Sweet Pain

It hurts - so good!

More D/s than BDSM.
Communication and interaction get us to that perfect place, where it all begins.
I have a wicked sense of humour, a vivid, kinky imagination, and love to travel.
Just looking for that one special submissive, who relates.
I doubt you have a kink or desire that I haven't already enjoyed.
Your mind is the source of your pleasure. Share it with me, and I'll unlock what you have, hidden away.
Read between the lines, there is always more.

Say hello, if you see common ground and interests.

The Equalitarian Dominant is one who controls by teaching, mentoring and leading. This Dominant feels and knows that when they find a comparable submissive that things will happen as a progression of the interaction. Usually, just a mention or short learning situation is necessary to obtain a certain interaction. Both the Dominant and the submissive "get it,” need very little, so called "training" and naturally know what the other needs after interaction. This Dominant does not like the situation of constantly repeating and forcing a particular behavior (submission) to occur. It is not the activities but the surrender as the result of the Domination that is the objective and enjoyment. Creativity is an important part of this situation. These are the more intellectual, into the philosophy/psychology mechanism of this lifestyle. They understand the concepts and resultant interactions and can put it into real life. They do not need many "rules" like the Democratic type, nor do they like the heavy S&M activities; preferring submission to occur as a result of an instilled desire in the submissive to surrender. She "wants" to as a result of the Dominant's knowledge and skill at Dominating. Sensuousness is the rule and is given and received as a form of sensuous stimulation. Light as opposed to severe. Sensuous *** is a popular activity in this area. Both the Dominant and the submissive must be naturally this way. These are the ones who claim to be born this way, have always been this way. They fully understand the concept of D/s - it comes to them naturally and easily. They attract a submissive who truly and naturally wants to please, and who will observe and sense what the Dominant is communicating; and be able to translate that into the right thing to do. The doing or saying without having to be told type. The submissive begs easily and surrenders sweetly. They understand the concept of respect and surrender and can make it happen after initial learning with little or no additional instructions. They embrace the surrender gratefully and lovingly. These individuals usually form the most intimate of relationships, the closest. There is not much downside to these relationships, because they not only grasp the concepts, but can make it happen too; and their attraction is based on strong mutual respect. Their strong relationship is not readily apparent to the unobservant, but they are always subtly in the 24-7 mode. The fact that these things come forth naturally and without the need for orders or rules are a great affirmation and source of pride, satisfaction and loving. Just as the strictness and forbearance without the need for orders or rules of the Authoritarian/Totalitarian situation affirms pride, satisfaction and loving.

Hi, I usually don’t go looking for spicy things, but I figured I’d give it go. I’m a really sweet and kind person, I’m kinda quiet and shy but a lot of people tell me I make them feel safe, which is a bit of weird compliment but I love that I’m able to create a space where they can be themselves. I’d really like to find someone who creates that safe space for me as well, and the only time I’ve really felt it was with a dominant partner. I want to allow myself to be truly with someone. I cannot tell you the deep appreciation I’ll have for you if that make this happen.

I’d like to be friends at least before anything happens, know that we can just hangout and have a good time without it getting spicy. I’m not a big fan of hookups or the culture around it, and I’m kinda tired of the whole casual thing, but I understand if something serious isn’t for you and I’m open with that, provided there’s clear communication, not just about good things, but if you feel like you want it to end at any stage please just tell me, yeah I might be sad about it, but it’s better than wondering, that’s the respect I give and it’s the respect I want in return.

About me, I’m a very open minded person, I love a weird deep argument where we respectfully challenge each others thoughts and ideas. I’m a massive nerd, Star Wars, marvel, lotr, I could talk about things from them for hours or quote every line.

I work full time, regular hours, I’m saving, I’m studying, I’m trying to be a bit better everyday.

I’m like 5’11 if it matters, curly long brown hair, brown eyes, stocky build, going back to the gym soon after a recent stopped me for a couple weeks.

I’m not perfect but I’ll accept you and all your flaws, hopefully you can accept mine too.

Send me a message if I sound a bit interesting to you and let’s chat.

Hi! We're two findoms who have been dating for 4 years looking for a paypig to drain its wallet <3 (any gender)

Elly: Hi! I'm pretty bratty though I can be really sweet ! I'm mixed (wasian), curvy/chubby, and love anything pink and purple! I'm the nicer of us two !

Khali: I don't care to get to know you, I just love using stupid horny people and I love *** just as much. pay me to call you a filthy piece of shit, or a good doggy, I don't care. The most you'll ever earn is being able to watch us together, if you're really really good.

It's a 15$ tribute per girl! To start 🫶. We use cash app! Message us boundaries and budget first though and we'll see if its a good fit ! <3