About me
I’m looking for:
- Friends
- Kinky Dates
- Events & Places
- NSA (no strings...)
- Swingers
- BDSM Lovers
Description
I’m hoping to find a little adventure and mutual enjoyment.
Having recently-ish discovered my kinky side I’m very keen to explore further with the right person(s). I can switch but am probably more submissive at this stage, definitely not a person of extremes, and hoping to find someone patient enough to help me learn and explore further.
Note: I'm attached, I have 'permission' but its just me. Not looking to change anyone’s domestic situation, but definitely open to longer-term meetings & relationships, as definitely not finding this sort of expression at home.
Physically - I have a shaved head, neatly trimmed goatee and I'm 5'8 (just)....couple of 'mid-life crisis' tattoos! ;-)
I'm trying to look after my health & enjoy running, although I'll admit to a bit of a dad-bod!
If you are interested, please do say 'hi' !
Desires and Fantasies
Would love to play with a really bratty sub and polish up my daddy-dom skills.
Love starting in the dominant role, especially enjoy tie & tease and orgasm control with a female sub, but absolutely love having the tables completely turned on me and ending up being totally dominated.
Hoping to learn Shibari/rope bondage.
Have an as-yet-unfulfilled desire to be with a dominant TS woman.
My roles & archetype
My kinks & fetishes
I like:
Wanna know what interests me?:
Fetish.com gives you…
Fetish.com is like an appetizing smorgasbord in Milford with lots of hot guys to meet up with. Have a look around first if you prefer to see who’s around, or if you know what you want, search by selecting the right category "Kinky Dating”. Nobody stays alone here for long! Fetish.com has tons going on!
and there’s a little coda to this: have met someone (a real, actual person!) through a vanilla dating website who is honest and has turned out to be *massively* kinky, albeit not especially dominant. One door closes....!
thanks for following up. So...sage advice was given by some of you and was duly noted. I gently pushed back: could I have some more recent / current photos (agreed but not provided), could she be more specific about date & time to meet (evasive response) and crucially would she accept a modest Read more… gift *in person* and if we get on let’s take it from there? Suffice to say she has faded away.
So while I still feel very naive it’s also clear I dodged a bullet. Lesson learned (hopefully!) Thanks again for sound advice. A cautionary example of excitement (almost) getting in the way of judgement
Having recently-ish discovered my kinky side I’m very keen to explore further with the right person(s). I can switch but am probably more submissive at this stage, definitely not a person of extremes, and hoping to find someone patient Read more… enough to help me learn and explore further.
Note: I'm attached, I have 'permission' but its just me. Not looking to change anyone’s domestic situation, but definitely open to longer-term meetings & relationships, as definitely not finding this sort of expression at home.
Physically - I have a shaved head, neatly trimmed goatee and I'm 5'8 (just)....couple of 'mid-life crisis' tattoos! ;-)
I'm trying to look after my health & enjoy running, although I'll admit to a bit of a dad-bod!
If you are interested, please do say 'hi' !
== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
100% Switch
95% Rope bunny
84% Boy/Girl
78% Daddy/Mommy
77% Non-monogamist
71% Rigger
70% Submissive
70% Voyeur
63% Sadist
62% Primal (Hunter)
61% Ageplayer
61% Exhibitionist
59% Brat
59% Brat tamer
58% Degrader
58% Experimentalist
56% Dominant
52% Primal (Prey)
45% Masochist
43% Slave
41% Owner
41% Degradee
36% Master/Mistress
27% Pet
22% Vanilla
yep, and no problem with that of course. Maybe she's just demanding, maybe its maybelline, I guess we'll find out. As I said, I've suggested a more modest tribute to be made in person, which I think it reasonable for a first meet, so it may work out yet. Am learning fast!!
Thanks for the responses. Some good advice @SexualCorruption you've nailed it (so to speak) when you point out I've missed such a basic question that I should have asked early on. We did discuss likes & dislikes, but given I had an underlying concern I should just have got that out in the Read more… open right away.
I've done some checking re: the name she has given me, facebook profile, etc. and everything looks pukka on the surface, but when I look again, it starts to look a little less convincing. I've asked for a firm date & location for meet and suggested I'd be happy to bring a less elaborate tribute in person for our first meeting. We'll see how that goes, but....
I'm getting the sense that I may have narrowly dodged a bullet here, lesson learned. I do feel like such a naive [email protected] years old and nearly duped, desire and optimism getting in the way of good judgement.
One way or another I'll be a bit more considered with future connections. You live and (occasionally) learn.
@eyemblacksheep I've got to take my hat off (sort of) to the dude who ran the scam with photos of his wife...ffs, takes some ho-jo's!
New to the site, new-ish to kink, looking to tap into the wisdom of the crowd! I've recently met a dominant woman via a different (ironically vanilla!) dating site, and we have progressed to intimate chats via whatsapp, exchanging pics, etc. and are looking to arrange a dungeon visit. Read more… I've suggested a coffee or a glass of wine initially, but she's of the opinion that the best way to know if we will 'click' is through an intimate encounter. Tend to agree, so I'm cool with that, obvs....
She has set me a few tasks to prove myself, so far so fun and no real problems there but she is now asking for a 'tribute'. Again, no problem in principle and my natural inclination is to be generous, but she wants an incredibly expensive bespoke leather dress. And all of a sudden I'm that much less comfortable.
Is this unusual? I realise many dominant women will want tribute from their subs, but this seems....excessive...this early on? She's not looking for paid services and I don't think this is a findom situation (and no disrespect to anyone who willingly seeks and accepts that, but its not something I'd personally want). So at what point does 'tribute' become findom, and at what point does that (potentially) become exploitative?
My instincts, normally reliable, tell me she's not rinsing me, and for sure she'd look like a goddess in the dress.....but I just don't know. Seems like a big ask.
Am I being daft, or am I being rolled??
Thanks
C.C.
So while I still feel very naive it’s also clear I dodged a bullet. Lesson learned (hopefully!) Thanks again for sound advice. A cautionary example of excitement (almost) getting in the way of judgement
Second, I would never buy expensive gifts without it being clear what the relationship was. I certainly wouldn't be handing them over without having met the person in the flesh.
Third is that I'd be really cautious about having met this person on a vanilla dating site. As a point of personal safety, I would never arrange to meet someone from the internet in a non-public space for an initial meet. If they're genuine, then they should be happy to meet you for a coffee or drink before hand.
Second, I would never buy expensive gifts without it being clear what the relationship was. I certainly wouldn't be handing them over without having met the person in the flesh.
Third is that I'd be really cautious about having met this person on a vanilla dating site.
I'm new to the site and relatively new to the whole Kink scene, having discovered my kinks within the last year or so. I'd really like to connect with like-minded people in my area but can't find a Munch, and really don't know who to contact Read more…or how to get started. My motivation here is really to engage with a community and learn, not necessarily hookup, as I assume that's what the site is for! (although that would be nice...) Really just interested in getting more insight into the mindset, other people's kinks (and my own!) and maybe learning some new skills...for example, would love to learn rope bondage!
So if anyone is able to point me in the direction of a Munch or any kind of social / community engagement in the Guildford/Woking/Surrey area in general I'd be really grateful!
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Having recently-ish discovered my kinky side I’m very keen to explore further with the right person(s). I can switch but am probably Read more… more submissive, at this stage definitely not a person of extremes, and hoping to find someone patient enough to help me learn and explore further.
Note: I'm attached, I have 'permission' but its just me. Not looking to change anyone’s domestic situation, but definitely open to longer-term meetings & relationships, as definitely not finding this sort of expression at home.
Physically - I have a shaved head, neatly trimmed goatee and I'm 5'8 (just)....couple of 'mid-life crisis' tattoos! ;-)
I'm trying to look after my health & enjoy running, although I'll admit to a bit of a dad-bod!
If you are interested, please do say 'hi' !
== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
100% Switch
95% Rope bunny
84% Boy/Girl
78% Daddy/Mommy
77% Non-monogamist
71% Rigger
70% Submissive
70% Voyeur
63% Sadist
62% Primal (Hunter)
61% Ageplayer
61% Exhibitionist
59% Brat
59% Brat tamer
58% Degrader
58% Experimentalist
56% Dominant
52% Primal (Prey)
45% Masochist
43% Slave
41% Owner
41% Degradee
36% Master/Mistress
27% Pet
22% Vanilla
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