Experienced sub, married to a dom in training. I can be playful and cheeky - been out of the life for a few years! once tamed I am a good sub who lives to please. Initially looking for online and phone contact. And more important friends in the life.
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Sids ideas are great. I would also say research your topic well there are plenty of online resources to go to. Talk to others in the life - there is a chatroom here or private messages if you prefer. It’s time to really discover yourself and what turns you on - what an adventure!
Work out first Read more… your limits. What you want to try and what you don’t you may find that there is much more than spanking that turns you on, you might not! Then find someone who shares those limits or will respect them and get to the spanking!!
Good luck and welcome to fetish
It will end. You will not always feel like this. Time will help and some further introspection will also be useful.
i think having good people around you who you can talk to about it is a key ingredient to moving forward. Nothing helps to heal you faster than the love of your Read more… friends.
Sometimes it is tempting to jump into another dynamic, any dynamic, really quickly in order to fill the void but I would caution against this course of action. Remember your submission is a beautiful precious gift.
Talking to other people in the life also helps they understand the turmoil you are going through better than vanilla friends in my opinion.
Stay strong and wade through this horrible time, better ones are to follow.
It sounds like a really tough situation you are in. He clearly needs time to grieve what he has lost, I mean, all that hard work...it must be soul destroying for him but he’s taking it out in the wrong place.
i agree that he could be sinking into depression and I think he should seek professional Read more… help. The flip side of this is that you need to make sure you are looking after yourself as well.
Marriage isn’t easy, you hit these rough patches every now and again but I am sure it will get better for you in time with understanding and work.
I have a really unpopular take on this subject. I believe that the individual with the biggest physical presence ultimately has control and for me that is the Dom.
The sub may set the limits but the Dom chooses whether or not to follow them, of course any Dom worth his salt will follow limits but Read more… there are those that don’t. I have had experience of this and as I was being used by a Dom in a way that was against my limits and my will I did not feel as though I had any control of the situation..
I have experienced this a few times as a sub it can be a very exciting experience if done correctly and a hugely terrifying one if not
Key is for the Dom to practice, the pressure of the knife obviously needs to be just right. In nurse training we are taught to inject on oranges and I would suggest Read more… practicing on these for knife play too. Animal meat it an alternative however the skin is often a lot tougher than human skin.
Placements of the cuts is also important my partners (I don’t know why!) have always chosen the curve of the breast to cut but be aware this can be uncomfortable when later wearing a bra and as it can be an area that sweats there is potential for infection if cut too far on the underside.
The point of the knife shouldn’t be used as this can be dangerous. Needless to say cutting whilst having sex is a big no no - the Dom needs to have complete control of the knife.
I am glad you have thought of fake blood first - another key aspect is to start slow!
Have fun and be careful!
I will admit to ghosting at times but I do this under specific circumstances. If I’m talking to a “Dom” and he seems to only be interested in sex or sexual talk I will walk away. If he doesn’t have the respect for me to get to know me first why should I let him know I’m walking. This is only with Read more… new communications obviously, if a relationship has been going on a while it is a completely different kettle of fish. Treat others as you wish to be treated, if I feel disrespected I admit I sometimes disrespect back....I’m aware of this flaw and will endeavour to change it.
To be honest?! What ever leaves me completely helpless and begging for more!! Though if restrained for a while comfort has to play a part also!
Always had a thing about stocks for some reason?! Not sure where that one comes from!!
You are who you are. This can change depending on who you are with. I have always been very loyal and obedient with a Dom and highly cheeky and playful when not submitting. I have found my playfulness has increased over time and sometimes this irks me! I want to be well behaved but......
I have Read more… learnt to be who I am whoever that may be at the time