:1790132243,7696163, No what happens is a woman gets a man as a front to a relationship that looks genuine then exploits him and sleeps with as many people as they can behind their back while keeping that person on a fishing line. No wonder she was always hurt or not in the Read more… mood cos she was always fucking other men when he weren’t around and now just laughs at it and their kids suffer mentally cos of all the *** and grief she’s caused.

That sounds like sour g***s, borne from a personal experience to me.
I’m not sure it’s helpful or productive ?

Surely, you would WANT honesty in a relationship, even if you’ve had a poor previous experience ??

If that IS a personal experience of yours, holding on to it can be incredibly damaging to future relationships.

Not everyone is the same, Male - or Female.

:1789654896,6086907,
Yes! This might be the closest thing to what I’m trying to get at. I had defined it as “human fidget toy” in my head. Though I definitely want a reaction out of them, so maybe a mix of this and free use.
Read more…
“Human fidget toy”….. I LOVE that analogy !

Honesty will ALWAYS be part of the foundational construct in kink.

There are people who are less honest… concealing relationships, and sometimes even health conditions in order to improve their options.

Rest assured, the truth WILL eventually find you out, if one takes that path.

The longer I Read more… have spent around this community, the greater success my b*llsh*t detector has had !

Incidentally, I don’t agree with people asking for “gifts” to prove that a contact is genuine, or redirecting me to a platform or site, which has a ‘shopfront’ or ‘membership fee’ either.

Once you monetise what we do directly, it becomes transactional, -and with that, to some people, that invites ***.

In that eventuality, one might as well engage the services of a prostitute, rather than risk ***. It’s more honest.

Setting out your stall right from day one, arranging an early telephone call -or even video call is a good idea, and being totally honest about your personal status and situation is always the best policy.

Just my personal perspective.

I’ve heard it described as “Doll Play”.
Where the recipient of the attention effectively behaves as a doll, accepts touching and other acts, and is a poseable toy, without any physical or verbal response given.
The person is put into positions which provide the best visual pleasure, undressed Read more… (perhaps re-dressed in specific clothing) and placed into positions for sexual activity.

Hope this helps.

:1789565305,7815285,
Great. Thank you. I actually started lightly looking and pricing yesterday. What is pulse? vs continuous?

With ‘pulse’ models the suction stops and starts rhythmically. It basically Read more… mimics the process of hand milking, like we used to do years ago.

Continuous models provide continuous suction.
In my personal opinion, long periods of use can cause bruising and potentially damage to the breast .. which is a highly sensitive area.

:1789490463,7815285,
Fucking typo, that “more” isn’t supposed to be in there. I wish we could edit these.

Milking machines DO operate in a different way to human breast pumps. They tend to provide a Read more… stronger, more rhythmic suction in my experience, which allows for other ‘hands free’ interactions while they are operating.

One small negative with them - which may be applicable to some people.
Some models can be a little noisy, which may be a consideration to those who are sensitive to aural distractions.

I have known some women who can orgasm simply from having a milking machine attached for a while, but being hands free does open up more ‘play’ opportunities.

There are good ones, and there are cheap ones… but I’m not certain there are good, cheap ones.

Also worth noting, mine is a ‘pulse’ milking machine. Not all of them are.

I would recommend a pulse milker over a continuous one, certainly for starters.

Cost - a cheap one can be had here in the U.K. for £30. I would avoid anything at the absolute bottom end of the price point. The build quality is not brilliant.

Upwards of £60, they start to improve.
A commercial one can cost £2000 -£3000 !!
(You really don’t gain anything by spending that much.)

Avoid buying from cheap online sources. Find a company that sells professional equipment, maybe look at something for a small homestead or ‘hobby’ goat keepers ?

Finally - clean thoroughly after every use.
Switching between recipients without cleaning according to manufacturers instructions will invite trouble !

Hope this helps.

:1789424852,7945521, US 34K here: I absolutely love when men suckle my nipples and then pinch them as hard as they can. Personally, getting my tits fucked feels amazing-kinda like a massage-and if my man pinches my nipples at the same time, then it’s heaven. Last thing I have Read more… to say is that I have only ever had a milking machine used on me once before and I’ve been looking for that high ever since, the best pleasure my tits have ever experienced. 💕

Milking machines are incredible to use.

I have one designed originally for goats… the milking heads fit human breasts and nipples perfectly, and I’ve watched so many women orgasm from just having that attached over the years.

I’m going to focus on the perceived negatives initially

Eleven hours travelling in a car with someone you barely know could put unnecessary strain on the two of you.

You don’t mention how long you will be away for, but consider this.
The eleven hour journey back, -IF your time together proves Read more… to be a washout, will be even less pleasant than the journey there.

Why do you feel the need to take this person away at this point in your ‘relationship’ ?

It seems like an unnecessary complication to me ?

How will you feel if they decide that you aren’t for them, and want to leave early ?

The Pros:

Travelling with a like minded companion can ease the stress of a long journey.

Having someone who is prepared to share costs is always appreciated.

An adventure can bring people closer together…
But -That isn’t always the case.

In the absence of more information about your current relationship, I would urge caution at this point.

Just my opinion.

:1788900886,5574247, Message me beautiful

Beautiful ?…..
I’m a good looking guy, it’s true 😉😂

-But beautiful ?…. That’s a bit over the top.

:1788892730,7357881, I don’t know about too many other people, but I like ice and wax play and a light bite while sucking every once in a while

Hot and cold play does wonders for nipple stimulation…… very true. 😉

:1788891421,3074800, my wife mainly likes breasts for rubbing her clit against the woman's nipples

That’s one I hadn’t thought of …..!

Are you sure that it is nerves they are expressing ?

It’s perfectly possible, -but you identify as a submissive, meaning that you probably engage more with Doms, than other subs, -would that be fair to say ?

A Dom who lacks confidence isn’t the right fit for a sub who is new to the lifestyle, Read more… -as a general rule.

I know a Dom and a sub who were both new, and decided to explore together - only as play partners, not in a relationship.
It didn’t end very well.

She was vague about limits and interests, he was unable to manage his own limits and had little control during sessions.

Attending Munches - as someone else has already said, is a really good way to meet other people.

Don’t rush to organise sessions, try and be patient. Learn from people you meet at Munches….. they will help you.
Read. Online ….. books….. anything you can find, and form opinions, develop your own Modus Operandi……

And never feel obligated to enter into anything -until you are happy that the person you are considering has what YOU need in mind.

I couldn’t agree more to be honest.

If you sign up to a site, with expectations of interactions, then the very least you should do, is complete your profile as fully as possible.

I guess some guys just love wanking off in their bedrooms to the thought of ‘naughty’ ladies….. 🤷🏻‍♂️

Incidentally, Read more… the same goes for Female profiles that aren’t completed.

Usually the hook is that they try to lure you off to another site …. (You know the one, I’m sure..) if you show any kind of interest.

The “DM me to learn more…” line is a cracker…

As is the “Never on here. Find me on I**ta” one.

Usually then its a (failed) attempt at ‘***’

Trouble is, it takes a lot of time and trouble to vet every potential new member, and in any case, the membership process needs to be positive rather than pessimistic in its outlook, otherwise no one would sign up ….🤷🏻‍♂️

:1782474661,7265081,
Not good, being already inside the dynamic and feeling obligated is not fair. Thank you for this insight/data point.

I will now have to test a theory. I have not incorporated this, but I can understand how even a clean house doesn't Read more… mean a sub is convinced of toy sanitization.

Your thoughts?

Do you think having a sub sanitize equipment/toys before use (or doing this in front of them as they watch) as part of the before play and as part of the dynamic would make them more comfortable (even in a messy place)?

There are a number of approaches to this.

Firstly, although Dungeons often supply ‘toys’, and I’m sure clean them thoroughly, I never use them -preferring to bring my own.

Why? - I am happy using my own equipment, because I KNOW , beyond all reasonable doubt, that I, personally, have cleaned it properly.

And I think many subs have that same approach.
Let’s face it, many of us have multiple play partners.
Bringing your own toys to a play session is really no different to bringing your own condoms -is it ?
Unless it’s a suitcase full of toys of course.

Having a sub sanitize the toys to be used can absolutely be part of the play session… and may well give them confidence in that regard.

Another approach is to use prophylactics whenever possible.

You can’t put a condom on a paddle, but you can on a dildo, butt plug or vibrator .. so do it.

You won’t lose anything in terms of sensation… so why not ?