Haha I don't think this is too uncommon. I kinda get the same thoughts as well, though I would definitely never send my finger towards the crack of a working man. For one, it'll undoubtedly be pretty sweaty & stanky if they're working hard, but also, knowing a lot of guys in construction, I Read more… think I'd need a whole barrel of hand sanitiser after going near that area. 🤣🤣

Yes but you can't apply that filter of "show me the members only..." unless you're an upgraded member of the site.

Perhaps part of the issue lies with the inability to sort/filter members by what they're looking for. Unless you're upgraded, if you are searching for women near you, you get shown every woman even if they wouldn't want to hear from you. I'm sure it wouldn't be too difficult for the app & site Read more… Devs to just change the script so that we don't get shown people who don't want us to contact them. Heck, it would make my life a lot easier as I keep seeing nice looking profiles but then once I read them I see they're looking for women or couples (for example) and then I feel like I've wasted my time...
For the men who don't bother even reading profiles, this then means they'll send unwanted messages. 🙄

I've never understood why people (and it is typically men) feel so entitled to anyone's attention.
It honestly makes you wonder... If I started messaging these men who have been harassing you, and I just began outright with how I was going to defile them and abuse them. How would they take that? Read more… Would they reply and politely say no thanks? Would they report me or block me? Or would they just completely ignore me?
Perhaps we should try a little social experiment Jen. You forward me what they say, and I'll send the exact same message (with gender references changed as required) to them and we can compare reactions... 🤣

This was absolutely not your fault. I'm really sorry to hear you had to suffer this abuse at the hands of someone you should have been able to trust.
This is why, in my opinion, kink and alcohol shouldn't mix. Alcohol blurs boundaries, smears consent and inhibits safety of all those involved.
You Read more… did the right thing getting your hub out to pick you up. Personally I think W (and people like that) could do with a gentle reminder that those sort of actions can constitute assault when non-consnsual. I get that he wasn't a stranger to you, but if it had continued or if you'd not been able to distance yourself from it, you would have been within your rights to call the police.
Anyway, I hope this doesn't put you off or stop you being you. It's always a few a-holes that ruin stuff for everyone else...

Thanks Curvy. For me, it doesn't matter what the reward might be... safety has to come first otherwise you won't ever get it again... I'd rather get 85% of my ideal repeatedly, than 100% once and then jail (or death)...

Tib is there any way you might be able to share that with me? It sounds like a brilliant tool and I'd be really interested to see it.

It's a bit of a balancing act to be honest Pandora. It's understandable from his point not to want someone new to have that information, but also I can understand why you would want to research and keep yourself safe.
The Facebook comment isn't helpful imo because there are privacy and security Read more… settings available for you to use to stop strangers making comments and posts. It's not difficult.
What I think you should have done is try to facilitate a meeting with him in a public domain (ask to go for a coffee or something) and just lay out your concerns in person. It's all too easy to do everything via our phones and computers these days, but if you had spoken to him in person, he could have allayed your fears and reassured you. Like, it doesn't sound like he was completely against the idea of sharing that information, but the trust goes both ways and as a Dom you have to trust your sub just as much.
Hope this helps and I hope you find something that works for you better in future. B