A little about Me....hmmm
Been a Dom for 27 years and have had both online and r/l experience. Like being direct and expect the same from those I meet. If you can't set a standard and keep it? Why present it off the cuff?
I can be laid back and geeky as hell, harsh and demanding and then soft as required when the time comes. Adaptive behaviour is what keep Uus on the proper path agreed? Every coupling is different because each soul is.
Want to know anything? Ask away. I am an open book.
Let's chat people!
Behold the Lord with the mystical voice of command!
See as as he quietly speaks the words of the spirit and soul to those who seek to gain knowledge and wisdom. How their bodies cease to be their own and He makes them experience sensations and movement they never have encountered before!
How they Read more… lose control in His presence and their body reacts to Him instead of what they wish. A simple word and gesture will feel like lighting across the skin and limits they thought they possessed are far exceeded.
Behold the tool He used to play His trade and how a mere glance can move more than should he allowed.
Is it magic? Is it psychic? Is it science? Only by viewing His work or opening up your mind to the unknown world of His command will you discover the secrets of your very innards depths.
Come see the Lord with the mystical voice.. if you dare.
This is amazing to see. People doing research and looking before they leap. I have been a Dom almost 3 decades and can see the harm done by those who 50 Shade it with no real clue of how it is.
Read, ask, explore, discover and way and what makes you tick. I began at a young age and was so green I Read more… pissed grass. It took a long time to become the man I am today. And still I evolve.
Any questions you have feel free to fire them My way and I shall answer as truthfully as possible.
Safe, sane, consentual...
I will say to you as I say to everyone that asks.
There are three pillars to any relationship vanilla or otherwise...
Trust. Respect. Communication.
If you feel unsafe or need more time, there is ZERO things wrong with taking it. Trust is earned. Respect for how You/you both feel is taken into Read more… account. He may have reservations as much as you but how is O/one to know unless O/one Communicates?
If any Dom demands you to call Him sir after five minutes. If he bullies you or tries to guilt you. If he doesn't listen and can't EARN your submission. Then leave him behind and don't look back. he is a pseudo-Dom. A fake. A wannabe or an abusive asshat and beneath you.
The stronger the woman, the greater the gift when she chooses to kneel and offer herself to you. she can't be forced and that makes it all the more precious. she wants you to have it above all others.
Makes sense right?
When I have a sub I always offer her what is known as a "safe zone". In this she can admit or express anything she wishes with the knowledge it will be heard and listened to without judgement. By doing this, trust is built and what may have been a fear before could turn into a joint venture or one Read more… of the parties expressing their desire or not to go down such a path.
I have said it before but communication is key. What if one is losing out because the other fears expressing to? The moment communication stops the relationship be it vanilla or otherwise will fall.
Find your way. A neutral zone or a safe place and external the trust of you need it in return.
Nothing in life is guaranteed, but what you fear Amy be one of the greatest things you ever experience. No risk no reward no gain.
The only advice I can give is this friend...
Three pillars support every relationship. Vanilla or otherwise. Take away one? It collapses.
she has placed a great amount of trust in you. But it goes both ways. If you are unsure about something? Trust her to be patient with you and express Read more… yourself. Trust yourself to be aware of the surroundings and any change in her behaviour (in or out of subspace) that might cause her her harm. Trust her to do the same and the bond will grow stronger.
Respect any boundaries discussed BEFORE a scene takes place. Respect her gift to you and nurture it. she in turn should respect the power she has given you. If there is a reason she is unable to do a scene or such, ask the reason why. I have seen many a fake wannabe push past and not respect the boundaries for their own need. I have helped many a sub rebuild after such encounters and trust Me it isn't pretty.
Respect goes beyond the bedroom, show your sub that you see her as strong and beautiful and if you show it publicly? It will show her you value her as more than a semen receptacle.
This one is incredibly important to Me. Communicate good and bad. How a scene is supposed to go before, communication can be non verbal during in some cases (hooded for example I have subs hold a little red ball. If they drop it? Equivalent to a safeword) communicate after. What you enjoyed what she did that pleased you or may have given you pause. Let her know all the good she brings out in you and ask the same from her. If you know what makes her tick? Then you can make her feel that she is heard and that is soooooo important to both Dom and sub.
Enjoy your newfound path, it's gonna be quite the journey.
The one thing I do recall being told as a young Dom was this....
There are connections you don't see from partners who have long separated. Do not speak ill of anyone and listen. Then before you act, listen some more. Common sense will enhance the outing and idiocy will get you blackballed.