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Top occasional switch looking for LTR leading to eventual 24/7 D/s dynamic. very much enjoying training but my sub is required to be intelligent, can hold a conversation outside of D/s with their own view points and interests. I am not looking for a doormat!
inside of D/s I have many interests, in particular bondage, spanking and CNC but for specifics we should get to know each other first.
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Hard limits:
Extreme pain
Scat and water sports
Knifeplay
scarification
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Extreme pain
Scat and water sports
Knifeplay
scarification
inside of D/s I have many interests, in Read more… particular bondage, spanking and CNC but for specifics we should get to know each other first.
Extreme pain (I am only marginally masochistic)
Scat
Knifeplay
Hey - as far as I know, healthy. Very regular (which helped to plan for being clean etc) going to the toilet does not hurt at all and we used a whole lot of lube. We decided we are going to try something much smaller next week and see how that goes. She much prefers the strapless variety as being Read more… attached and feeling like it’s actually her cock, so we may looks for recommendations on harnesses that will give her a similar feeling but we can change the size of the dildo part.
Ok so.. I know I don’t actually need to shit cos I’m clean having properly douched. It just feels like i need to and I’m guessing from some peoples reactions that this is not normal? With regards to having pain, I can say it’s like a very sharp pain that if pressure continues to be exerted Read more… something is going to tear type pain, not discomfort. Does not feel like something I should be trying to push through
Myself and my Domme are both really keen on pegging and both of us are new to it. I have followed lots of the Read more…excellent advice on other threads about cleanliness and taking things slow but after todays play session I am a little frustrated. Putting it simply I have 2 problems… anything other than a small toy (I mean really small) and it just hurts and we of course stop.. this makes a strapon pretty much impossible and the second problem I have is that when I have anything in there, the sensation is that… well, I need to go which is really off putting and makes me very self conscious. Should we be just trying smaller toys or a beginners pegging set? She is very into the strapless variety and whilst it is not particularly big, I just see no hope of it going I’m on without it just hurting and I am a bit dejected after a couple of failed attempts. Also… for those more experienced with anal… does that feeling of needing to go ever subside? Any tips or help for either of us greatly appreciated
But, the hurting is the Read more… problem
Are you using enough lube?
If you don't think this is the problem - then - anal train outside of pegging. the beginners kits are simple and to the point - try masturbating with a small dildo or butt plug - try also to leave in butt plugs for extended time. It helps both get you used to the sensation and stretch you. ❞
Totally agree on the latter. First do solo anal play, before trying this with a partner. That way youre more in control about what happens and learn about what feels good up there. That might helps to relax a bit more and to communicate what you like to your partner.
Next, and this sounds gross and weird, but hear me out. Look at the size of your stool the next time you defecate. That's a Read more… pretty good indication of what you can take comfortably.
Are you pushing, like when you have a bowel movement, during insertion? You should be.
Practice, practice and more practice. Get accustomed to taking your small toys for extended periods. When you switch to a bigger toy and it hurts, stop. Take it out, and relube. Breathe. Then slowly insert again. Muscle memory is vital with the anus. The more often you have something in your ass, the more likely you are to do it painlessly.
Finally, buy the best toys you can afford. It's your ass! Modern real feel dildos come in a plethora of shapes and sizes. And the difference between those and a $4 plastic dong you bought off Wish is significant.
