About me
Interested in:
I’m looking for:
- LTR (relationship)
Description
Welcome to my corner ? I am 5ft 6. Size 14 UK clothing UK, feet 41. more importantly, I am a pretty decent, kind, smart, funny human. I don’t send pics or videos. Like me or don’t, just add to my life.
I am a professional, a mother and human with the demi submissive cuckquean under pinning all of those. I am busy. I am NOT as confident as I seem, however I do have self esteem and self belief. I have a very active professional profile on FetLife too as TheKinkShrink, you can follow me there :-) I dislike Debbie, prefer Deb, Debs, Deborah.
I am not here to chat or make friends as such. Apologies if that offends and no point reaching out for a chat. Bad approaches are fodder to share anonymously as my professional persona on FetLife, 'TheKinkShrink' so be warned.
I have had a lot of good and bad experiences and learnt a lot over 42 years in kink, I am always open to learning more. However, the likelihood of me finding someone is low and I am happy as me and you'd have to add to my life as I will yours ? Please be age appropriate, 8yrs either side tops!
As I said, I am a demi submissive cuckquean. That means I am monogamish emotionally and sometimes may join in with the others he plays and sleeps with, and maybe have no connection, tis a spectrum and his choice. However if we are monogamous I like comparison and that can be done with stories, not meeting others. Connection is what matters, the ability to communicate, I will not tolerate lies, manipulation etc. A second chance is rare, that'll depend on how you handle it, a third doesn't exist. I need to feel cared for, respected and at times a little aware of the power exchange, this is a great mix for me. I do not and will never want a sub, please stop trying to convert me.
I am caring, loving, loyal, affectionate, submissive, naturally servile, smart and funny, there as a sounding board. I am also his worthless whore, a cum dump, worthy of humiliation and to hear how much he enjoys his others (IF he wants any, as just us is good too). I am more of an emotional masochist than physical nowadays and wonder if I have faded into vanilla. I hate dressing up of all kinds and heels. Really isn’t me and that won’t change. Not interested in public, outdoors, illegal, non consensual or involving people that don’t consent it’s between us. I will not do anything that puts me on the sex offenders register or that will lose me my work.
Yes I have had chemo and that has impacted me physically around right breast play (lumpectomy) anal (rarely an option) and right side, so also no smokers. Hate biting and pinching too! No more choking out either and I welcome impact thuds n hurts. I know, demanding eh?
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Him
He will have control, slowly over time as trust and care develop. He will have my back, is my strength and my wise one to go to and share with. He will make me smile and I am content. He will lead me spiritually, intellectually and emotionally as I am his. He sees the girl who wants love, respect, support, tenderness, compassion and care and also the worthless whore who needs using, humiliating and respects the woman I am, as I respect the man he is. He is emotionally intelligent and can step up to be with me. Romance x I offer all I want too x
Yachad in Hebrew, means together. When used for two people, it signifies their action of becoming one, not a static or passive unity. Control and manipulation are not dominance, it is a mutual and reciprocal dance. This is fundamental to me as I choose to follow his lead in this dance.
He will be a natural leader, my mate, partner, soul mate, confidante, Sir, Daddy, Master, Top, King, Liege. He is also vulnerable, present, caring and can lean on me too. He is experienced in life and closer to my age and reflective, emotionally articulate. I offer what I want too, to you, for you.
Emotionally I am very stable and offer equality to gain authority.
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If you want to know more about me:
I am rare in my personality type in that I am an INFJ, this is me:
People use words like articulate, wise, caring, intelligent, generous, however that's relative so please make your own mind up. I want to think I am self reflective and emotionally literate but I screw that up at times. I am an ambivert, I prefer home, family, a film and a musical.
Life is great, precious and worked for and I reciprocate what is given, I tend to respond and follow vs lead. My sex and play drive are reactive.
I am not keen on being bitten, so not so primal. Pinching nope too. If you hate women move on.
I love the sea, holidays in the sun, to read (real books), theatre, OMG a musical, science fantasy, la prairie face cream, a mulberry bag, films, singing, singing well I'll have you know, my 3 dogs and two cats, to cook for and look after others and so importantly my family, those I love.
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Stroking my face is as important as slapping it
Holding me is as important as holding me down
Protecting me is as important as endangering me
Bruising my heart is as important as bruising my body
Respecting me is as important as humiliating me
Spoiling me is as important as ruining me
Loving me is as important as fucking her (or the fantasy)
Caring for me is as important as humiliating me
Saying I love you is as important as calling me a whore
Looking after me is as important as using me
Holding my hand is as important as grabbing me
Kissing me is as important as brutally fucking me
Valuing me is as important as devaluing me
Respecting my rights is as important as respecting them
My mind is as important as my body
My emotions are as important as your disdain
Asking about me is as important as telling me about you
The psychological is as important as the physical (if not more)
He knows these things and attempts to get them right (eventually)
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With love and respect
Limits
scat children biting pinching anything that impacts my family & work.
My roles & archetype
My kinks & fetishes
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I am a professional, a mother and human with the demi submissive cuckquean under pinning all Read more… of those. I am busy. I am NOT as confident as I seem, however I do have self esteem and self belief. I have a very active professional profile on FetLife too as TheKinkShrink, you can follow me there :-) I dislike Debbie, prefer Deb, Debs, Deborah.
I am not here to chat or make friends as such. Apologies if that offends and no point reaching out for a chat. Bad approaches are fodder to share anonymously as my professional persona on FetLife, 'TheKinkShrink' so be warned.
I have had a lot of good and bad experiences and learnt a lot over 42 years in kink, I am always open to learning more. However, the likelihood of me finding someone is low and I am happy as me and you'd have to add to my life as I will yours ? Please be age appropriate, 8yrs either side tops!
As I said, I am a demi submissive cuckquean. That means I am monogamish emotionally and sometimes may join in with the others he plays and sleeps with, and maybe have no connection, tis a spectrum and his choice. However if we are monogamous I like comparison and that can be done with stories, not meeting others. Connection is what matters, the ability to communicate, I will not tolerate lies, manipulation etc. A second chance is rare, that'll depend on how you handle it, a third doesn't exist. I need to feel cared for, respected and at times a little aware of the power exchange, this is a great mix for me. I do not and will never want a sub, please stop trying to convert me.
I am caring, loving, loyal, affectionate, submissive, naturally servile, smart and funny, there as a sounding board. I am also his worthless whore, a cum dump, worthy of humiliation and to hear how much he enjoys his others (IF he wants any, as just us is good too). I am more of an emotional masochist than physical nowadays and wonder if I have faded into vanilla. I hate dressing up of all kinds and heels. Really isn’t me and that won’t change. Not interested in public, outdoors, illegal, non consensual or involving people that don’t consent it’s between us. I will not do anything that puts me on the sex offenders register or that will lose me my work.
Yes I have had chemo and that has impacted me physically around right breast play (lumpectomy) anal (rarely an option) and right side, so also no smokers. Hate biting and pinching too! No more choking out either and I welcome impact thuds n hurts. I know, demanding eh?
✿ ✿✿ ✿✿ ✿✿ ✿✿ ✿
Him
He will have control, slowly over time as trust and care develop. He will have my back, is my strength and my wise one to go to and share with. He will make me smile and I am content. He will lead me spiritually, intellectually and emotionally as I am his. He sees the girl who wants love, respect, support, tenderness, compassion and care and also the worthless whore who needs using, humiliating and respects the woman I am, as I respect the man he is. He is emotionally intelligent and can step up to be with me. Romance x I offer all I want too x
Yachad in Hebrew, means together. When used for two people, it signifies their action of becoming one, not a static or passive unity. Control and manipulation are not dominance, it is a mutual and reciprocal dance. This is fundamental to me as I choose to follow his lead in this dance.
He will be a natural leader, my mate, partner, soul mate, confidante, Sir, Daddy, Master, Top, King, Liege. He is also vulnerable, present, caring and can lean on me too. He is experienced in life and closer to my age and reflective, emotionally articulate. I offer what I want too, to you, for you.
Emotionally I am very stable and offer equality to gain authority.
✿ ✿✿ ✿✿ ✿✿ ✿✿ ✿
If you want to know more about me:
I am rare in my personality type in that I am an INFJ, this is me:
People use words like articulate, wise, caring, intelligent, generous, however that's relative so please make your own mind up. I want to think I am self reflective and emotionally literate but I screw that up at times. I am an ambivert, I prefer home, family, a film and a musical.
Life is great, precious and worked for and I reciprocate what is given, I tend to respond and follow vs lead. My sex and play drive are reactive.
I am not keen on being bitten, so not so primal. Pinching nope too. If you hate women move on.
I love the sea, holidays in the sun, to read (real books), theatre, OMG a musical, science fantasy, la prairie face cream, a mulberry bag, films, singing, singing well I'll have you know, my 3 dogs and two cats, to cook for and look after others and so importantly my family, those I love.
..)/..____..)/..____..)/..____..)/..____..)/..____..)/..
¯¯¯¯””/(”¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯””/(”¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯””/(”¯¯¯¯¯¯¯””/(”¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯””/(”¯¯¯¯¯¯¯””/(”¯¯¯
Stroking my face is as important as slapping it
Holding me is as important as holding me down
Protecting me is as important as endangering me
Bruising my heart is as important as bruising my body
Respecting me is as important as humiliating me
Spoiling me is as important as ruining me
Loving me is as important as fucking her (or the fantasy)
Caring for me is as important as humiliating me
Saying I love you is as important as calling me a whore
Looking after me is as important as using me
Holding my hand is as important as grabbing me
Kissing me is as important as brutally fucking me
Valuing me is as important as devaluing me
Respecting my rights is as important as respecting them
My mind is as important as my body
My emotions are as important as your disdain
Asking about me is as important as telling me about you
The psychological is as important as the physical (if not more)
He knows these things and attempts to get them right (eventually)
..)/..____..)/..____..)/..____..)/..____..)/..____..)/..
¯¯¯¯””/(”¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯””/(”¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯””/(”¯¯¯¯¯¯¯””/(”¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯””/(”¯¯¯¯¯¯¯””/(”¯¯¯
With love and respect
This is for you, this is for your good et cetera.
I had the classic DM last night of would you like to watch me come for you? For me.
Doesn’t even really make sense does it because it isn’t for me at all, it is 100% for you. And would I ‘like’ it? I mean, I get that Read more…some people may do so, personally I’d be as bored as hell and see nothing in it for me at all.
Some tasks in authority transference, although couched with ‘for me’ , will never be for me, and within that relationship that can be good enough as you please, as you care, as you like being told what to do. I would also rather hear that it isn’t for me, but it is completely about you because that’s the point isn’t it? Sometimes?
Of course, over time, just giving becomes draining and actually for many without that complete slave persona, also creates resentment.
I often see life and authority transference like a bank account, through necessity you may have to live in an overdraft, however long term that is not healthy and you never gain any interest. I often wonder when somebody starts very aggressively about them where this would potentially end up, as let’s face it, people get worse, rarely better if they start selfishly. There is a huge difference between dominant and selfish/arrogant.
I think it is really important at times to ask yourself, when somebody says would you like to, would you really like to? Do you want this? Who is it for? What’s the cost of this in time or emotions? Often, we do not realise until too late that we are empty, that we are not being refuelled, nor asking for what we need, let alone what we want, which is a pretty toxic trait as a people pleaser. Resentment builds, and we can end up on the drama triangle, blaming the other person, feeling like a victim and whilst they did have a lot to do with it, actually so do we.
It was a tradition, and still can be, that a father is asked for his daughters hand in marriage, I am not here to discuss the rights and wrongs of that and want to take one small part of it as often in that moment, intent is mentioned. Intent is a bloody good word. To understand your own and to understand somebody else’s and work out if we are on a similar trajectory can be really beneficial.
For you can be sexy words, for me, can be sexy words, for us? Well that’s as sexy as fuck when your intent is aligned. Whether for a moment or a lifetime.
Seeing life as a bank account! I'm fucked!! Well put. As for 'for you' etc, isn't that sorted with knowing boundaries and safe words. By all means talk, not asking them before if they'd like it ... Find out! Stopping to have a self gratifying wank is boring, the Dom shud either have better ideas or some self control. Yes we need release, but find a better moment. Better to play with the slave, there's a point to pleasurable pain! And that's 'for both'
Seeing life as a bank account! I'm fucked!!
57 miles on the clock, fair few passengers
Sumptuous yet exciting ride
Seats recline at the touch of a button, getting them back up takes longer nowadays
Horn as standard, still loud and proud
Prefers the harsher slap of a mechanical car wash yet still waxed regularly
Spare tyres as standard
Recharges well, however if you have no power to give, meh
Accelerates rapidly when turned on
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