Vanilla

Vanilla anyone?

Can you be vanilla and kinky?

Simply put, vanilla is the opposite of everything we're about here at Fetish.com. That doesn't mean it's a bad thing, though - quite the opposite! All kinds of sex are fantastic for the people who desire them, and the best way to run your sex life is exactly how you and your partners want to.

It's also important to bear in mind that just because someone has kinks and fetishes doesn't mean they never want good old vanilla sex. Sure, there are those amongst us who need a little kink all the while to keep it feeling good - but there are plenty more who crave a little vanilla every now and then and find the experience one that promotes intimacy and builds trust.

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Cruxdom

Cruxdom

Male (68)

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Santa Barbara, USA

Dexteradamas

Dexteradamas

Male (29)    174 cm, - kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, NSA (no strings...), LTR (relationship), Pic Exchange, Networking

Eastbourne, UK

Mattyy0099

Mattyy0099

Male (52)    181 cm, 95 kg

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Plymouth, UK

Eddi0185

Eddi0185

Male (34)    - cm, 90 kg

Friends, NSA (no strings...), Pic Exchange, Cybersex

Manchester, UK

Metalheadache

Metalheadache

Male (32)    185 cm, 85 kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, NSA (no strings...), LTR (relationship), Swingers, Pic Exchange, Cybersex, Events & Places, Networking

Unterschleißheim, Germany

masterforslave1

masterforslave1

Male (45)    170 cm, 98 kg

Kinky Dates, Friends, LTR (relationship)

Coventry, UK

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Bluerose

Bluerose

Woman (27)    162 cm, - kg

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Gravesend, UK

mistresshaley

mistresshaley

Woman (31)    52 cm, 54 kg

BDSM Lovers, LTR (relationship)

Crown Point, USA

Nickykj12

Nickykj12

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Dartford, UK

CuteAsSin

CuteAsSin

Woman (31)

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Todmorden, UK

Applecore

Applecore

Woman (31)    164 cm, 50 kg

Friends

Stockholm, Sweden

smilingbbw4u

smilingbbw4u

Woman (54)

BDSM Lovers, LTR (relationship)

Sierra Vista, USA

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Submissivesearch

Submissivesearch

Male/Woman (30/32)    180/160 cm, 85/- kg

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London, UK

Cpl78

Cpl78

Woman/Male (40/41)    168/183 cm, 60/73 kg

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Oslo, Norway

2Pigs4Tops

2Pigs4Tops

Male/Male (44/25)    173/181 cm, 89/63 kg

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Blackpool, UK

Gaustandsaki

Gaustandsaki

Woman/Male (27/29)    140/150 cm, -/- kg

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Mansfield, UK

DomCoupleLFDoll

DomCoupleLFDoll

Male/Woman (35/36)    177/152 cm, 124/74 kg

LTR (relationship), Kinky Dates, BDSM Lovers

Grants Pass, USA

kentkinky1

kentkinky1

Male/Woman (40/37)    200/175 cm, -/- kg

Kinky Dates, Friends, NSA (no strings...), Swingers, Pic Exchange, Cybersex

Canterbury, UK

What is vanilla sex?

Often called conventional or traditional sex, it’s basically all the sexy stuff you do that doesn’t count as kinky or part of a fetish.

Is vanilla sex boring?

Not necessarily! Sex is awesome, right? And sometimes you just want some straightforward shagging. Not everyone feels kinky all the time and that’s perfectly okay. Enjoying sexual touching, without power dynamics and pain can be just what you want sometimes.

Can you be kinky and have vanilla sex?

Sure, sometimes you want a complex scene with all kinds of psychological depth, power play and pain exchange. You want to get out all your toys and use them in fun, wicked ways. However some days you just want sex. It’s perfectly fine to be kinky and enjoy a bit of vanilla sex from time to time. Variety is the spice of life after all.

My partner is vanilla, I’m kinky, will we work out?

It’s down to your own, personal dynamic. Relationships are all about communication and you need to talk to your partner about the expectations you both have for sex and sexual interactions. It might be that your partner wants to try out some kinky things, you can explore those together! If not, it is your place to decide if vanilla sex is enough for you or not. There may be options for you to get your kink and fetish place elsewhere with a different play partner. You need to chat and work out what is best for you.

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    Kinky Dating25 to 50 years ● 50km around Belgium, Elsene

    Usual vanilla life is quite OK for me, but recently I discovered I have gentle feminine side hidden under masculine shell - I like to be crushed by...

    Kinky Dating25 to 45 years ● 100km around Netherlands, Amsterdam

    Not long got out of a vanilla relationship. I have been in and out for the kink lifestyle for 7ish years and I want to get back in.
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    Kinky Dating30 to 38 years ● 25km around UK, Egham

    found this lifestyle over a year ago and realised this is for me. Tried to do the "vanilla" dating but wasn't feeling it so i guess i'm stuck in th...

    Kinky Dating24 to 39 years ● 10km around UK, Widnes

    I am a submissive woman in my early 40's. My so is vanilla and not at all interested in exploring this lifestyle with me. Right now, I am looking...

    Kinky Dating35 to 50 years USA, Abilene

    I am looking to connect with people to attend events (vanilla as well as Ds) with and see where things go from there. I love going to music festiva...

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