Penises come in all shapes and sizes, but some are classed as being 'micropenises' - meaning that they're one inch or less in length when fully erect, though some people with this condition cannot achieve erection at all. It's relatively rare and has many causes, but those affected generally find the psychological effect to be the most serious. The good news is that it needn't unduly dictate someone's sex life; there are plenty of things you can do with a partner no matter what you're able or comfortable to do with your penis, some with a micropenis enjoy humiliation as a fetish. The right person will be someone who is understanding and accepting and very willing to explore alternatives that help you both.
Sensation comes in many forms, and for many people, there's something uniquely sensual about the feeling of licking or being licked. Obvious choices are of course the main erogenous zones - nipples, genitals and earlobes are all popular options - but there are ways to include the tongue in the fun with almost any body part. Licking someone's skin and gently blowing over it can be surprisingly intense, and there's something blissfully intimate about the entire process. For the foot fetishists out there, feet licking is an exciting experience for both partners, and armpit licking can be applied to your kinky BDSM play.
The nipples are an erogenous zone for people with all kinds of bodies, and many find that they're uniquely sensitive to stimulation. People with breasts tend to find that their nipples are more sensitive than those of people without, but this is by no means a reliable or universal guideline. Pleasure, pain and even bondage can all use the nipples; they're a great site for pinwheels, clamps, pegs, wax, caressing, licking, stroking, touching, kissing, biting and more. Dominant types often enjoy nipple stimulation just as much as their submissive counterparts, though for obvious reasons they're less likely to be interested in the more painful and intense end of the spectrum. Try some things out and don't be afraid to experiment!
If your kink involves aspects of humiliation and degradation, spitting can be the perfect addition to that kind of dynamic. There's something about being spat on that really enhances the feelings of submission for a lot of people. As with all things, however, there are a few safety concerns to bear in mind--the most important of which is to make sure you don't get your saliva in your partners' eyes. It stings badly, can cause infections and leaves a lingering 'bloodshot' look nobody enjoys, so aim carefully! It's also extremely important to negotiate this with a partner before you begin, as many people really won't enjoy this kind of play.
Rimming is the term for licking around the anus. It’s something that has close associations to gay sex but people of all genders and sexualities can indulge in rimming. It’s all about giving, and can be a really fun way to worship a really sexy butt.
It can be performed on its own, as part of oral sex or other sexual acts and needs no specialist gear but it is best to be squeaky clean to start with so that everyone is relaxed and ready to go. It might be a great way to get dirty but you don’t want real dirt, right?
Everyone has veins, but not everyone has a vein fetish. People who are very attracted to visible veins may have this fetish. Some of the most common vein fetishes include visible veins in a man’s hands and arms, veins showing on breasts and cock veins. Vein fetish is the attraction to seeing veins visible under a person’s skin.
This particular fetish can connect with medical fetishes, for example, wanting to tap veins to find if they’re suitable for taking blood. Mostly though, vein fetish is all about the look and feel of veins usually on another person’s body. Some vein fetishes especially love varicose veins; others just prefer natural veins that show through the skin. Veins that create ridges above the level of the skin is something that is particularly attractive for people with a vein fetish.
Breast feeding is most usually connected with child birth and mother’s feeding their new borns. However, breast feeding can be indulged in by consenting adults for sexual excitement and bonding purposes. Lactation fetish can refer to a person who wants to suckle breast milk as well as someone who likes to do the breast feeding. Most commonly it’s men who have the desire to breastfeed but it can appeal to people of all genders too. As there isn’t necessarily a need for a person to be lactating for lactation play to happen, it is a fetish anyone can indulge in.
Watersports in general are a popular fetish but generally they revolve around people letting their pee go. Pee desperation is exactly the opposite. It’s all about being made to not use the toilet.
We’ve all been there, desperate to go but unable to for varied reasons. Maybe someone is in there already, you’ve been caught short out and about without a bathroom nearby or you’re trying to find a polite way to excuse yourself from a long conversation so you can go.
It’s an overwhelming desire that takes leg crossing, body jigging and some great strength of mind to achieve. If this idea sexually arouses you, then you might just have a pee desperation fetish.
Sneezes can mean many different things. You could have an allergy; you might be coming down with a cold or a bit of dust has tickled your nose. For some people with a sneeze fetish, sneezes mean arousal. From being turned on by another person sneezing to finding your own sneezes to be totally orgasmic, if you have a sneeze fetish, you’re not going to be afraid of catching a cold and you’ll be happy to share round the germs with others. Hay fever season is the best time of year for a person who loves a sneeze. Share your sneeze fetish stories on the forums at fetish.com to find other kinksters like you.
Tickling is something people tend to either love or hate. If you get turned on by tickling well then you might just have a tickle fetish. If you’re turned on by tickling someone else, then you might have a tickle fetish.
Sexual arousal from tickling is often connected to Dominance and submission. When you give in to someone tickling you, you lose all control. And we all know that BDSM is all about who is in control and who is losing it.
BDSM isn’t all dark, serious and brooding, it can be fun and joyful too and tickle torture is all about finding the fun in fetish.
Let's face it, folks: breasts are pretty great. Almost everyone who is sexually attracted to women has a fondness for them, and plenty of other people besides can enjoy looking at them or playing with them. For those of us who have our own they're often a big part of the way we dress and the way we dress up, and people who think of their breasts as being one of their best physical features can have a lot of fun with dresses, corsets and plunge bras designed to show them off.
There's more than one way of getting your breasts involved in your fetish life, too. If you have a breast fetish, breast worship is a common practice amongst people who enjoy submitting to women, while those who get off on dominating them might want to indulge in a little tit torture or breast bondage. For most people they're a major erogenous zone, making them a great place to bite, suck, spank and squeeze. Just make sure you have the full informed consent of your partner before you get down to anything!
There's a lot of talk about different erogenous zones - but that doesn't mean you should leave out the hardier parts of your physique entirely! Your hands do a great deal of work for you, and the bedroom is no exception. They're your primary tools for masturbation, for manually stimulating your partners and for getting to know a body intimately well - yours or someone else's. Look after them and learn how to use them well, and they will serve you beautifully.
Some people also have a kink for other people's hands, of course - the hands can tell you a lot about someone's personality, and there's something extremely erotic about watching someone you're attracted to working with theirs.
Foot fetishes are actually very common, and are amongst the most frequently mentioned fetishes in popular media. The feet are a body part sometimes associated with smell and unattractiveness, which gets some people's taboo centres working. They're also erogenous zones for many, particularly as most people aren't that used to having them touched. Boots, heels and other footwear are precisely the kind of sexualised accessories so many people fall for, meaning that the feet inside them can also end up as the object of someone's desire. There are tonnes of feet videos and feet pictures online for those who can't get enough of pretty feet.
If you have a foot fetish, you might find that you're especially drawn to a certain kind of foot: large feet, small feet, ones in see-through shoes or bare feet.
If popular culture is to be believed, you can split cisgendered straight men into three categories - boob guys, ass guys and leg guys. The reality is a bit more complicated (and a lot less cis and heteronormative!) but it's still true that a shapely pair of legs are a huge turn-on for a lot of people. For femme-identified people stockings and suspenders with a pair of high heels are a great way to set your legs off, and short skirts are always a safe bet when you really want to turn heads and grab attention from someone in particular. Masc-identified folks might like to look into cargo shorts, which are a particularly flattering length for showing off strong calves!
When you ask a roomful of people what their favourite of their own features are, chances are that a sizeable proportion of them will say their eyes - and plenty of people also cite eyes as their favourite of their partner's features. They're a huge part of how humans perceive faces, and we do a massive amount of communication with their eyes. This means that they hold a significance in terms of a kink dynamic, too. Some dominant partners will ask their submissives to hold eye contact throughout a scene, or to specifically avoid making eye contact as a way of heightening the feel of the dynamic.
Tattoos are great, and they're increasingly common - but how do they relate to BDSM, kink and fetish?
For some people, heavily tattooed partners are a turn-on in and of themselves. For others, getting a tattoo can be an erotic act - this is particularly true of some submissive people. There are also those who choose their tattoos as part of or to represent their kink; O-rings and handcuffs are common, as are certain words and names or perhaps a number from the online Slave Register.
In whatever way your tattoos interact with your kink, make sure you don't rush into anything. It will be with you for life, so it's a good idea to make sure that the tattoo design it represents is too!
Eproctophilia, also known as fart fetish is when someone is attracted to the smell of another person’s farts. It’s most common in straight men who enjoy the smell and sound of their female partner’s flatulence. It’s a relatively rare fetish but that makes sense as most people are taught that farts are gross. Some fart fetishists enjoy it as an act of rebellion, enjoying that which is frowned upon in society. Others just enjoy it because they do and that is fine by us here at fetish.com. We might not all be blown away by fart fetish but if it’s your thing enjoy it to the full.
Everyone has different erogenous zones, but the lips are pretty much universal. They're intimate, they're sensitive, and they're the site of many of our greatest romantic and erotic pleasures. The lips are not talked about as much or as often as legs, butts or tits, but it's well worth making an effort not to ignore them entirely.
Some people say that the reason people are so attracted to lips is that they look a little like labia - and that lipstick is so popular precisely because it enhances that effect. Whether this is true or not, there's no denying that many people are attracted to partners who play up this facial feature.
Piercings are a common feature of many looks and subcultures--but they're also a kink in their own right. Play piercing is a reasonably common fetish, generally involving the creation of temporary piercings in various sensitive locations on the body. It's important to make sure you're safe if you indulge in this kind of play; learn how to use the equipment properly before you begin, keep everything as sterile as you can, care for the punctures adequately as they heal and don't try to obtain a permanent piercing using this method. Otherwise, you could experiment with incorporating professional piercings with your kink; genital piercings and tongue piercings are particularly good for this, and can create some fascinating sensations!
Tattoos and piercings are the first things that spring to mind when most people think about body modification, but there are other forms as well. Branding, scarification, tightlacing and even (for some people) weight loss or gain are all essentially body mods. Permanent or long-term semi-permanent alterations people make to their physical bodies to better express on the outside who they feel like on the inside. Occasionally it can be rooted in low self-esteem or self-harming behaviours, but for most people who are passionate about body mods, it's more like a form of artistic expression - something to be indulged, enjoyed and explored.
The literal translation of macrophilia is ‘a lover of large’ and refers to the fetish of wanting to be dominated by a giant. It is most commonly a fantasy that men have and this fetish is heavily fantasy based as there aren’t any real giants in the world. Some men enjoy trampling and queening, giving a feeling of being dominated by a woman much bigger than they are. Others enjoy watching videos of giants looming over buildings, crushing things and picking up people between their huge fingers. Lovers of large are pretty rare but it is a growing section of the porn film industry, there are more and more of them to find out there.
While the breasts aren't primarily a sexual organ, they're certainly popular as a secondary sexual feature, and there are plenty of kinks and fetishes that focus on breast stimulation. Many people enjoy breast bondage, which can create a certain look and heighten sensation; nipple clamps are popular tools in nipple play, and some even vibrate or come with weights for a variety of sensations. If impact play is your thing, the breasts are a great place for it; particularly if you enjoy marks and bruises, as they're prone to colouring nicely! Just be careful and, as always, do your research.
Also known as sthenolagnia, muscle worship is when a submissive, generally smaller person adores someone who has a muscly frame – often body builders. All people of all genders indulge in muscle worship, but it is best known in the gay community. It is a branch of D/s where the Muscly person (known as a god or goddess) is Dominant to the submissive worshipper. There may or may not be an element of wrestling involved in the relationship, some muscle worshippers love to be physically dominated and wrestled by their God/goddess. Often it is just about the submissive partner (schmoe) pouring adoration on the goddess/god’s muscles.
A lot of kinks seems to focus on the butt. Our rear ends are spanked, bitten, licked, worshipped and fucked - and that's just the foreplay! Asses are an erogenous zone for many, and a major point of attraction for even more - no matter the shape, size or gender of the ass in question. They're an excellent choice for safe and responsible impact play because they tend to be well padded and make a great target.
Time was, the Twiggy-style flat butt was the way to go for women who wanted to look a la mode - until, praise the Lord, along came Jennifer Lopez, Nicki Minaj and Kim Kardashian. Now, quite the opposite is true: women have their posteriors surgically plumped and worrying that they don't have enough junk in their trunks. As with all things, it's important not to let this get to you; the booty beautiful is different for everyone, and the body you've got has a whole lot going for it.
Genital piercings are increasingly common. People with penises can have what is often known as a Prince Albert piercing, which goes through the urethra; those with vaginas can have a clitoral piercing (though this is not at all recommended), a clitoral hood, or vch piercing (which is much better in all kinds of ways) or an array of piercings on the outer labia. Kinksters with multiple labial piercings sometimes lace them up together, as an aesthetic choice or as part of a BDSM relationship.
Whichever genital piercing you go for, it's important that you keep your new holes as clean as possible - and that you don't put too much strain on them once they're healed!
There are a few ways that a person's hair can interact with various kinks and fetishes. People are often drawn to bright peroxide blonde hair, for example, while a lot of people find redheads instinctively attractive. Submissives into femdoms might look out for dark, glossy brunettes, while unnatural dyed colours can be appealing in age play or cg/l circles. Then there's hairstyle: pigtails, shaved heads and more unusual cuts have all been involved in a variety of fetishes before now!
The most important thing of all, of course, is not to let your partner pressure you into changing your appearance in ways you're not happy with. If the thought of having them pick a hairstyle or dye colour for you fits in with how you want to do BDSM, then that's great - but if not, don't feel you need to change yourself just to please them.
The debate regarding pubic hair has been raging since at least the seventies, and probably longer. At the end of the day, we here at Fetish.com support free choice - and whether you like it long, short, shaped or natural, your pubic hair preferences are okay. Preferences for a partner's pubes can go either way; some prefer the natural look while others get off on the sight of a genital region shaved or waxed completely clean. Whatever your preference is, it's important that you don't make your partners feel obliged to abide by it - it's their body and they can set their own rules!
Many people think of body hair as being inherently unattractive, but that's definitely not an absolute truth. There are loads of others who are hella into it, in all kinds of different ways - the scents, the textures, the ability to change up styles and colours. Then there's facial hair, of course; plenty of people love a good beard, and different ways of shaping yours can have a huge effect on your look and demeanour. Just make sure you're not being unduly pressured by outside influences and that your facial hair is styled the way you like it.
Fetishes are often about transgressing social convention and playing around with taboos. One of the things we as a society have developed some serious taboos regarding is, unfortunately, our own bodies - particularly the bits of them that grow hair and make smells! Naturally, then, there are some people for whom the idea of armpit licking, sniffing or even armpit sex is erotic and fantastical. It might not be the most common of fetishes, but it's an entirely healthy and explicable one! Some of those people will prefer their partner's armpits to be unshaved and/or unwashed, while others are more a fan of smooth and sweet; whatever you're into, talk it over with your partner to find out if they'd be happy to help you indulge this particular fantasy.
Blood play is actually pretty standard on the fetish scene. For some people it's mostly about the sensation; they enjoy the sweet pain in the way that others might enjoy being spanked or flogged. For others, it's more about the marks it leaves behind - scarification can be a sign of ownership or take the place of a tattoo when done with the right finesse. Since you'll be piercing the skin, however, cutting play comes with some extra risks - so be meticulous about using clean, sterilised blades, cleaning up after yourself, doing your research in advance and being as careful as possible during a session.
In some countries, of which America is a major example, circumcision at birth is the norm for babies who are born with penises. This isn't true in most parts of the world (in the UK, for example, circumcision is generally only carried out for medical or religious reasons) but it does mean that there are places in the West where coming across a partner with an uncircumcised penis (or an 'uncut cock') is comparatively rare.
It's not actually the case that circumcision is essential for good health and hygiene, and there are some pretty significant drawbacks to the procedure - such as the fact that it can decrease male pleasure. It's certainly the case however that for many people a cut cock is more aesthetically pleasing, and those who are used to seeing them may come to fetishise them over time. Whatever turns you on is okay, of course, but you must remember not to body-shame people alongside your kinks and fetishes! All cocks can be fantastic cocks, no matter their circumcision status.
There's some debate over exactly what squirting is and who can do it, but it seems relatively clear that some women (probably about a third) can do something akin to ejaculation when they reach climax. Squirting is a fetish for some people, and almost anyone finds it to be quite an achievement when they make it happen! If you'd like to experiment a little and find out if you're in that third, don't put too much pressure on it. Just as with having an orgasm in the first place, you're more likely to experience female ejaculation if you're feeling relaxed and comfortable about the whole thing rather than trying hard to make it happen.
While circumcision is the norm in most of America, in many parts of the world quite the opposite is the case - in the UK, for example, generally speaking only Jewish families and people with a small number of medical conditions have their foreskins removed. There are many benefits to having an uncircumcised penis, not least amongst which is that masturbation and genital stimulation are generally much easier; people who have been circumcised quite commonly find that it's harder for them to reach climax and that they need to masturbate in specific ways to achieve the intended effect. However your partner's cock works, of course, the important thing to bear in mind is that everyone is different and great communication is key!
Smell is well known as being an important and highly evocative sense. Scent memory is something we're all familiar with: the perfume your mother wore when you were a child, for example, will always seem familiar to you even if you can't pinpoint exactly why.
It's no surprise, then, that olfactophilia can form an important part of sex. Everyone smells different, and people going through breakups are often floored by catching a whiff of their recent ex's own unique scent. However subconsciously, odor is a vital part of how we perceive the people who we're close to.
Naturally, for some people this goes a little further. Odors can form a vital part of kink for the people who are most aware of them--be that the smell of someone's sexual fluids or even the scent of their sweat.
Preferences regarding the testicles vary hugely amongst people who have them. Some find they need their balls stimulated in order to have a satisfying orgasm, while others can hardly bear to have them touched at all; it's worth experimenting to figure out what you like having done to your balls, or what your partners like if they're the ones who have them!
They can be extremely sensitive, so it's well worth being as gentle as possible to begin with. Some people, particularly masochists, can get a great deal of pleasure out of having quite a lot of pain inflicted on their balls - but this varies wildly by person, so make sure you start slow and don't rush into anything.
Many sexual encounters involve semen to some degree, but there are plenty of folks who have a specific fetish for it - whether for swallowing it, being covered in it or having it inside them! There are a few sexual health precautions to take, of course (if one of you is capable of becoming pregnant and would rather not be, err on the side of caution with mitigating that risk; use barrier contraception where necessary to protect against STIs; you know the drill) but if you're with someone you know and trust and you're tested frequently there's no reason not to indulge in all the cumplay you might desire.
The taboo is always sexualised, and as smoking becomes increasingly frowned upon by many portions of society, it's only natural that its popularity as a fetish should start to increase. Of course, smoking has always had a bit of a reputation for being cool and sexy - especially smoking after sex. Even before it began to acquire connotations of dirtiness and anti-sociability, it was a hallmark of someone who was a little mysterious and a lot alluring.
For smoking fetishists (capnolagnia), the appeal can come in a lot of ways. Some people enjoy being used as an ashtray, while others simply love the look of someone having a cigarette; others still are turned on by smoking themselves.
The term 'water sports' covers all sexual pursuits involving urine, and it's pretty common amongst kinksters. If you're new to this fetish and you'd like to try it out, the best way for beginners is to hop in the bath or shower with your partner before you play: it keeps things contained and makes it much easier to clean up afterwards!
In contrast to scat, watersports don't usually come with heavy hygiene warnings; piss is a lot cleaner than people give it credit for. Make sure your golden shower is a fresh one, though, when pee starts to go stale it can also start causing you harm.
It's pretty clear that the Size 0 look isn't the norm. The average dress size in the UK, for example, is a 16 - meaning that the overwhelming majority of women don't fit what we currently consider to be the "ideal" body size. The good news is that "ideal" is absolute bullshit; everyone is different, everyone's body is different, everyone's health is nobody's business but their own and everyone finds different things attractive.
There are plenty of people who enjoy being on the larger side, and even more whose type in women runs to the curvy. Whether this forms part of a fetish or is simply a matter of aesthetic preference depends on the individual - but whichever side of the line you fall on, it's important not to run the risk of fetishising a person in a way they haven't consented to.
Tummies are an often maligned part of the body. How often do you hear someone moaning about how much they hate their stomach? Well, even this most unloved body part has it’s ardent fans! Belly fetish even has its own name – alvinolagnia. Which is used to describe someone who is sexually attracted to stomachs or navels. People with a belly fetish have varying desires. Some love big, round bellies and others like flat, thin ones. For some it’s all about the navel. Every person is different and finds different bellies attractive. There is no one way to do belly fetish, it’s up to you!
All our bodies are different, and some people have a specific love for certain body parts. People who really love how labia look are said to have a labia fetish. Most commonly people with a labia fetish love large labia. This could be plump labia majora (which is what causes camel toe when wearing certain clothes, another fetish) or long labia minora that hang down outside the vulva. It might be that they love small, delicate, tucked away labia too. Don’t get hung up on how your labia look, there’s no one way they’re meant to be, they’re beautiful just like you!
Some people choose to shave because they just like the feeling of smooth skin, others do it out of practicality but if it turns you on to shave your own hair off or to shave someone else you’ve probably got a shaving fetish. It could be that it’s one particular part of the body you like to shave or see shaven, such as the genitals, head or chest or it might be that you love the shaved look all over. No matter what depilation floats your boat, if shaving floats your boat you’ve got a shaving fetish and that’s awesome!