100% its a responsibility. I can do so much long term damage to a sub under my care... if im not being responsible and ethical.

You are looking after someone who is at their ultimate in terms of vulnerability. Thsts not a control issue.. thats a trust and bond which carries massive weight. If you Read more… are not ready to carry it properly.. then dont accept it willingly

10000% a regular partner!
It takes time to properly learn ticks. One nighters just dont cut it.. its only surface deep and dont really carry much meaning.

I prefer the journey, rather than the pure INSTANT discovery. Its what makes it so much worthwhile- my opinion and no disrespect to those who Read more… prefer single konk dates

:1642515436,10, I think this comes down 2 things… in particular, I think male subs and newer male subs take time to understand service and what it really means… which is not a finding a fetish dispenser and the key word here is understand. I think the right approach to take is Read more… in those initial chats trying to establish if the prospective Domme has similar interests to the sub in their kinks. If they really don’t match then I would think the sub is gonna be tempted to, or inadvertently try topping from the bottom which I think many Dommes find deeply unattractive - I mean think about it, if you are dominant and basically you end up doing all the kinky fuckery your sub wants to do.. who is serving who? If you both find that your kinks do align somewhat, and you both want to take it further it is down to the sub (new or not) to lay out the boundaries and limits and when that happens, then just let things unfold... which I get is not so easy especially when you are new and you want to try everything, right now. The sub might have all the power in creating those boundaries and limits but ultimately, it’s not all about the sub after that point.
I hear what you say here. Just a side note to add on the sub, potentially topping from the bottom and tempted to top from the bottom:

I think its very relative. Honestly... I find it hot (as a dom). Not in a full on type of way...

The brattiness.. the aww.. you think im going to allow that do you?.. Think again.

Afterwards... sure... we discuss things like.. is that something you are looking to explore?

Yeah. This happens an awful lot. Its especially an issue when im wanting to find a bratty little. -> fantastic online and the best of clicks. In person its a different matter. Very closed.

As a protective dom it jarring, as ive invested lots of time (as i should) and now feel powerless to help Read more… this human who is a totally different person in front of me.

So frustrating, especially when I see huge potential.