Threesomes

Three's a crowd? Not!

Get the best out of a threesome

Probably the single topic most often raised in the magazine's agony column is threesomes. Whether they're your hottest fantasy, your weekly reality or something that you reckon would turn you right off, they're big news - and they certainly have plenty of fans!

The trick to finding a threesome is not to force it - these things happen naturally, and you're unlikely to be able to engineer a situation with a stranger or online that works out to your satisfaction. The trick to enjoying one, on the other hand, is to make sure everyone's feeling included and to try and spend roughly as much time 'giving' as you spend 'getting'. This is a good rule of thumb no matter what kind of sex you're having, but when there's more than one other person involved it can be hugely beneficial to give it some conscious thought!

What is a threesome?

They often say that three is a crowd but not in a threesome. Threesomes are three people of any gender or sexuality engaged in sex acts. It is a very common fantasy.

What is it really like to have a threesome?

You won’t know until you try! But it might not work like your perfect fantasy so remember to keep communicating all the time. It can be a really fun experience but there are ways a threesome can go wrong. Common issues are feeling left out, being too nervous to play and consent violations.

How do you make a threesome work for all involved?

Communicate! Talk beforehand about what you want to happen as well as soft and hard limits. Make sure you have safewords in place and safe actions if someone is going to be gagged. Have aftercare provisions in place too, so that everyone feels safe and cared for. The experience might not go completely to plan but if you’ve talked about things frankly and thoroughly you’re more likely to have a fun experience.

Can BDSM be incorporated into a threesome?

Of course. The dominant partner/s can take control and do the ordering about. There can be restraints involved or impact play. You can add in lots of kinky elements. Just make sure everyone is involved and knows their role.

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