A mature Master of 28 years seeking female to train and to be summoned to a place of her choice. Age etc not important as honesty and interest in a genuine LTR D/s relationship with a real desire to learn how to serve a Master . Ideal for a daddy's girl/sub who has unrealised desire in being submissive or one in an unfulfilled vanilla relationship and wanting to experience her dreams and fantasies as a cared for and cherished sub/brat. Total discretion and privacy is guaranteed and expected. Building a D/s relationship taken at her pace, learning to have trust in her Master/Daddy leading to respect and devotion to him. I have had several playrooms in my time. Ample purposed equipment to suit most tastes and more information can be given on request. I specialise in impact play, roping, restraints, experience and introduction in other bdsm genres and pleasure. A true dom doesn't just take control of you or try to order you around. That's not Dominance, that's bullying. A true Dom Is ALWAYS respectul, will guide you, instruct you, encourage you, help you, and drive you to reach your full potential. Not just in the bedroom, In Life. A true Dom/Daddy will be the most supportive person you've ever met. They'II challenge you and teach you things about yourself you never knew.They'Il bring out the very best in you.
Only trust someone who can see these three things in you:
The sorrow behind your smile.
The love behind your anger.
The reason behind your silence.

Outside of my bdsm kink world the vanilla life has been like most of us..... interesting!!!!
I started out at 16 by joining the Army and served for 30 years, it was the time of my life and taught me many life skills that I've lived by and principles I've adapted into my kink lifestyle. I would live that life again as it took me all over the world and exposed me to so many cultures, bonds and a journey of self discovery. During that time I was introduced to the bdsm world and after 28 years of being a Dom I've never looked back. Now for the boring bit, I love sunset beach walks because I make new footprints in the sand and never look back at the ones I created as the tide just washes them away but get to keep the memories, good and bad. I love good food and wine with pleasent company or romance but also partial to scrumpy and brandy lol. Sport!!!, mmmm well I do play golf, badly (boring I know to some) but wish someone else was cleaning my balls😜. I do ride my bike when I can but, again wish someone else was riding me. I love films, good TV dramas and comedy. I do like live gigs but not been to one lately and travelling abroad to bdsm kink conventions and events in Europe and of course holidays in the sun. I do like researching the bdsm community and in particular unusual equipment and designing my own bdsm equipment which I've done in the past for my playroom.
My life and relationships have been diverse to say the least but to be honest I love this quote because you can't put them into one category and learned from each person and encounter I've had.
"Accept people as they are, but place them where they belong. Always remember you are the centre of your own life. Acceptance frees you from trying to change anyone. Boundaries protect your peace. Not everyone earns the same access, the same closeness, or the same seat at your table, and that's not cruelty, it's self st". This is the mantra I now live by.
A relationship isn't about sex and never has been for me. It's about building a relationship with a partner/sub who I am attracted to and have feelings for. I know we struggle sometimes and find life difficult at times but we don't have to go through our struggles alone. I've been in a dark place myself and the special ex sub helped me through it albeit at a great loss to both of us and I didn't get to take her on her journey of self discovery and LTR. So I know how you feel or going through if it's happened to you. I want to be the light at the end of tunnel and hold your hand and when you need to be held close as I did with my special ex sub. Is it self pity? Maybe but it taught me that the perfect sub doesn't exist but we got so close to it and know if we were still together we would have had a lifetime pursuing it and both had our journey of self discovery.
Nothing in your life has been random. Not the person who broke your heart. Not the job that ended. Not the door that closed without warning. Not even the moments you still don't fully understand. You think you were unlucky. You think you chose wrong. You think you should have seen it coming. But every encounter exposed something. Every ending revealed something. Every disappointment stripped something back. Some people arrived to awaken you. Some arrived to test your boundaries. Some arrived to show you exactly what you will never tolerate again. And yes, some came to hurt you. But even that carved clarity. Even that loss sharpened your self-worth. You weren't being punished. You were being refined. Growth rarely feels graceful while it's happening. It feels like confusion. It feels like loss. It feels like the ground shifting under your feet. But nothing was wasted. Every lesson stretched your capacity. Every fracture widened your heart. Every time you chose to keep going, something stronger in you took shape. So stop labeling your story as good or bad. It was necessary. It was forming you. Trust the unfolding. Trust the timing. Trust that the same that dismantled what no longer fitted is the one building what does. Life is not happening against you. It is happening through you. And you are becoming exactly who you were meant to be. In your life, there will be a moment where you need to choose between the life you know and the life you want. It is very important that you choose the one that scares you because that will take you on your own journey.

1. Only what my sub/daddy's girl limits are. A subs exposure experience is her journey
   
   Loss
   Having recently lost the most beautiful, honest and respectful sub and person I've ever been with I had to change my title in respect of her zulu name I gave her. That name belonged to her alone and will never be used again. She will always be my okuncane and I have to move on