Depends on how it's kept and the rest of his overall style and look. Some things look better on certain people, and some things require a certain level of effort to look good.

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As a grey-ace, though not sexually-repulsed but reciprosexual with no innate drive for it who is also a sadist (and grey romantic), I feel your ***. And no, this isn't a "it cuts both ways" post... I mean I am straight, but men in general are the damn worst. Whether Read more… it's other straight men questioning whether I am sure that I am not gay, or trying to tell me that I must be low-T, or just being all "I don't get it".

And then I feel like I can't even talk to a woman blatantly platonically because I can see the discomfort that they're waiting for me to hit on them like "when's it coming, when is he going to ask for sex?". Like, never, but they have so many guys swear "I promise, just friends" only to turn around in two messages and go "but how bout sex?".
I hate it but it's so true.

I often don't feel like it's "safe" to be platonic friends with cishet men. Too often, it always ends up with them centering their dick (despite zero indication of mutual interest on my end). It's shitty interacting with most cishet guys because it does end up with you bracing the entire time, wondering when his dick is going to suddenly enter the conversation uninvited.

I've had too many experiences of men who I said, upfront, I only want to be platonic friends only for them to eventually make multiple "courtship" moves (that they swear tooootally aren't courting attempts). And when I forcibly stop him doing it and reaffirm the boundary of "platonic friendship" (like I said at the very start), he blows up about me "putting him in the friendzone" like I fucking wronged him by...*checks notes*...actually meaning what I said at the very start? It's ***ful to discover someone I had been giving friendship to was just bullshiting me the whole time in an effort to ignore what I say and date/fuck. And then they get angry and resent you for not falling into their "brilliant plan" to woo you against what you already said. And then you lose a friendship you had actually invested in as an *actual friendship.* That really hurts.

Repeated experiences of that and I don't really form close friendships with straight men anymore. How the fuck can I trust it? They won't listen to me and then they'll blame me for it.

I'm sorry you have to feel the tension of a woman constantly bracing for you to start talking about your dick out of nowhere. I wish it wasn't like this. I wish men hadn't caused this growing gendered rift in basic friendships.

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That’s most of the issue that I’m having now with the people interested in being a sub. All cis men whose first words are a proposition to fuck.

god forbid someone just wants to get roughed up or turn their brain off for a bit.

But those same guys can’t read a profile Read more… much less follow directions.
That always struck me as the funniest and dumbest shit dudes pull on here.
They come at you like, "I will listen and submit to everything you say!"
/Doesn't read your profile. 😂

It's not a good look for someone trying to offer themselves as a sub, lol.

I'm a sex repulsed grey-ace Dominant/Sadist. I much prefer SM over sex. I prefer sex not be involved in my play at all.

Unsurprisingly, these preferences lead to most of my kink experiences taking place with non-cis-men partners because most cis men don't understand that kink can exist without Read more… sex instead of just being a means to sex. Kink can be it's own end instead of a means to an end. I've literally had cis men ask, "what's the point of playing if we won't have sex?" His answer is literally in his question: playing. They don't get it.

Yeah, I have had men either struggle (due to him lscking basic anatomical knowledge - which I didn't know about him prior) or outright not care about whether or not I got to cum too.

It is actually a very widespread problem amongst men that makes heterosexual sex with men really unappealing. It's Read more… all the risks with shitty odds of rewards.

I also hate when men message me out of nowhere in a sexually harassing and desperate way. It's so unattractive.
And before any man gets on his bullshit of, "women don't respond unless I send sexually harassing rude messages!" Or, "but it's a sex/kink site! That means I can totally ignore other Read more… people's boundaries and consent to treat them however I want out of nowhere!" Y'all are dumbasses and that's why you get ignored and blocked.
I have a high response rate to my DMs, both when I send them and when they're sent to me. Regardless of the content I'm receiving. But the difference is that the content will determine if the conversation is friendly and enjoyable or just hostility that ends in a block.
I have no desire to sext chat with strange men on the internet. That isn't arousing, it's boring and repetitive.

I'm pretty close to my ideal power dynamic already. My submissive and I have been together almost 10 years now, married for 8, and been doing D/s since the beginning.

My sub is a nonbinary service sub and rope bunny, so our dynamic centers around them serving and obeying me while I also engage in Read more… bondage with them.

The only thing that would improve upon our dynamic is if I also had a heavy masochist play partner. My sub doesn't do *** play so I'd really love someone I could do S/M with. Whether I'd want that to be a full romantic/sexual poly relationship or just a platonic friend who I service Top for *** play, I'm uncertain. I suppose it'd depend on the person but I'd be happy either way.