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Personal details

Gender Man
Age 53
Status Single
Height 180cm
Weight 126kg
Body shape Curvy
Eye colour Brown
Hair colour Grey
Hair length Long
Beard Full beard
Orientation Straight
Ethnicity Caucasian white
Origin UK
Pubic Hair Natural
Body hair Some hair
Zodiac sign Libra
Glasses
Smoker
Tattoos
Piercings

About me

Interested in:

I’m looking for:

Description

NOTE : If you are a scammer and looking to make easy money pass me by, as I will report you. If you are promoting an OnlyFans site, good look, but not interested.
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I am just your ordinary man, with a dominant side, and identify more like a daddy dom than a sadistic dom. Im here to find a partner for a monogamous long term relationship, with a mixture of kink and vanilla aspects intertwined.
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When I am in a relationship I give 100%, and expect the same in return, as well as open communication, and when there are issues they can be raised and communicated rather than ignored until they build up and the relationship implodes.
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I love rope bondage as it helps build a connection to my partner, and I also have a tiny inner sadist who likes to get out the impact play things, but mainly use them for discipline, unless my partner is masochistic, in which case I can be creative.
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I seek partner that will challenge me, that will keep me on my toes not blindly fall at my feet and whimper. A relationship is a partnership, not a one sided affair. We would be yin and yang, different sides of the same coin.

Limits

needles, scat, leaving permanent marks, blood, underage, financial

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TheBookCollector
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But, it is your version of submission?

I agree there should be more males posting and not just about kinks amd fetishes but about how people can check someone is safe, how to spot red flags, basic first meeting etiquette etc.

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TheBookCollector
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But, it is your version of submission?

This is also true of Dominants too often people fail to be theirselves instead becoming some pastiche of what they think a dominant is in order to capture a submissive.

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TheBookCollector
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Incognia card?

Total scam dont do it as you'll never see the money again and hqve your card or bank account drained.

TheBookCollector
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The "Importance" of Consent Models in Kink.

As the dom/top youre the one supposed to be in control so you make decision to cease. If you are incapable of controlling yourself rising to provocation when you know that its beyond negotiated pre-agreed consent are you really fit to be in the lifestyle?

TheBookCollector
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The "Importance" of Consent Models in Kink.

I apporach informed consent by asking if my partner knows what X is, and the dangers that go with it.
Eg Rope suspension, if my partners new to rope bondage i have her read up on the subject including what can go wrong with various online guides and then go through things like identifying nerve Read more… damage, bloodflow restrictions, how she has to communicate.

TheBookCollector
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Long term partner required
Looking to meet a submissive single lady ideally between the age of 30-53 for a long term, kink based relationship. Interested in kinbaku, and shibari, Exploring ENM and TPE 24/7 once the relationship is established.
If more than 50 miles away must be willing to consider relocation in the fullness of.time
BDSM/Fetish Family18 to 52 years ● 390km around UK, Aylesbury Vale
TheBookCollector
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Reasons for being dominant

How is it dangerous? I was replying to a point that raised the issue of being trained to be dominant and stated that there is an also an implied dominance due to postio held, but that does not make them dominant in regards to the lifestyle.
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In short you can teach people to be dominant but that Read more… does not make them dominant.

TheBookCollector
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Reasons for being dominant

In regards to things like officer trained etc, a lot of the dominance comes from the actual position rather than an innate ability or from a course.

TheBookCollector
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Reasons for being dominant

I cant explain, i just am, ive always ploughed my own furrow, and graduated to leadership positions in vanilla life, and taken the lead in relationships before i even knew about this lifestyle.

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TheBookCollector
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Favorite tie combinations

A hands free chest harness with wrists and ankles secured to 30/40mm bamboo behind the back with and hair rope and tied so when you pull the running end it causes the head to pull up and the back to bend.

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TheBookCollector
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Appropriate outfit

Honestly i dont feel the need to dress up. Normally at meet ups i dress casual, for clubs it depends on thr house rules.

TheBookCollector
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SELF-TAUGHT OR INTRODUCED?

It was a TV show on hedonsim and various films like 9 1/2 weeks, The Secretar. After thay llt it was researching and learning from books and online resources.
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Then it was trying to find the local community which was the next step.

TheBookCollector
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Question?

Have you communicated that Aftercare is a requirement?
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Generally aftercare in some shape is required, however i have known submissives state they dont want or need after care.
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If its a requirement for you and your partner doesnt provide it then its a huge issue and you need to consider finding Read more… a partner who will provide and cater to your needs.

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TheBookCollector
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How do you respond to criticism?

In the case of postings on here that is usually someone asking for an opinion to be given, or advice which is completely different to being given unsolicited opinion from a total stranger, who has walked up to you in the street and given thier opinion. A good example are those that ask your Read more… religion and you tell them youre an athiest and they start try to convert you to thier particular dogma(this has happened to me on a 5hr flight, with no escape).

TheBookCollector
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How do you respond to criticism?

That is exactly what i would do ahead of the evening and abide by any limitations placed on the scene by the club. Although i wouldnt expect the club to inform 50+ couples just the on duty DM staff so they where aware.
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We both know that you have people who are self appointed guardians of the Read more… scene and go out of thier way to critique and tell you your doing things wrong or whisper behind your back because you didnt do things the way they percieve they should be done. Eg not providing after care after a scene.

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