.

If a submissive/slave, etc, has a predisposition to crying then their Dominant/Domme must be aware of it. If that isn't the case, if it comes as a surprise, it would be a deep concern.

Everything should be discussed beforehand, as well as consent given. Read more… Boundaries and limits and habits should be known by all parties.

Personally, it turns me on. My sadistic side comes out. I love it.

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Do you share you thoughts?

It really depends on who the sharee is. But yes, I'm not against sharing my thoughts with an interested and inquisitive person. They must ask politely, Read more… though.

I've written a fair few words on my profile as to whet the appetite of a potential suitor.

Yes. The more extreme and more taboo, the more it'll turn me on and the more my Dominant side will come out.

It confuses me more than anything else.

Recently I browsed an AI photograph of a woman with fire in her eyes.

Fair enough, but that person has to be aware that whomever she meets will expect her eyes to be all flamey. If they aren't, that person is well within their rights to be ***ed. :p

It's Read more… awful. If you want to change something about you and alter your appearance (without going the cosmetic route) then that's cool. Just don't upload it to a site where people are trying to meet people, as it's misrepresentation and it's false advertising.

Would I ban them? No. As long as it's done in moderation and that person has uploaded untouched photographs. It can be a wee bit of fun.

I'm a sapiosexual, so I would rather cast my ire towards people with empty profiles or even ones containing a few lines.

What possesses a person to leave their profile blank? Some people need mental stimulation. Besides, who would inituate contact because of a few photographs? I certainly wouldn't.

Anyway. I've gotten sidetracked...

Yes, honesty and transparency is the only way that a relationship can grow.

Time is essentially the key. The more time you dedicate to a person, their true selves will come out, for bettee or for worse. If a person is lying to you (concealing a type of lie) it'll come out.

That's why I like to Read more… know all their is to me about a someone. It's a brand of conditioning; when a person opens up, even about things, even the most mundane thing, it becomes second nature.

Time is the most precious thing you can dedicate to a person. You would be surprised how much people appreciate when you dedicate time to them. Sadly, these days, Snapchat and instant messaging has replaced ***s.