A dominant has to be worthy of your trust. Through this site and others like it, you will be able to find the person who is your complement in the dynamic. As a dom myself, I have three principles which I share, Namely:
1)You and I are equals except when, through discussion, we agree on those Read more… areas where I take the lead and control. It is important to remain equals outside of that so that you can set your boundaries and give truthful feedback.
2) Nothing will happen between us until we have had one or preferably several purely social dates somewhere public and safe, say a nice cafe where we can chat over our hopes, expectations , doubts, fantasies , dislikes and limits.In doing so, hopefully , we will build a rapport together and be easy in each other's company.
3)Honest, open communication at a high level is important. How can we ever learn to read one another, anticipating each other's desires and needs unless you can tell one another openly if you disliked or enjoyed something. That way, the dynamic will evolve; either remaining as friends or develop into a mutually loving, fulfilling and enduring relationship.
Cut your losses, think about what you want and move on.