Whether or not a person is a cuckold or not - is very much down to their own perspective on the matter - let’s not forget that. It’s all too easy to pigeonhole others, and say that He, She or They are X,Y or Z.
And so, to the OP I ask you this in reply to your question..
How do you feel about her Read more… hosting her clients at home ?
Financially, it makes sense. Not having to pay for a location for outcalls, and if as you say, money is the objective, then that would be the best and potentially quickest way out of that hole.
But - do you personally consider it an invasion of yours and her joint personal space ?
Are you excited when she tells you have a client coming over ?…
Perhaps with a pinch of apprehension ?
I had a young ladyfriend whom I used to see a few years ago who decided to escort at her apartment to supplement her regular income. She did it for about a year.
I would always be in the next room - for her safety, or sometimes in the same room if She, He or they both wanted pictures taken - but at no time was I a cuckold in that situation.
I enjoyed watching (and hearing) her being pleasured (she genuinely enjoyed her work, and was selective about the clients she met)
In that respect, I think it was more of a ‘hotwifing’ experience, rather than a cuckolding one.
Have you considered that perspective ?

Just to interject again for a moment.
This is actually a very interesting point for debate.
We hear sometimes that someone is or was “born to lead”, and once again, I think that is a misrepresentation. I think we are all shaped by our environments, for good or for bad, and the concept of being Read more… Dominant or submissive in the workplace (in a non-kink way) is an interesting one.
In the workplace, I have always led by example - it is one of my personal mantras, and simply “who I am”.
As a result of that, even from the early days in my industry, people would look to me for advice or affirmation, and I have never been afraid to give it.
Interestingly, the more you ‘rise’ within an organisation, and the more critical your opinions and decisions become to the business, the greater the pressure to be right also becomes, and so that generates a lot of self criticism and introspectivity.
As a result of that, I believe that has bled over into my kink life, and made me a better Dominant for it.
A case of ‘work-life balance’ working in syncopathy perhaps ?

I don’t believe that anyone is ‘born’ Dominant.
As MasterGreed says above though, at least some of the qualities required may well be inate - but perhaps dormant in a person, until they are exposed to environmental stimuli.
For example, during my formative years, exploring sexuality with various Read more… partners, I was always happy and comfortable taking control of an intimate situation with an inexperienced partner…. Whereas I know of others who struggled to do that at the same time, leading more to furtive fumblings, rather than sexual experimentation.
As I’ve aged, I’ve sought out situations, experienced more, read more, watched more, and developed the ‘path’ that I am now on.
Thus, we are not born Dominant, we develop those characteristics - or not, depending on what we are exposed to.

Copper, you are not wrong - sadly.
I think this slow degradation is typical of ALL sites like this, over time. There is another with a similar name to this one which is now full of egotistical individuals, who seem to delight in rubbishing others to anyone who will listen.
Less collaboration and Read more… more competition ?It’s like really bad reality TV.
The more unscrupulous amongst us continue to seek out opportunities to abuse others.
I physically shudder every time I read profiles -predominantly published by young women, stating that they have ‘no limits’.
Are they doing this because they believe it will make them more attractive to Doms?
Or is it because they have such low self esteem that they crave that kind of extreme attention (read: abuse) ?
I could show you many messages I’ve received asking for advice about how to stay safe on sites, because people have been seriously abused whilst in the care of others - mostly so-called “Doms”.
Their profiles contain the words “no limits” … so one asks, did they bring this abuse upon themselves ?
The new trend seems to be towards ‘online’ experiences.
Personally, I’d rather meet up with someone in a quiet cafe or pub somewhere and discuss our mutual kinks, before heading off somewhere to practice them in person - with consent.
I live in North West London - Capital of England.
Total number of ‘real’ meets this year to date - zero.
4RCH - is right. I am becoming very jaded with having to try and educate individuals in how to be ‘safe’, when I would rather be exploring their kinks and fetishes with them instead perhaps.
I used to organise small events down on the South Coast pre- 2020, and am considering pulling away from sites and running invite only events again in my area.
Who knows.
All I know is that the spark has diminished for me - and apparently, many others too.

We seem to have a lot in common here.
I’ve been a BBF (Big Breast Fetishist) for over 43 years now.
Biggest I’ve experienced - a UK size 40M bust. All natural.

Ahhh !… now, that would give the game away, given that I’m about to start hosting and running my own events again, after a four year hiatus.
But I’m sure you’ll get a good response regarding this - there are some very creative people here. 😉

That an extremely valid point. I hadn’t considered the medical repercussions like rhat.
So we may well see a change in the demographic which is more familiar with the internet, and therefore an increase in the number of cases reported perhaps ?
I’m now wondering if there may be a degree of Read more… balancing out there … between the reduction in current cyberflashing perpetrators, due to legal ramifications, and an increase in numbers with fronto temporal dementia ?

Men (and potentially some women) who flop their bits out - especially on the internet, or via texts and messages do it for perverse sexual gratification, not as a result of mental illness
Whilst there are certain medical conditions which lead to a dysfunction in the brain, which concerns morality Read more… and behavioural issues, this is not an excuse.
I have a friend whose son has a psychological condition which means that, sometimes, he will get up, in a complete strangers house, strip off in the bathroom - and shower.
He is not a deviant or a pervert, he’s just hot, and feels the need to cool off - so he does.
However, he doesn’t send images of bits of his anatomy over the internet, or via message to anyone.

This is one of those times where you set your own limits with others.
Many people mistakenly believe that ‘limits’ refer exclusively to sexual ones.
This is simply not true.
Your limits are whatever YOU determine them to be…. And if you want to keep your kink entirely separate from everyday life Read more… - then that is your prerogative. I would be upfront about this when seeking a play partner though. It’s natural for two people who are sexually intimate to become close in other ways. If you wish to avoid this, set out your stall early.

There are plenty of pic collectors out there, who will happily receive an inbox of breasts and other body parts - if you want to send them.
Sadly they quite often end up on various sites - as “profile pics” for the “couple profile” that John Smith has put up, in the hopes of finding someone to Read more… play with his “wife” or “girlfriend” and he.
I don’t fully understand the psychology of that to be honest - it seems silly to me, but it happens.
Maybe his thinking is that anyone interested might become part of his “couple” when searching for other single women ? … I don’t know.
Women, very rarely enjoy receiving unsolicited dick pics in my experience.
I won’t send them. In fact I’m not always keen on sending them if they are asked for.
Penises are not the most attractive objects !

Have you tried heat and cold play in tandem with nipple play ?… stimulating the nerve endings around the nipple and areolae over time with changes in temperature may help to take you where you want to go. Take your time, focus on the build up. Not everyone can have a nipple orgasm through ‘hard’ Read more… play - some need a slower, softer build up.
Conversely, I’ve known some ladies to benefit from breast slapping - with hand/belt/paddle etc prior to other nipple play.
BUT make sure you avoid the nipple itself, lest you cause inadvertent damage !.
Nipple shields work ..or keep some (see through) clothing on to avoid direct contact / impact with the nipple.
I’m happy to provide more specific detail for those who are interested.

At last.
The narcissists will be up in arms, I am sure, but this has been needed for SO long now.
There is a proven correlation with sex crimes that abusers often escalate following ‘success’ at what is perceived as “low level abuse”.
‘Flashing’ whether face to face, or online would be an Read more… example of this ‘low level abuse’.
So effectively, if the message can be sent that tells potential abusers there are severe penalties for this kind of behaviour
It can only be a positive thing.
For this to be effective though, people MUST report incidents of Cyberflashing, AND there needs to be significant publicity around his Law being ratified.