Hi there,
I am seeking something very real. A realistic, mutually beneficial relationship. Pretty much the opposite of what is depicted in porn.
I am a masculine and muscular sub. I have chosen submission. A choice, not a default. A choice because I am attracted to, drawn to even, strong, confident women. I am not a sissy, not a loser, not worthless. (Why would you want someone that is worthless anyway?)
For me, this has nothing to do with supremacy. It is about understanding roles. It is about a lifelong preference for strong women.

Dominance isn't something you take, submission isn't something lost. Submission is offered, dominance is accepted. It is your choice to accept just as it is my choice to offer. This is realistic, consunsual, and ethical. Everything else is just nonsense depicted in porn.

I have regular vanilla interests along with kink interests. Realistic interests.
I love physical activities. I go to the gym several times a week. Biking, hiking. Tennis and other racquet sports. Regular things like movies, concerts, and museums. And I like to try and learn new things. Using my construction experience, I love to build things. Which comes in handy in both vanilla and kink settings.

As far as kink, safe/sane/consensual is key. Not interested in anything that would permanently scar or damage. Really not a fan of the ER, so would like to avoid it.
That said, safe and sane sadism is fun and exciting.
Chastity is a special interest of mine, and I seek someone who enjoys it as much as I do. Not just someone who will indulge me.
Chastity can be a kink that runs in the background during regular life. I seek someone who enjoys having that control. Who finds excitement knowing she has that control. Even during regular, mundane even, daily activities.
I don't share many of the cliches depicted online and in porn regarding chastity. I'm not a beta. Not a feminized, pussy free cuckold. I am very functional, and very sexual. Chastity is not a tool to hide any physical or emotional issues. I just really love the control. A woman who finds excitement in teasing her sub, and finds excitement in the control, is very exciting for me too. I don't require this control taken away from me because I am weak, or wrestling with my interest/kinks. Contrary, I am 100% comfortable with my interests. I hope you are as comfortable with your kinks as I am.
Be comfortable with your desires, be comfortable communicating them, enjoy them. Life is too short to be hesitant about your desires and interests.
All the bdsm basics are fun. Bondage, impact, etc. The more my partner enjoys something, the more I enjoy it.
If it's just perfunctory, or polite participation, I'm not interested. At all.
I could just hire a pro for that.

Not looking for a stereotypical dominatrix or mistress. And I'm not not looking for that. I am looking for a woman who enjoys the dominant side of kink as much as I enjoy the submissive side of kink.
A strong, confident woman who does not have to lead, but her strength and confidence inspires her partner to follow.

Basically looking for a traditional, committed relationship that is both vanilla and kink. I don't expect you to be in character all the time. Too much pressure.
I don't seek micromanagement, too much work for you. Not really interested in the flr rules you see in books. Not realistic.
What I seek, is someone who will give me the opportunity to learn what makes her happy, and allow me to make it happen.
That allows me to show that my actions are voluntary and sincere, rather than performing because I was ordered to do so.

Demisexual seems to apply to me. I don't feel sexual towards someone without an emotional connection. So I don't just jump into things and I am interested in personality first. Physical attraction is important of course, but I don't develop any attraction to appearance without some attraction to who you are.
Needless to say, my first interest is compatibility. Nothing else matters without it.

I am intelligent, great sense of humor and a quick wit. I am more muscular than most guys my age, and more muscular than many guys younger than me, but not cartoonish huge.
I am successful, ran my own construction company for many years until I sold it to be able to slow down. I made all the calls, bids, decisions and a lot of the work, but now I don't want that responsibility. I am still basically a blue collar guy. Down to earth, not ostentatious. Easy going, fun.
I have two homes, one is in Palm Springs and one is in Big Bear Lake. I can escape the heat and escape the snow. I'm not opposed to living somewhere else, and I have no problem sharing my homes with someone special.

Am seeking something mutually beneficial.
Something that we can both say improved our situations.
Not looking for an arrangement, casual, , being part of a stable, cuckold, etc.

I'm not a clinger. Feel free to contact me without worry. If we are not compatible, I will not pursue. I will never try to something. So feel free to engage, ask me anything. Honesty and communication are both very important.
Several activities and practices were mentioned, but not fully defined. That is better left for both parties to work out and define and agree on at a later date. Again, communication and honesty is very important here. I am open to negotiation and compromise, but not when it comes to core values. Neither party should compromise core values.
Please be comfortable expressing what you expect and want. I will never judge. The worst that can happen is that we decide we are not compatible.

I'm not asking for X amount of experience. Just that you are comfortable with your interests. I've had experience with someone who felt shame over her interests, and that just depressed two people instead of one. Please be comfortable. Guilt also brings both parties down. Again, please be comfortable. Everything is negotiated and consensual. If play is maintained within agreed boundaries, there is no need for guilt. Comfort and confidence is incredibly exciting. I would do everything possible on my end to help foster those qualities if you don't already possess them.
I wish for a fun, exciting, mutually beneficial relationship. Nothing less.

If you have any questions, feel free to ask.

dangerous activities. damaging activities. illegal activities.
Other than that, I am willing to discuss almost anything. I don't want to use limits as an attempt to control activities. I would rather trust my partner to read me and the situation.
If my behavior warrants a threat to cross into my "rather not" list, so be it. punishment is supposed to be punishment.
I have no interest in being bratty in order to bait my partner into delving into my "rather not" list.
I prefer life and play to be fun and rewarding.