I found someone I'm in a long term relationship with here and I feel lucky. I keep hearing that the way to build long term relationships in kink is in person which kind of makes sense.

That kind of question is a red flag for me akin to someone saying they have no limits. It signals a desire to chase dopamine over a desire to build a trusting relationship. And without trust and communication I would hold back way more as a D which likely means neither partner would get what they Read more… want. AND negotiating scenes can be HOT if done right. Phase one in the buildup.

Any good dom would ensure that you had after care. In fact, they’d have items for after care on display. I always have a blanket out and food my sub likes on the night stand because we negotiated and agreed these things would be on hand.

In my humble opinion, no honorifics unless you've established some kind of relationship and/or negotiated about it. And it's perfectly fine to deny a request for a face reveal. I usually don't reveal until I'm very certain I'm going to meet someone in person, which happens after chatting a bit Read more… online (like multiple days in a row).

An overnight date or vacation with my good girl.