Thank you for your feedback. I apologize if my word choice was poor. I believed i used the words true to their meaning, and most people who attacked me were the ones who added additional meaning, but I will continue to strive to be more articulate.
I so appreciate your feedback about intent and Read more… cooperation. I only pushed back because I felt others were derailing a cause very important to me.
I don't believe I used DARVO. By bringing up my history if being gaslit, I wasn't playing victim. I was stating irony. I know every sign and device of gaslighting. 2 years dating a pathological liar. 1 year dating a narcissist. I know the DARVO acronym by heart. But I believe in taking accountability so:
D- Rather than denying responsibility I directly apologized for the misunderstanding even though I had no obligation to. I also apologized for what men do to women regarding rape culture. I also agreed with a perspective regarding men being the cause of the vicious cycle. Threefold I took responsibility 🙂
But I apologize. I definitely allowed myself to get confused and frustrated.
A- I did not attack a single person. I gave rebuttals, politely asked people to please stop derailing, and pointed out assumptions. Healthy communication involves disagreement and clarification. I had a right to defend my points. I was however, assumed to be impatient, ignorant, dismissive, coniving, and now gaslighting. Despite all those attacks to my character I did my best not to get upset.
R- reversing abuse requires that I offended or abused someone. I'm sorry of i did. Anyone can be offended by anything anyone says but that does not make the speaker at fault. I had things in my post that included feminism/equality. I support feminism. It is your freedom to be offended. I never changed or reversed what I believed though. Trying to clarify is *not* the same as reverseing.
V- I don't think I was a victim. I'm sorry if my reply and emojis reflected emotions. I'm sorry if my emotions made people angry. Genuine reactions aren't the same as looking for pity or sympathy. The first two people responding to my first post on this app were being very aggressive and adding additional meanings to my words. I was about to delete fet, though that would have been cowardly. Yes, I was upset. Especially after trying to be nice, helpful, agreeable, and asking politely. All people should have freedom to express genuine emotions. That includes the people I argued with. They are valid. I feel like accusing someone of "playing a victim" is a leverage device, in the realm of an ad homenim logical fallacy, but I am unscathed.
O- nobody abused me either. I believe that even when someone hates me or tries to hurt me that I cannot know what they've been through or if they're having a bad day. Not only will I refuse to admonish anyone in this thread, but I will talk to them to reach an understanding. So I refuse to try to frame an offender 😊
I can only assume if you cited DARVO that you know it as well as I do. I spent time recovering from abusive relationships and since have used psychology to heal others from their abuse/trauma. That's why I'm a caregiver 🙂 it made me stronger so I can love others❤️

Thank you to everyone who has contributed to my post so far!! I've tried to read every single word, and I've learned so much more about other's experiences and perspectives. I was a bit worried about how the conversation started, but I'm glad to see that this is an overall helpful and conscientious Read more… community! 😊

Thank you for contributing positively to this thread 😊
It is indeed isn't it? It's definitely not talked about enough and you've definitelypointed out the root cause. Men making women feel unsafe is causing a vicious cycle it seems

Seriously what are you talking about??
The previous individual and I literally came to a mutual understanding. unlike you. Are you suggesting i not comunicate? Are you trolling me? You're not serious right?
Focusing on how often I disagree with another person in the comments who also happens to Read more… identify as female has nothing to do with what we were just saying. You're now using logical fallacies. Please stop this, I'm not your victim, you're hijacking a thread that supports gender equality and communication and I don't know what's going on.

What are you talking about?..🥲
I told you that you are correct.
I never said you were incorrect.
Don't accuse me of gaslighting please, I've had enough of it myself. 😅
The lived experience of a woman is an extremely valueable perspective for my thread. Yes, it includes rape/rape culrure. Your Read more… opinion is correct, and I said it was, so please stop trying to villanize me, I'm not your enemy 😵‍💫