Shoot me a msg and I'll give you a hand.

Anyone can do physical bondage. Hell you could design a robot to do it. It takes something special, and arguably deeper, to exercise mental bondage.
I am absolutely drawn in deeper every time a woman follows my orders. Even to just see her waiting for me to tell her what I want next is a moment to Read more… savor. I get hard just thinking about it.
Give me more.

No matter who or what we are we all need a little care. However, as a dom I think it is safe to safe that most of us don't need to be taken care of, the only thing we might benefit from is the support of our subs. It could be something as simple as feedback, downtime, or bask in the aftermath of Read more… your experience.
To put it simply to a sub reading this I would say: just be there for us and we'll let you know what we need.

An unused safe word collecting dust somewhere.

BDSM Contracts seem like a wonderful thing to have if you are about to embark on a one-off. For the sake of brevity it makes sense to lay out everything concisely so all expectations are effectively shared and clear.
Beyond that I feel like most relationships will not only develop organically but Read more… will also need the freedom/leeway to evolve and for its members grow and change over time.
As the OP suggested, each relationship is unique, and I know at least enough to see the truth of this.

This answer definitely does it for me.

These posts reminded me of something else that helps with bouncing back. Despite so much evidence to the contrary (read: humans are assholes), it is in our natures to be caregivers and to support others. Each in our own particular way (or idiom for Monty Python fans).
So turning your mind and Read more… energies to taking care of someone else, either someone in a similar situation or even just caring for family members or a pet is an amazingly powerful force for healing, growth, and moving on.
Right when we feel compelled to withdraw and wallow in our collapsing worlds, finding someone else in need forces us to live outside of that in a manner that is meaningful and lasting and more than simply a distraction.

It feels like a reject of who/what you are but in truth it is probably only a rejection of their belief that you could be what they wanted you to be. In other words, they are rejecting you because you're not someone else. Hence the argument made above that they are basically doing you a favor and Read more… saving you from disaster ahead.

Sometimes I might want her to know that she is beautiful to me and that I want to drink her in. If I punish her for wearing a bra on a certain no-bra day I will let her know that asked for it because she is beautiful.
There is also something special and intimate about looking inter her eyes and Read more… watching the pain as I twist her nipple.
Honestly, sometimes I just want to watch her squirm and try to look away.

It helps to keep the emotions in their place. To try to remind yourself that you are not your emotions and the world is not what it seems. Not to fight what you feel but to accept it and try to let it wash over you. To feel like you are drowning but to relax anyway knowing you will be ok.
When we Read more… have a bad day it seems like the world is a terrible place. Everyone does just the right thing to annoy you most and they seem to do it on purpose. It's because emotions affect how we view the world, they change the appearance of reality. But when you are in a good mood the very same things don't affect you and annoying people go unnoticed or you laugh them off and feel bad for them in their miserable worlds.
Just keep reminding yourself of what you were before this and who you still are. You are not your emotions.
There is nothing wrong with what you feel and you shouldn't be able to just walk it off. It's ok to feel bad, for however long you do. The end of a relationship is, in the emotional realm, a death of that person in your life. Just remember who you are and don't let what you feel make you forget and you will get there.