“Who do you want me to be?”
Curious about what we might become together? If you’re drawn to exploring power, intimacy, rope or the possibilities of a D/s connection, I’d like to hear from you. You don’t need to know exactly what you want yet; curiosity, self-awareness and a willingness to communicate are an excellent start.
I’m a dominant, polyamorous rigger, occasional vampire, and enthusiastic explorer of what makes people tick. I practise ENM and prefer discovering what a connection might become over squeezing it into a predetermined shape.
Respect and communication are non-negotiable. I enjoy a broad spectrum of dynamics, from tenderness, playful bratting and power exchange to , and consensual non-consent. Whatever the fantasy, genuine respect, negotiated boundaries and a robust framework for consent underpin the play.
I like building things together: a D/s dynamic, a relationship, a rope connection, or something that defies easy labels. I have no universal template for submission; I’m interested in you, what makes you tick, and what we might create together. My job as a dominant isn’t simply to take, but to understand, challenge, support and fulfil your desires. Your needs matter as much as mine.
Two firm boundaries: I don’t do monogamy, and I don’t submit, except very occasionally within a single session.
Beyond purely rope-focused connections, I’m interested in intimacy developing naturally. I’m intensely tactile, but chemistry, trust and mutual desire matter far more than timetables.
Roleplay is another pleasure. We needn’t always be ourselves; sometimes discovering who we can be together is half the fun.
The sweet spot? Discovering we’re exactly the right people for each other. That may take some work. Fortunately, the right kind of work can be a lot of fun.
No water or hard sports, nothing that will permanently mark or cause serious , anything involving or ***s, and emetophilia is definitely off the menu (haha).
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#22 Finally found it! Turns out at wasn’t about gathering together, but rather adding something to an Ancient Roman market.
Anyone find 22 on an iPhone?
#16 In a D/s relationship, if you’re not a Dom, you’re a ?
#15 “Who watches the watchmen? You do.”
#14 “I have some control over who I take my slaps from.”
I’ve always enjoyed sex with different people. Everyone’s different, feels different, reacts differently, and I enjoy that variety. Yes, those differences can be explored more fully in FWB or full relationships, but those new experiences are there from the start.
I go to a lot of music festivals, Read more… including ones in other countries, and there’s an additional level of, perhaps, intimacy and urgency being with someone when you both know you’ll probably never meet again, and there’s also a more relaxed feel that come from that knowledge.
There’s also a level of freedom with ONS, where you’re not having to worry about the broader impact of starting a longer term relationship, even a casual one, with the broader group around you, or, indeed, your own friendship with the other person.
That doesn’t mean I prefer ONS: as it happens, most of my ONS have turned in FWBs and, sometimes, full relationships, but ONS do have a special place in my heart as wonderfully unique experiences.