:1785701336,1242149, Ok… in the simplest answer to this… can you have a relationship that combines kink, love, support, passion, compassion, connection, intimacy, feelings, conversation, humour, common interests… yes.

I found my partner Read more… (and slave) here. We’ve been together 4 years. Our dynamic never goes away but we also share every other aspect of a relationship too.

Ok… in the simplest answer to this… can you have a relationship that combines kink, love, support, passion, compassion, connection, intimacy, feelings, conversation, humour, common interests… yes.

It can be very easy to get very caught up with things when people first get involved on the scene, when everything is shiny, new and exciting. Which can and has lead people into situations they would otherwise avoid, some which have been dangerous or detrimental to the person involved. It’s partly Read more… why munches are a good option as a way to get to know people without kink being a factor, both as people and as a support network of different experiences to turn to when unsure. I genuinely believe the more the whole community talks the better as potential pit falls and red flags can be highlighted. Even after I got together with my partner I encouraged her to stay on here, chat to people and make friends, as having people you can talk to in the kink world is a good thing, especially if you don’t have that outlet in your normal vanilla life.

Two things… I would say that things should have been discussed and communicated better… but I would also say you are less interested in opinions than proving yourself right.

:1784770061,2281256, thats not how it was explained to me. i was assured that this did not have anything to do with or involve ownership of her.

Dom/sub doesn’t necessarily imply any sort of ownership.

:1784769854,2281256, thats not her dom. i was assured that this was strictly a training dynamic. he doesnt own her. i was assured that id still be the priority multiple times.

Training dynamic would still be a Dom sub dynamic.

There is no “normal” or “standard practice”. There is no legal standard so it is always purely subjective… this may or may not have been something decided by her and/or her Dom. There may have been any number of reasons they/he/she didn’t want to share it. But there is no hard and fast rule on it.

:1783542643,5727192, I feel that trying a service sub online is a quick way to go the *** route. They can't really do anything that's actually useful apart from buying you gifts or similar.

Hmmm while possible, would also say not Read more… necessarily, for some it’s the controlling someone/being controlled mental aspects that are what is exciting. So service sub might not quite be the exact applicable term. But could also be with a view to more in the future.

Also things like having to have live location on, not to check up on them so much as the mental side of it.

Some other things could be having to have what they wear be approved, meals approved, permission to go out for anything other than work emergencies etc, permission for making purchases that aren’t necessities (not fin dom in the normal sense as not taking their ***), daily/weekly routines and Read more… schedules for chores/exercise etc, daily mantra, set bedtime without permission for exceptions or emergencies. Service sub isn’t necessarily sexual so not going to assume anything there. Obviously contingencies need to be built in such as if asking permission/approval and not getting a response in a set time then can assume it is ok unless it is something they know wouldn’t have been approved, and normal life has to be taken into account, as well as emergencies obviously. Could also include betterment tasks like learning service skills like cooking, practising silver service. That’s just from the top of my head.

Many people do enjoy it. I have even used hypnosis to make it so my slave literally cannot orgasm no matter how hard they try without permission. That said there are occasions when edging can be problematic for some as can also cause seizures for someone that is prone.

Personal opinion… and general munch principles etc. no you shouldn’t, no everyone is open about their lifestyle and even those that are may not be with everyone. So you don’t want to put them in an awkward situation of being put on the spot as to where you know them from. Even if they’re alone you Read more… don’t know that they’re not meeting the person who is directly behind you or similar.

Honest answer purely from my perspective. I have been on the scene for over 20 years but that doesn’t mean much, my experiences and preconceptions will not mean much to others necessarily. I have had subs and slaves I have loved and others I have not. I have fallen in love very quickly and also had Read more… relationships where I felt no aspect of love. This is regardless of male, female, trans, bratty, “doormat”, pleasure sub etc etc… I have been clear always with everyone since a young age that I would never say I love someone if I didn’t mean it (did once, felt wrong, swore I never would again). But the reality is that love is not a quantifiable property. It means something different to everyone. I would say that from what I have experienced and seen from others it doesn’t matter what your kink/s or personal love language is… you can find love. But that’s a very subjective experience.

Q1: varies from person to person
Q2: varies from person to person
Q3: varies from person to person