Status

Not single

D/s relationship with Jed

Personal details

Gender Woman
Age 37
Status Not single
Height 172cm
Zodiac signs Taurus

About me

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Well...where do you ever begin on these things lol... I'm saphy, I'm pretty much the kinda girl who wears her heart on her sleeve, I'm quite well balanced, socially extroverted with an attuned empathetic nature.
I'm a slave, so naturally I'm pleasing to be around (it's my job lol), I'm completely loyal, I'm stubborn at times but always right ;) and I have a little bit of a minx (please note..NOT brat!) inside of me.
I'm a lover not a fighter but I'm a Taurean too....which translates to i'm territorial and animalistic and a typical nature girl....so I will lock horns with the best if you threaten me or mine in any way, shape or form. I love fiercely but I protect with my life. So, if I do get smart mouthed with ya...chances are you've overstepped and deserve it ;)

But outside all of that...I love people, I love learning and I love my lifestyle! ✌?

Fantasies

Desires and fantasies...Hmmm...where to begin.

We all have a stronghold of fantasies and a treasure-trove of desires..but to whittle them down into what could be a reflection of reality? That's hard work. But here goes. Let's give it a bash.

I'm not by any means a 24/7 slave and nor am I interested in that dynamic but the concept of following rules that He's given, spending every moment of the day in His expectations and realising His every whim is something I find intriguing and irresistible. Personally, I don't see a lifestyle dynamic any differently than what a vanilla relationship/marriage should be...Yeah a few sprinkles here and there (ok, alot of sprinkles lol) but at the crux of it all, the connection and the respect, the trust given between the couple is what sets the foundations for what lies ahead. So that being said, I guess I desire a 'normal' relationship where I'm accepted for who I am, for my Sir to not think twice or raise an eyebrow when I kneel before Him, not because He's my Sir and it's protocol, but because He's everything I cherish and awe in a person and theres no other place I'd rather be.

My fantasies vary...theres experiences I've tried and enjoyed and would try again, which is fine in itself...but it's never the same experience you once had because you're not with that same person. We all react and thrive differently, so my fantasies I guess will never change in that regard but my experiences will.

My deepest, most thought consuming fantasy is to be outdoors, in nature and dressed in nothing but shibari...to be suspended on a frame and for the riggers art to be captivating an audience...to be blindfolded and sensory deprived, to be tantalised and teased by crops, floggers and cane and then to be used relentlessly suspended and debilitated. To feel complete in servitude, to feel myself drown in a melancholy of emotions...to be free of all that is for all that is given. To be slave. Utterly.

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You know compliments are all well and good but... Stop and consider a person's relationship status before you write "I can make you cum so good" or "I want to fuck you" or the likes....
I HAVE a Sir already and instead of completely disrespecting what belongs to HIM then be appreciative that He Read more… hasn't insisted I lock down my profile all together because I tell ya, if He did... It would be done!

Respect and manners goes a long way to being respected and not looked upon as merely another cretin ~ thankyou!
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Alot can be said for standing strong and firm when others try relentlessly to knock you down.
KNOWING who you are and what you stand for is the epitome of strength.
I may be alot of things but I'm happy with who I am....that may not be for everyone and I understand that.

"Do not judge or Read more… thou shalt be judged".

Thankyou to EVERYONE who supported mySir and I through this part of our journey. It speaks volumes for the friendship we've forged and its most appreciated.
Brightest blessings to you all! ❤️❤️💋
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Oh wow!!!! Please believe that isn't at all the intention here MsJax....Jeez ~ I wouldn't be so demeaning nor condescending to even think of implying a task of any sort upon a respectable Dominant lol I think my head would roll! 😂 I'm not that nieve lol but of course, If that said Dominant finds Read more… the tool helpful in whichever manner they would then they're welcome to do so.
The other concept I had in mind when I posted this post, was that people (either Dominant or submissive) would complete their 'journeys' via the comments so that it would become an educational thread for those who haven't yet discovered the paths that afford them the answers they may be seeking.
I trust in Your criticisms and Your judgements and I'm grateful for either.
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Thankyou for responding MsJax and as always, feedback is good to hear. However, Im not sure if I've picked up what you mean in the right manner....this is merely a 'tool'...i completed similar myself when I first came to the lifestyle and the answers I found when truly evaluating each question, Read more… were truly lengthy lol I font think of you used the 'tool' correctly, that you could answer any other way.
But in saying that, there's no right or wrong answers here....its purely to enable people (submissive or Dominant) the thought process in its for definitive form to aid their own growth moreso than just an ordinary 'task'.
I hope this clears up any misunderstandings there may have been and again, thank you for the time you spent acknowledging the post. I am in fact quite humbled. xx

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Task one.
"What do you expect to gain from your current experience?"
Task two.
"What does submission mean to you?"
Task three.
Dominants should always be typed with a Capital letter and submissive with a lowercase letter unless otherwise instructed. Why?
Task four.
SAFE WORD:
•not ordinarily Read more…something one hears during a scene
•gives participants in a D/s scene a way to express their discomfort or need to stop the play
•should be stated before hand so everyone knows to stop when they hear it
•play should stop IMMEDIATELY when it is said
LIMITS:
•any action or scene that someone is not comfortable doing
•should be stated before play begins; however they sometimes pop up during play….use your safe word if this happens
--List your safe word and limits, think carefully
Task five.
"What does obedience mean to you?"
Task six.
"Why is communication important in a D/s relationship?"
Task seven.
"What do you feel are the reasons for explicit trust in a D/s dynamic?"
Task eight.
"Name the tenants/cornerstones of the BDSM lifestyle and explain their definitions and purpose"
Task nine.
"What does Dominance mean to you?"
Task ten.
"complete this journal again in two months time and reflect on the changes you've made within all of the tasks given....explain now why this would be an important practice."
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PatientTraveller As a Dom, I believe both Dom(s) and Sub(s) should reflect on these tasks and more. The responses continually evolve the more experience you gain regardless if you are new or long time practitioner. BDSM is a constant learning process about the self and others.
Not sure if I am following the treads Read more… intention, but I am a firm believer that Dom(s) and sub(s) are both halves of a whole, they may not always fit perfectly, but through sharing and communication they both learn about themselves and progress towards becoming a better contributors in a relationship.
I have learnt from partners as well as sharing with partners, BDSM is about learning, there is nothing that says a Dom can not learn from a sub. Many may believe this is a sign of weakness, yet a Dom's control comes from being honest with themselves, knowing their limitations and knowing what they have to learn. Knowing this and sharing this a submissive who is new or experienced can relax in the knowledge that the Dom will be confident stepping back when the situation exceeds their competence or progressing with caution and a higher degree of awareness.
Simple example:
Take a simple and common case, many Dom's voice out when a sub states they are lying to their Dom, usually with a connection to disrespect...could it simply be that when a sub lies to their Dom, they are lying to themselves. This introduces the danger of self deception that both Dom(s) and sub(s) must face as individuals and in relationships.
We need tasks, examples and knowledge share to progress on each of our journeys. Asking questions and sharing makes the unknown known, make dangers visible and efforts appreciated.
Remember Dom(s) and sub(s), learning alone is a hard and exhausting approach to BDSM and invites mistakes. BDSM encourages learning, sharing and promotes values that enrich both Dom(s) and sub(s).
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saphy ➦saphy quote MsJax:❝As you know, very often Dominants give submissives/slaves/littles etc etc tasks to complete, given that, a lot, especially those to whom an etiquette, or perceived one, is important will balk at the idea they are being given a task themselves. Personally, I don't have a problem Read more… with that, and I would imagine most that do are insecure in their role or new to it..which is itself a shame, as they're the ones who could/would benefit the most from reflection about the questions you've asked.
I didn't intend my first reply to be a criticism Saphy, just an observation x❞
Oh wow!!!! Please believe that isn't at all the intention here MsJax....Jeez ~ I wouldn't be so demeaning nor condescending to even think of implying a task of any sort upon a respectable Dominant lol I think my head would roll! 😂 I'm not that nieve lol but of course, If that said Dominant finds the tool helpful in whichever manner they would then they're welcome to do so.
The other concept I had in mind when I posted this post, was that people (either Dominant or submissive) would complete their 'journeys' via the comments so that it would become an educational thread for those who haven't yet discovered the paths that afford them the answers they may be seeking.
I trust in Your criticisms and Your judgements and I'm grateful for either.
saphy xx
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MsJax ➦MsJax quote saphy:❝Thankyou for responding MsJax and as always, feedback is good to hear. However, Im not sure if I've picked up what you mean in the right manner....this is merely a 'tool'...i completed similar myself when I first came to the lifestyle and the answers I found when truly Read more… evaluating each question, were truly lengthy lol I font think of you used the 'tool' correctly, that you could answer any other way. But in saying that, there's no right or wrong answers here....its purely to enable people (submissive or Dominant) the thought process in its for definitive form to aid their own growth moreso than just an ordinary 'task'. I hope this clears up any misunderstandings there may have been and again, thank you for the time you spent acknowledging the post. I am in fact quite humbled. xx❞
As you know, very often Dominants give submissives/slaves/littles etc etc tasks to complete, given that, a lot, especially those to whom an etiquette, or perceived one, is important will balk at the idea they are being given a task themselves. Personally, I don't have a problem with that, and I would imagine most that do are insecure in their role or new to it..which is itself a shame, as they're the ones who could/would benefit the most from reflection about the questions you've asked.
I didn't intend my first reply to be a criticism Saphy, just an observation x
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WARNING: Any individuals or institutions using this site or any of its associated sites do NOT have my permission to use any of my profile or pictures in any form both current or future. If you have or do, it will be considered a serious violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal Read more… ramifications.


Well...where do you ever begin on these things lol... I'm saphy, I'm pretty much the kinda girl who wears her heart on her sleeve, I'm quite well balanced, socially extroverted with an attuned empathetic nature.
I'm a slave, so naturally I'm pleasing to be around (it's my job lol), I'm completely loyal, I'm stubborn at times but always right ;) and I have a little bit of a minx (please note..NOT brat!) inside of me.
I'm a lover not a fighter but I'm a Taurean too....which translates to i'm territorial and animalistic and a typical nature girl....so I will lock horns with the best if you threaten me or mine in any way, shape or form. I love fiercely but I protect with my life. So, if I do get smart mouthed with ya...chances are you've overstepped and deserve it ;)

But outside all of that...I love people, I love learning and I love my lifestyle! ✌?
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"the noblest art is that of making others happy" ~ P T Barnum.
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