First kudos for wanting to offer honesty in your relationship, it is remarkable.
Personally I don't think there are rules for personal disclosure. Sharing and allowing yourself to be *** is part of a process of deepening of a relationship so I would say that -when you feel comfortable - would be a Read more… good way to judge when it is the right time and then be clear on your intentions.
I know that I am still struggling with some of my past so there are things that trigger me that I , at one point, have to share to avoid setting myself off. I still can share it is a trigger without having to explain and disclose my history. Clear boundaries are acceptable and a good way to test your partner's genuine show of respect. From that respect comes the trust that will one day make you feel comfortable to share even if it is a request for support by withholding judgment. Wash-rinse-repeat it is a slow progressive process and you have to feel safe thru and thru.

At work I was in charge of a team and had to make very quick decisions. I had the knowledge but I felt I didn't deserve the authority.
So by exploring my dominant side, in the safe space of the scenes I learned that not only was I worthy of my authority because I knew how to earn the trust of my Read more… partner because I truly cared about them, but that I also enjoyed and could even get better at it.

Stop and take some time to be with yourself, to heal and discover yourself, your strength and areas of less strength.
If already when testing the water you feel confused, your brain is sending you the message that you are missing a step.
Maybe later on your path you will be able to include your Read more… new games in your journey of self growth ( and I can tell you how powerful it got) but when I started I was in a wrong mind frame and burnt myself, adding to the *** and trauma while hurting others.
Wait, the dungeon will still be there when you return.

As a recovering Roman catholic, even therapy was hard but step by step slowly opening up helped me. I also turned to buddhism to see what other ways there were to understand our relationship to sexuality.
Going to classes-webinars on positive sexuality, consent, kink etiquette and some munch and Read more… finding a supportive community of alike kinksters was my redemption 🤣

Check the 3 As and 3 Ls rules.
Admiration-Attraction-adoration and Lust-Labour-loyalty as the main drivers for working relationships. You need all 3 even just to start.

I am missing only one, the one between the spiky jello loop and the pumpkin (not the gold one) what is the riddle for that one please and thank you

The weird thing about ghosting is that it is not personal. Don't take it as an attack on your personality, flaw of character or something you said. It is an opportunity to red flag someone and save time, not bruise your ego.
With online relationships, most see someone through a pinhole, imagine, Read more… project your wishes and desires... it is only digital, a preliminary layer to developing an understanding of another person, so be grateful that person saved you some time.

Local munch, Glitch, Rascal... very clicky it's Vancouver after all.

"Beautiful women are invisible " it's not from me but I believe it echoes your dilemma. People get stuck in appearances and fail to really connect, to engage and commit themselves into their discovery. The scene, sexualities, personalities, kink communities become coded, shallow and hermetic.
Are Read more… there authentic people out there, I have met a few, not many but some good one. It just takes time and some luck!