About me
Interested in:
I’m looking for:
- Friends
- Kinky Dates
- LTR (relationship)
- Events & Places
- NSA (no strings...)
- BDSM Lovers
Description
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“Who do you want me to be?”
~ Black Vodka: Ten Stories, Deborah Levy
~ Spike, BtVS: School Hard
🪢 In a nutshell, I’m a dominant, polyamorous, rigger, and occasionally vampiric practitioner of ENM.
🎮 I prefer a velvet glove/iron fist style of domination, so expect praises and gentle caresses, as well as expectations of obedience, with associated punishments for non-compliance, and to be treated, mostly, as an object. Obviously, these are preferences, not absolutes.
🗣️ On the D/s side, though this holds true with all relationships, regardless of type, I’m heavy on the importance of communication, explicit, predetermined boundaries, and total agreement with my subs’ expectations and wishes, with a side order of safety and safe words.
🤯 I also don’t play psychological games; this world is fucked up enough without people deliberately screwing with our heads.
🤷🏻♀️ We are all someone different to everyone we meet and spend time with. The fundamentals remain the same, for the most part, but who we are to someone else and to each other will change based on mutual experience, expectations, and communication. The sweet spot, especially on the fetish front, is finding we’re the right someone for the person in front of us.
🎬 In short, who I am for you will be the me that gives you what you want and who works for us.
“What do you want?”
~ The Notebook, Nicholas Sparks
~ Morden, Babylon 5: Signs and Portents
⛓️ Am I only looking for subs and slaves?
No. I’m open to many kinds of relationships. The only redlines I have are that I won’t sub for anyone, and I won’t engage in a monogamous relationship. I’ve tried both and they simply aren’t me.
🥰 Do I expect you to engage with my other partners?
No. It would be good if you got along with each other, and obviously you can if you both/all want, but it’s not an expectation. I don’t even care if you meet each other. I’ve practised kitchen table and parallel styles of ENM, and I’m comfortable with both, though generally prefer the garden party style. It’s not about forcing my world on you, but finding a world that we’re both comfortable in.
🕰️ Am I looking for 24/7 relationships?
Not particularly. I need space sometimes, but that doesn’t mean the style of our relationship can’t continue when we’re not together.
🤴 Do I have predetermined expectations for a D/s relationship?
Again, no (see below for exception). Every sub is different, and no two relationships are the same either. Be you a brat looking to be tamed, a slave who desires to serve completely, or someone looking to find out what kind of sub or slave they are, I can work with that, and they all fall within what I personally enjoy and am looking for. I enjoy both CNC and total subservience, and most things in between, so it will always be about finding the relationship that you’re looking for and that works for us.
🛌 Am I expecting the relationship to be sexual?
Yes. Unless it’s a purely rope-related relationship (rigger/bunny), I do expect our relationship to be sexual. I am an incredibly tactile person, and much of my pleasure comes from touching and being touched. That doesn’t mean I expect sex during our first time together, but I do have an expectation that sex will be involved eventually.
🧙♂️ Do we have to be ourselves?
We don’t. Roleplaying is also one of my kinks.
Limits
No water or hard sports, nothing that will permanently mark or cause serious , anything involving or ***s, and emetophilia is definitely off the menu (haha).
My roles & archetype
My kinks & fetishes
I like:
- Anal Sex
- Androgyny
- Fear Play
- Blindfolds
- BDSM
- Begging
- Biting Fetish
- Bondage
- Bondage Rope
- Breath Play
- Glasses Fetish
- Collar & Leash
- Cuddling
- Domination
- Erotic Wrestling
- Exhibitionism
- Restraints
- Floggers
- Foreplay
- Gags
- Goth
- Hair Pulling
- Handcuffs
- Rough Sex
- Kissing
- Knife Play
- Costumes
- Licking
- Massage
- Oral Sex
- Spanking Paddles
- Polyamory
- Role Play
- Scratching
- Outdoor Sex
- Sex In Bed
- Shower Sex
- Slave Training
- Sweet Pain
- Uniform Fetish
- Subservience
- Vampire Role Play
- Voyeurism
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I’ve always enjoyed sex with different people. Everyone’s different, feels different, reacts differently, and I enjoy that variety. Yes, those differences can be explored more fully in FWB or full relationships, but those new experiences are there from the start.
I go to a lot of music festivals, Read more… including ones in other countries, and there’s an additional level of, perhaps, intimacy and urgency being with someone when you both know you’ll probably never meet again, and there’s also a more relaxed feel that come from that knowledge.
There’s also a level of freedom with ONS, where you’re not having to worry about the broader impact of starting a longer term relationship, even a casual one, with the broader group around you, or, indeed, your own friendship with the other person.
That doesn’t mean I prefer ONS: as it happens, most of my ONS have turned in FWBs and, sometimes, full relationships, but ONS do have a special place in my heart as wonderfully unique experiences.
“Who do you want me to be?”
~ Black Vodka: Ten Stories, Deborah Levy
~ Spike, BtVS: School Hard
🪢 In a nutshell, I’m a dominant, polyamorous, rigger, and occasionally vampiric practitioner of ENM.
🎮 I prefer a velvet glove/iron fist style of domination, Read more… so expect praises and gentle caresses, as well as expectations of obedience, with associated punishments for non-compliance, and to be treated, mostly, as an object. Obviously, these are preferences, not absolutes.
🗣️ On the D/s side, though this holds true with all relationships, regardless of type, I’m heavy on the importance of communication, explicit, predetermined boundaries, and total agreement with my subs’ expectations and wishes, with a side order of safety and safe words.
🤯 I also don’t play psychological games; this world is fucked up enough without people deliberately screwing with our heads.
🤷🏻♀️ We are all someone different to everyone we meet and spend time with. The fundamentals remain the same, for the most part, but who we are to someone else and to each other will change based on mutual experience, expectations, and communication. The sweet spot, especially on the fetish front, is finding we’re the right someone for the person in front of us.
🎬 In short, who I am for you will be the me that gives you what you want and who works for us.
“What do you want?”
~ The Notebook, Nicholas Sparks
~ Morden, Babylon 5: Signs and Portents
⛓️ Am I only looking for subs and slaves?
No. I’m open to many kinds of relationships. The only redlines I have are that I won’t sub for anyone, and I won’t engage in a monogamous relationship. I’ve tried both and they simply aren’t me.
🥰 Do I expect you to engage with my other partners?
No. It would be good if you got along with each other, and obviously you can if you both/all want, but it’s not an expectation. I don’t even care if you meet each other. I’ve practised kitchen table and parallel styles of ENM, and I’m comfortable with both, though generally prefer the garden party style. It’s not about forcing my world on you, but finding a world that we’re both comfortable in.
🕰️ Am I looking for 24/7 relationships?
Not particularly. I need space sometimes, but that doesn’t mean the style of our relationship can’t continue when we’re not together.
🤴 Do I have predetermined expectations for a D/s relationship?
Again, no (see below for exception). Every sub is different, and no two relationships are the same either. Be you a brat looking to be tamed, a slave who desires to serve completely, or someone looking to find out what kind of sub or slave they are, I can work with that, and they all fall within what I personally enjoy and am looking for. I enjoy both CNC and total subservience, and most things in between, so it will always be about finding the relationship that you’re looking for and that works for us.
🛌 Am I expecting the relationship to be sexual?
Yes. Unless it’s a purely rope-related relationship (rigger/bunny), I do expect our relationship to be sexual. I am an incredibly tactile person, and much of my pleasure comes from touching and being touched. That doesn’t mean I expect sex during our first time together, but I do have an expectation that sex will be involved eventually.
🧙♂️ Do we have to be ourselves?
We don’t. Roleplaying is also one of my kinks.
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