Not female but my perspective. I have had partners 19 years older and 17 younger. So for me it was never about age and I never really thought about age. My brain is not good at time or dates or age (I forget my own age frequently. It was all about connection.
But that’s me.
If you are solely Read more… going for someone significantly younger it can be perceived (or actually be) quite predatory. There is an imbalance in terms of experience and probably other areas (***, stability, property, freedom etc). That’s why there are laws about certain power imbalances. (Dr/teacher/therapist etc). So a lot depends on where those gaps are, at what age (66 to 56 is vastly different to 26 and 16). There is a lot of nuance.

So there are more extreme clamps (I have some evil ones from extreme restraints that only a couple of people have managed)…. But as others have said there are ways to increase sensations. Rope play and or nipple suction can use *** flow. Not touching or touching everywhere but nipples can increase Read more… the need and focus on the area. Cold and heat used in various ways and against each other. Various different sensations (sharp, soft, pinching, pulling etc) used between each other. Blindfolds and other *** deprivation. Restraint. A lot can be the mental aspect. Ultimately it’s about the things that work for the person at that very specific time.

So… there are at least a couple of different directions here. You might like to focus on some of her erotic triggers (and having a conversation as to what they are). Or you may want to focus on activating the parasympathetic nervous system, things like humming, havening, breathing techniques, so Read more… she feels safe and secure. There’s a lot of missing context here.

Agree with this… there is something special about feeling I have done something to earn that trust.

Hmmm… it’s that moment when I know I have hooked onto something that unlocks a moment where they let go or their mind is blown. Where you can watch their body freeze and shiver. Where the mind goes blank and gives in to the moment. Whatever it is. I love that moment.

It wouldn’t… we’re never going to appeal to everyone. And nor should we, people are allowed their tastes and preferences.
Also I disagree that we can ever know that we will ever know if we did all the right things or never did anything wrong… there is no way we can know if what we said or did put Read more… someone off. They will have their own thoughts and reasons we will never know. And they’re entitled to that.
But I still think it’s just generally a good thing to self improve… so when you do find a match you have more to offer… and even afterwards it’s still a good thing.

Agreeing with the previous commenters.
“Real” dominance is different for everyone… some people like ***, some don’t. Some enjoy *** play, some done.
I’ve only been on the scene for about 20 odd years and my experience has been that those that try to tell you they are a twoo (true) Dom or that Read more… there is a “correct” way to be a submissive generally don’t have a clue or are using it as a way to excuse bullying or abusive behaviours.
I have never spent time worrying if I’m “dominant enough”. I am just me. I spend a lot of time looking into how to do things safely or better but outside of that I am just me… connection is way more important to me and I’m not going to find that if I am pretending to be something I’m not or trying to play up to some false ideal of what I think I should be.

Not sure I can answer that… not because I’m not happy to share, more because I’m not sure we have an “average day” in that sense. Could be her in her cage (locked on not), giving dog kisses, only allowed to make dog sounds, crawling on leash, drinking from pet bowl etc. but there isn’t a typical Read more… day or routine

So we do do pet play, but it’s not 24/7 for us, we just incorporate aspects of it when the mood takes. We do live 24/7 but it’s only one of the things we enjoy. We do have things like a cage etc but it’s not always set up as not practical for us. But for us having lots of things we enjoy helps to Read more… keep everything fresh and not feeling stale. Obviously the things you mention about trust, communication and understanding each other are very important, but then that’s true for all kink… and relationships generally.

I agree, I wasn’t meaning to suggest anyone should try to be something they are not to appeal to any particular person. I do think that self improvement is always healthy. And finding a genuine connection is far more important for me than something superficial (I do get that some people do prefer Read more… something that isn’t too deep or without any strings or connection outside of play, that’s just my preference).

This is also very true. I have often said to people that have apologised for not responding for a while that they don’t need to apologise, I just tend to assume that everyone has their own lives and not even my massive ego assumes I am the most important thing going on in the world.

Speaking as a non American… I have a periphery awareness of it. It’s also also not significant. But that’s not really what you are asking.
Can you incorporate that into your dynamic? Does the bratty interplay create a frisson of excitement? Can you find a way to enhance your play? Would it enhance Read more… things if you were ***d to wear his jersey? Or had to do something if they scored? Would it turn you on if ***d to do those things? There are lots of ways it “could” enhance things but it depends on you both.

Yes… although by nature there is an element on the unsafe inherent with a lot of kink… so maybe I should have said within accepted safety parameters.