Vanilla

Vanilla anyone?

Can you be vanilla and kinky?

Simply put, vanilla is the opposite of everything we're about here at Fetish.com. That doesn't mean it's a bad thing, though - quite the opposite! All kinds of sex are fantastic for the people who desire them, and the best way to run your sex life is exactly how you and your partners want to.

It's also important to bear in mind that just because someone has kinks and fetishes doesn't mean they never want good old vanilla sex. Sure, there are those amongst us who need a little kink all the while to keep it feeling good - but there are plenty more who crave a little vanilla every now and then and find the experience one that promotes intimacy and builds trust.

Kinky men into vanilla All men

Cruxdom

Cruxdom

Male (68)

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, NSA (no strings...), LTR (relationship), Swingers, Pic Exchange, Cybersex, Events & Places, Networking

Santa Barbara, USA

DanteReign

DanteReign

Male (20)    178 cm, 65 kg

BDSM Lovers, LTR (relationship), Cybersex

Basildon, UK

Dexteradamas

Dexteradamas

Male (28)    174 cm, - kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, NSA (no strings...), LTR (relationship), Pic Exchange, Networking

Eastbourne, UK

connorsullivan

connorsullivan

Male (42)    170 cm, - kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, NSA (no strings...), LTR (relationship), Swingers, Pic Exchange, Cybersex, Events & Places

Bristol, UK

Pussyworship4u

Pussyworship4u

Male (33)    168 cm, 198 kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, NSA (no strings...), LTR (relationship), Swingers, Cybersex, Events & Places

Haverstraw, USA

Cool86

Cool86

Male (32)    170 cm, 65 kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, NSA (no strings...), Swingers, Networking

Bath, UK

Kinky women into vanilla All women

jayjaysub

jayjaysub

Female (51)    167 cm, 85 kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, LTR (relationship), Events & Places, Networking

Wolverhampton, UK

CuteAsSin

CuteAsSin

Female (31)

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, LTR (relationship), Events & Places, Networking

Todmorden, UK

Bluerose

Bluerose

Female (27)    162 cm, - kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, LTR (relationship)

Gravesend, UK

BlueLotus

BlueLotus

Female (40)    175 cm, - kg

Friends, Pic Exchange, Cybersex

Detroit, USA

smilingbbw4u

smilingbbw4u

Female (54)

BDSM Lovers, LTR (relationship)

Sierra Vista, USA

Nickykj12

Nickykj12

Female (42)

Kinky Dates, LTR (relationship), Cybersex, Networking

Dartford, UK

Kinky couples into vanilla All couples

Cpl78

Cpl78

Female/Male (40/41)    168/183 cm, 60/73 kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, NSA (no strings...), Pic Exchange, Cybersex, Events & Places, Networking

Oslo, Norway

Gaustandsaki

Gaustandsaki

Female/Male (27/29)    140/150 cm, -/- kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, NSA (no strings...), LTR (relationship), Swingers, Cybersex, Networking

Mansfield, UK

2Pigs4Tops

2Pigs4Tops

Male/Male (44/25)    173/181 cm, 89/63 kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, NSA (no strings...), LTR (relationship), Swingers, Pic Exchange, Cybersex, Events & Places, Networking

Blackpool, UK

Submissivesearch

Submissivesearch

Male/Female (29/32)    180/160 cm, 85/- kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, NSA (no strings...), LTR (relationship), Pic Exchange, Cybersex, Events & Places, Networking

London, UK

DomCoupleLFDoll

DomCoupleLFDoll

Male/Female (35/36)    177/152 cm, 124/74 kg

LTR (relationship), Kinky Dates, BDSM Lovers

Grants Pass, USA

chaotic_couple

chaotic_couple

Female/Male (21/23)    106/- cm, 120/- kg

BDSM Lovers, Friends, LTR (relationship)

Brewer, USA

What is vanilla sex?

Often called conventional or traditional sex, it’s basically all the sexy stuff you do that doesn’t count as kinky or part of a fetish.

Is vanilla sex boring?

Not necessarily! Sex is awesome, right? And sometimes you just want some straightforward shagging. Not everyone feels kinky all the time and that’s perfectly okay. Enjoying sexual touching, without power dynamics and pain can be just what you want sometimes.

Can you be kinky and have vanilla sex?

Sure, sometimes you want a complex scene with all kinds of psychological depth, power play and pain exchange. You want to get out all your toys and use them in fun, wicked ways. However some days you just want sex. It’s perfectly fine to be kinky and enjoy a bit of vanilla sex from time to time. Variety is the spice of life after all.

My partner is vanilla, I’m kinky, will we work out?

It’s down to your own, personal dynamic. Relationships are all about communication and you need to talk to your partner about the expectations you both have for sex and sexual interactions. It might be that your partner wants to try out some kinky things, you can explore those together! If not, it is your place to decide if vanilla sex is enough for you or not. There may be options for you to get your kink and fetish place elsewhere with a different play partner. You need to chat and work out what is best for you.

Threads and discussions that include: Vanilla

  • My wife and I have been together for 6 years. We have at different times played with light bondage, spanking etc. We are now wanting to start a D/s lifestyle together. I'm not sure where to start or h ...
    • 9 replies
  • Hi everyone. Here's something that has sparked my curiosity. Since beginning to explore and make friends on sites like this, I've read profiles and chatted to several ladies (usually but not alwa ...
    • 11 replies
  • Am I right in thinking it's the tender side of sexual behaviour? If so, what counts as too far to come under that heading? As I'm fairly new here I think it is a good place to learn, I'm all for that. ...
    • 22 replies
      • 1
      • Like
  • Members looking for: Vanilla

    New dom seeking sub for vanilla and kink adventures - public exhibitionism, pda, beach trips, etc., car journeys where you are told what to wear/no...

    Kinky Dating24 to 57 years UK, Hemel Hempstead

    I'm single and looking for a relationship with a guy who wants to be a cuckold. I'd like us to appear fully vanilla in public and keep our special ...

    Kinky Dating35 to 50 years ● 50km around UK, Milton Keynes

    Recently divorced women even though our vanilla sex life was great. Although we were practicing nudists, went to swing clubs on occasion and have b...

    Kinky Dating21 to 60 years ● 100km around USA, New York

    I am hoping to find a Mistress who is looking for a Slave.I have lead an vanilla lifestyle all my life and now I have the chance to try and enter t...

    Kinky Dating30 to 55 years ● 50km around UK, Scarborough

    I’m interested in a female-led relationship with a pretty, polite, service-oriented guy.
    Here’s the thing—sexually speaking, I am vanilla as fuck....

    Kinky Dating25 to 40 years ● 25km around USA, Austin

    I'm at a pint in my life were I'm getting fed up with vanilla dating and want to further explore the world of BDSM/fetish/kink.

    Looking for some...

    Kinky Dating20 to 50 years ● 50km around UK, Portsmouth

    Similar fetishes and kinks to Vanilla

    BDSM
    There's more than one 'official' definition of what the letters in BDSM stand for, and plenty of people don't agree on their exact usage! However you use the term, though, it's a catch-...
    Breast Fetish
    Let's face it, folks: breasts are pretty great. Almost everyone who is sexually attracted to women has a fondness for them, and plenty of other people besides can enjoy looking at them ...
    Butts
    A lot of kinks seems to focus on the butt. Our rear ends are spanked, bitten, licked, worshipped and fucked - and that's just the foreplay! Asses are an erogenous zone for many, and a m...
    Pinching
    Pain and sensation come in many forms, and not all of them require strength or finesse. Much like biting, it can be surprisingly easy to control and inflict pain on a willing victim sim...
    By continuing to browse, you accept the use of Cookies to enhance and personalise your experience.