I am relatively new to the scene. My last ex introduced me to the lifestyles, and we found comfort in ddlg. But we started getting intimate, she talks telling me to stop holding back and i just start letting loose. As I start to let loose i got more aggressive physically, and the next Read more…morning we had found a fair number of new bruises from that night. It actually felt really good to let loose like that; though at some point i didnt speak anymore i just growled and grunted as i was completely dominating; not going into much more detail. but I never got to let completely go on it, i was looking into the BDSM arch-type page and the primal hunter catagory seems to be the closest decription to. Now on to what i need advise about though, I enjoyed the ddlg lifestyle in day to day life, but in the bedroom how does the primal tie into it? and I am terrified if i let completely go with my next partner (when ever that may be at this point) that i might hurt them severly more than just bruising, and when i was letting go before i could feel the control over strength and force slip little by little as i gave into instinct and urge and desires. Is it normal like that when letting go? am I weird with that much control slipping? should i try to find a way to embrace it more? should i avoid it since strength control seems to slip when letting go? I am not sure on all this so I could use some advice.... if this is a strange train of thought i apologize.