I'm new to the lifestyle and have been told I'm not a 'true sub' or recently I live in a fantasy. This does make you question yourself. I know who I am and what I'm looking for. I've been asked what I'm in to, but I can only give an idea of what I'd like to start with because I've not experienced Read more… anything. It's like I'm repeating myself as some Doms just don't seem to understand.

I've come across this via a comment that was made.
I'm a newbie sub and have been through mental health but I was honest with the dom I have been chatting with.
Yes it's difficult, even though it's talked about more it can still be hard for some people to know what to say or how to be supportive

I've been in contact with a dom on here for 2 months and we have a good strong connection.
We are building a relationship that is both vanilla and kink, the two can be together if both partners want the same.

I'm a newbie to bdsm. I've had failed vanilla relationships in the past and I came across kink some 18 months or so ago. It sparked something in me and so I started to read more and learn more. I knew i was on the right path for myself. I did the bdsm test and It put me as submissive with some Read more… brat.
I did join an online known dating site and I didn't put anything on about kink/bdsm. I had no one respond to any messages and no one contacted me. Which is quite disheartening.
I found a bdsm group on Facebook which is helpful and I joined here to see what was here. I read some of the forums and posts and comments on here.
I had a few messages when I first joined here asking me about what I was looking for in a dynamic and wanting to get to know me better. I did message back but then realised these men were only really after one thing. I changed my profile wording.
I have a few doms that messaged me and it's just general chatting / friendship and I have another dom I've been chatting to daily the last two months and we are building a good connection as a couple first before we delve into the kink side. I've been honest with him and he has respect for my honesty and that I have no experience.
So basically as others have said start with finding out who you are, research - there is a lot of info out there. Ask questions. It is a bit of a complicated journey. Get to know others on a friendship bases first.
Maybe join a dating site like eharmony or match.
I have been lucky to meet someone who loves me as me first and then our dynamic will develop.
Good luck I hope you find your right path