Masochism

Masochism. The M in BDSM

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It's not uncommon - especially in the kinky world - for someone to process pain as pleasure, and to crave sensations a little rougher and more intensive than are usually considered the norm. These people are often called 'masochists', and while it's important to remember that the word isn't synonymous with 'submissive' (not all masochists enjoy psychological submission, and not all subs are particularly interested in physical pain!) the two often go hand in hand and each category has traits in common with the other. Masochists are the opposite number to sadists, who enjoy inflicting consensual physical pain just as much as their masochistic partners enjoy receiving it.

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mcrkinkycouple

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Cpl78

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BeatriceJ

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Dartford, UK

What is masochism? 

Deriving pleasure from pain or from the process of bearing pain, masochists really enjoy being hurt in a variety of ways.

How do you know if you’re a masochist?

If you enjoy pain you could well be a masochist. It doesn’t matter how high your pain threshold is, if you can take a whipping or not, you define what you are. If you identify as a masochist, then that’s what you are. Masochism is a love of pain, not specific types or amounts of pain.

Is masochism safe?

It is important to know your limits, masochists enjoy pain and may push their own boundaries but be sure to always play within safe BDSM risk aware boundaries. If your masochistic desires worry you or you feel out of control talk to a medical professional. Otherwise, enjoy all the painful pleasure.

Are all masochists submissive?

No, not all masochists identify as submissive. Some do, but just because you enjoy pain doesn’t mean you want to submit. You can be a bottom to receive pain, without having to be submissive.

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