Hi there.
I am a masculine and muscular sub with a special interest in chastity.
I am seeking an outwardly normal relationship with an outwardly normal woman because I am a very normal guy, with abnormal (by society standards) interests.
Nothing crazy, dangerous or illegal. Just some good old fashioned kink. Mixed into a relatively conventional relationship.
I do have very normal, vanilla interests as well and seek a like minded woman.

I'm not a slave, not a sissy, not worthless, and not a loser. And not a cuckold, I am very monogamous.
I choose submission not because I am weak. But because I truly enjoy prioritizing the pleasure of my partner. And that really is me; submissive by choice.
Not by nature. My partner will enjoy a strong, confident, successful man who chooses to prioritize his partner's wishes, wants, needs and desires. Without being a spineless pushover.

I do not need micro management. I would much rather have someone tell me what they want, than give me orders. I prefer the opportunity to make my partner happy because I want to. Rather than because I was ordered to. Tell me what you want, and allow me to make it happen.
I seek someone who is comfortable communicating their wants and desires because my mind reading skills are amateur at best. Let's be real, I'm a man and my mind reading skills suck.

I love to please. Vanilla, kink, sexually. I prefer to please voluntarily. I believe it shows my motivation, whereas following orders just shows my ability to follow orders. Chastity is a way to show my motivation as well; I don't require dollar for dollar reciprocation while pleasing my partner. If denying my release pleases you, then it pleases me too.
I hope you see this is a good indication of my motivation and character, and not a sign of weakness.

My ideal relationship is committed, and long term. Real time, face to face. An in person relationship, and very monogamous. I'm a bit old fashioned and still believe in chivalry, manners and courtesy.

I don't play casually. I only play within a relationship. And developing that relationship has nothing in common with what is portrayed online and in porn. I will not give you the keys on the first date. There will be no pegging on the first date. Or anything else portrayed in the porn, fantasy version of this lifestyle.

My ideal relationship is realistic.
Kink when the mood strikes, with vanilla filling in all the gaps between kink. Realistic, comfortable, and mutually rewarding.
A collaboration. While deferring final say to my partner in vanilla life.
But 100% submissive in kink. And chastity woven into the relationship 24/7. You will always have the only say on when the cage comes off, IF the cage comes off. And how long in-between unlocking.
I have several stainless steel devices and a titanium one as well. I have a pa piercing that all my devices use to make them escape proof. You will have total control. My chastity is not just symbolic, it is very real. my hope is that my commitment would please my partner.

Chastity woven into vanilla life is very exciting. Wandering the aisles grocery shopping knowing the woman I am with has the key and the control, and no one around me has any idea that I am locked. It's just our secret. But we still can share knowing glances. An "accidental" cage check with your elbow while reaching for something. Chastity can be fun at almost any time, and any place.

I would love to meet someone who absolutely relishes that control. Who is perfectly comfortable being a cruel keyholder when the mood strikes. Just as she is fun loving or teasing. A strong, confident woman who is comfortable with her control and doesn't allow herself to feel guilty about getting what she wants. Taking what she wants. A sexually selfish, dominant woman is extremely exciting.

I have had trouble finding someone who is comfortable with and enjoys both side of the intensity spectrum. Someone who enjoys soft and sensual, as well as reasonably sadistic. Someone who can love the one she hurts. And hurt the one she loves. I am seeking that woman. not someone who WILL do things to me, but someone who WANTS to do things to me. if I wanted to go down that route, I could hire a pro and save myself a lot of trouble. but that's impersonal and not what I'm looking for.

I have many vanilla interests, movies, museums, music, etc. Physical activities, biking, hiking, tennis, racquetball, gym, etc. Am very open and easy going.
I lift weights 3 times a week, eat healthy most of the time, zero , drink very rarely. Not fanatical, but reasonable.

I am entirely comfortable with my desires. I don't require aftercare. I'm not using kink as an outlet for emotional problems. I am very stable emotionally. I don't need to be punished because that is all I deserve. I don't care for , or .
I prefer play to be fun. So should you.
Kink is not my therapy. I don't NEED kink, I enjoy it. I just truly enjoy a strong, confident woman. I love sensations. soft, erotic, sensual, teasing, firm, . I love it when someone uses their control to decide what, how, how much, and where I feel those sensations.
Some like to cook, some like to eat. Put those two different people together and you have a mutually beneficial situation.
I prefer the submissive side, and I seek someone who prefers the dominant side. Mutually beneficial.

I am very functional and very sexual. I do not use chastity to mask any physical issues. I love the control, and a woman who loves that control.
I am well versed in short term and long term denial. I am prepared for whatever you decide or desire.
For me, denial is not denial. It is extended anticipation, and extended arousal. I know some do not handle those well. I do. It is something I love.
If you are sexually selfish, without any guilt, we should talk. More so if you have fun with it. Fun is the recurring theme. someone who, with a smile, can see my desperation and say mine can wait, but yours can't.
In the upside down world of chastity, this is mutually beneficial. And I would hope my sacrifice is not seen as weakness, but dedication and devotion.

I am intelligent, creative and have a great sense of humor and a quick wit.
Am successful and have everything but I don't have someone to share life with. I'm not looking for a financial arrangement. I'm looking for a relationship. Not interested in cyber, virtual, video chat, or anything that isn't real and in-person.

I am only interested in peace and happiness.
I have zero time for drama. I don't want it, and I won't bring it.

I am a quality person, my wish is to improve someone's life, not complicate it.
I am not needy. Don't require constant attention. I do my best to be more fun than trouble. Adding, not subtracting.

I have a house in Palm Springs and a house in Big Bear Lake. I split my time between them based on the weather. So I don't have to deal with extreme heat or extreme snow. Best of both worlds.

If our interests don't align, I will respect your choice, as I would hope you would respect mine. I will never pursue anyone that is not a potential partner. So feel free to engage without risk or pressure.
I am well versed in all the scams. If that's what you're here for, you'll be wasting your time. You'd be better off with someone who hasn't heard them all before.

Until there is some commitment or understanding, I will speak to you not as a sub. Just a regular guy.
Don't hesitate to ask if you have any questions or need clarification.

dangerous activities. damaging activities. illegal activities.
Other than that, I am willing to discuss almost anything. I don't want to use limits as an attempt to control activities. I would rather trust my partner to read me and the situation.
If my behavior warrants a threat to cross into my "rather not" list, so be it. punishment is supposed to be punishment.
I have no interest in being bratty in order to bait my partner into delving into my "rather not" list.
I prefer life and play to be fun and rewarding.