Sounding can be quite good fun don’t go too big too soon though. Feel free to DM for any tips.

Indeed I would, once all the restrictions are lifted I’m going to get regularly tested.

I couldn’t agree more with the above because being properly prepared means you can let yourself go as in really relax & enjoy the sensations. I’ve got so use to prepping over the years that sometimes I’ll use a douche head attached to the shower hose. Be warned this isn’t for the faint hearted Read more… & you need to know what you’re doing as well as plenty of time so don’t think you can start off with that if you see them whilst looking the bulb style. Also remember what goes in (water wise) needs to come out at some point.

I struggle to keep up with chats due to hidden disabilities so tend not to go in the rooms after bad experiences on other sites. Maybe I’ll get the courage one day to venture in to the rooms on here. As the OP said there’s reasons why folk lurk & nobody should have to explain why they’re Read more… lurking.
I don’t know if this is possible but it’s a thought. In the U.K. a sunflower is a sign of having a hidden disability maybe those that are comfortable in letting others know they have issues (that’s how I refer to my disabilitiesso it’s not meant in a hurtful way) they can post the word sunflower so those in the room don’t judge & understand why someone might just lurk or take a while to reply or just leave a room when it’s busy (in the same way I do IRL) I know it can appear rude but I have to do what’s right for me. We all have our own way of coping with things. I know some might take advantage of it but maybe it’s worth a try. Here’s one for the developers admins For those that feel comfortable enough to have the option of displaying a sunflower in the corner of their profile pic on the same way a profile is verified but it can only be put there by an admin after talking in confidence to the person. I have no idea how practical such a thing would be to implement & how comfortable folk would about using it but I’d rather throw the thought out there & see what happens.

One game I played with a sub was she had to guess what was touching her whilst tied to each cornered of the bed & blindfolded. The best reaction was when I blew bubbles over her as she almost safeworded, I think more out of frustration because she hadn’t got a clue what it was. I’m more than Read more… happy to discuss the items I used as well as ideas privately. I wanted to post this in the open for you & others to see that sometimes even the gentlest of things can give you the best reactions.

With havin hidden disabilities I can’t always think what to say or word it right because quite a few women & I’m assuming guys as well like more than Hi how are ya or just hi. I like substance to a message so there’s something there to talk about, even if it’s about a comment you’ve made it Read more… doesn’t necessarily have to be about your profile. As Draco said it doesn’t matter who makes the first move as long as the move is made.

I knew a woman a few years ago who was in to gay porn so you’re definitely not alone.

I couldn’t agree more Even toys are going main stream now from supermarkets to the high street. To top it off I saw a headline the other day about fetish wear being worn on the school run. Now depending on what they class as fetish wear depends on if it’s ok to wear on the school run. Sadly I Read more… feel society will always judge those who are slightly different let alone the ones who are very different. IMO & I like to think I speak for most if not all in the kink community as long as what you do is legal sane & consensual then it’s fine. Life would be boring if we were all the same.

I’d say all are realistic as for all in the same possibly fantasy. The bottom line is it all depends on the dynamic you’re in.

I have health conditions & hidden disabilities. So I have a rough idea of where you’re coming from. I can’t say I understand because it’s different for all of us. I don’t know about you but for me I find that if I explain the best I can )how can you explain something you don’t fully understand) Read more… from the outset it can help because in a way it forces people to show their true colours from the start. If they runaway then they’re not worth having in your life. Any long term illness or disability doesn’t stop us wanting to live our lives the way we want but sadly we can’t so I make the most of it when I can. Hopefully people in general not just in the kink community will realise that despite our issues we are all different. All we ask for is a bit of understanding, touch wood I have that on here unlike on some other non BDSM sites. Hope you do too.

For me it’s about regular stretching a few days apart which gives the muscles chance to recover but without them going back to the usual position. The other tips are make sure you’re clean & plenty of lube. Something else that’s really good is an inflatable plug. From personal experience try Read more… to relax & try not to think about stretching because that just tenses everything up. I know you’ve got a set of plugs maybe see if you can get one that’s in between the one you can use comfortably & the one you can’t. A gradual step might help even if it’s 1/4 of an inch for example. If you’d like to talk in detail then feel free to DM me.

I like to use a variety of remote controlled toys especially in public places not just in parks etc or dogging but in pubs, cafes & shops.
A sub had to guess what was touching them whilst blindfolded & restrained. I used all sorts of things on them within there boundaries as it was more Read more… for pleasure than inflicting pain but the thing that not only got the best reaction but almost made her safe word was when I blew bubbles on to her. I don’t know if it was the sensation of them popping on her or the frustration because she hadn’t got a clue what it was that was landing on her then disappearing especially with them being various sizes & sometimes there’d be a few depending on how hard I blew. Granted we both laughed after because it was the gentlest thing that got the best reaction. That has to be the most memorable times with that sub.