About me
Interested in:
I’m looking for:
- Friends
- Kinky Dates
- LTR (relationship)
- NSA (no strings...)
- Swingers
- BDSM Lovers
Description
I'm fully vaccinated with both boosters. I'm hoping to move to Santa Clarita soon.
Non-sexually I'm a geeky rocker, I like video games but I'd usually rather go out than play them. I'm also into sci-fi/fantasy and technology. The music I listen to is mostly rock and rock sub-genres. I enjoy hiking, camping, the beach, museums, the observatory, playing tennis, or just hanging out watching a movie or playing card or board games. Creatively I enjoy writing, I write poems, stories, and writing a book. My sense of humor is dark and sometimes raunchy.
Sexually I'm Dominant and a Daddy Dom and I also like puppy, kitty, and wolf play. I've never been a 24/7 master and not sure if I"d want to be, at least not around family and friends...too many questions. When we're on our own that's another subject. I love and expect good communication and conversations, I may ask your opinion on things and expect you to give it honestly. Any tie I give you permission to talk don't be shy, say what's on your mind. If you have questions, you may ask as long as you're respectful. If you only want to be Dominated in bed, that's fine too.
I know my fetish list is long, I've been on here for many years and accumulated a lot, just skim them. I'm not into , cutting (not into ), or homosexual sex (I'm straight). If you're not into a fetish of mine, just tell me, I wouldn't make you do anything you don't want to do, it's called pushing which means pushing you to do the things you're interested in, not the things that revolt you. If you're bi and want a girlfriend and we're being monogamous I'm fine with it. Just because I don't want to have sex with another man doesn't mean I should stop you from being with women.
What am I looking for? That's the question and it's hard to say, but when I find out I'll let you know. I'm open to monogamous, ENM, poly, and swinging...you never know who you're going to end up liking so I keep an open mind. I gravitate toward intelligent and creative women and I don't care if you have 3 doctorates, I don't mind a woman smarter than me. I like to say I have an angel on one shoulder and a devil on the other, usually the devil wins. Also, be funny, a good person, honest, kinky yet a little romantic! No addictive hard-core (coke, crack, meth, heroine...etc), pot, and other non-addictive are ok once in a while. Don't be overly jealous, that's my major pet ***ve and won't be tolerated. We'll go out with my friends and yours maybe all together, but I may want to just hang out with my friends alone sometimes and you should hang out with yours as well.
I'm very nurturing and affectionate as well as strict. I love cuddling, making sure my sub/little feels safe. I'm protective, and I try not be too overprotective, if you feel I am you can respectfully tell me and we can talk about it. Communication is very important to me, I'm pretty empathetic, if I feel somethings wrong, I'll ask, and the answer you give I'll take as the truth (but if I find out you lie, you get punished). If I feel someone is trying to take advantage or hurt you, I'll tell you straight out. If you disagree and insist I'm wrong that's fine, but when I'm right I will say I told you so.
I won't Dominate you while we're getting to know each other (I may show a few tendencies though). If you want to take things slow, just let me know, I'm not here to rush anyone, we both have to feel comfortable with each other, sometimes that will be right away, and sometimes it'll take a while.
If you have any questions just ask.
Limits
receiving anal, cock and ball , pegging, tickling, , *** play
My roles & archetype
My kinks & fetishes
I like:
- 24/7 (Passive)
- Age Play (Passive)
- Erotic Photography (Active)
- Accent Fetish (Active)
- Amateur Videos (Active)
- Anal Play (Active)
- Anal Sex (Active)
- Anal Beads (Active)
- Anal Plugs (Active)
- Anonymous Sex (Active)
- Bathroom Denial (Active)
- Ball Gag (Passive)
- BDSM (Active)
- BDSM Collar (Passive)
- Biting Fetish (Active)
- Belly Button Fetish (Active)
- Ben Wa Balls (Active)
- Bondage Shackles (Active)
- Breast Play (Active)
- Butts (Active)
- Caregiver / little (Active)
- Chains (Passive)
- Collar & Leash (Passive)
- Corsets
- Cuddling (Active)
- Cunnilingus (Active)
- Deep Throating (Passive)
- Defilement (Passive)
- Lingerie Fetish
- Dildos (Active)
- Dirty Talk
- Doctor Role Play (Active)
- Double Penetration (Passive)
- Threesomes (Active)
- Edgeplay (Passive)
- Erotic Art (Active)
- Erotic Wrestling (Active)
- Sex Worker - Client (Active)
- Exhibitionism
- Face Slapping (Active)
- Facesitting (Passive)
- Female Ejaculation (Active)
- Restraints (Passive)
- Fetish Wear
- Figging (Active)
- Fingering (Active)
- Fisting (Passive)
- Floggers (Passive)
- Foreplay (Active)
- Hair Fetish (Active)
- Hair Pulling (Active)
- Handcuffs (Active)
- Handjobs (Passive)
- Handyman - Housewife (Active)
- Rough Sex (Passive)
- Humiliation (Passive)
- Kamasutra (Active)
- Kinky Sex
- Kissing (Active)
- Tickle Fetish (Active)
- Clitoral Pump (Passive)
- Costumes (Active)
- Labia Fetish (Active)
- Lap Dance (Active)
- Licking (Active)
- Lip Fetish
- Massage (Active)
- Masturbation (Active)
- Multiple Orgasms (Passive)
- Mutual Masturbation (Active)
- Nipple Clamps (Active)
- Nipple Play (Passive)
- Nipples (Active)
- Nudism (Active)
- Oral Sex
- Spanking Paddles (Passive)
- Period Blood Fetish (Active)
- Piercings (Active)
- Polyamory (Active)
- Porn (Active)
- Post Orgasm Torture (Passive)
- Quickies (Active)
- Rimming
- Role Play
- Silk Fetish
- Sex at Work
- Sex on the Beach (Active)
- Elevator Sex
- Outdoor Sex (Active)
- Sex at the Movies
- Swimming Pool Sex
- Sex Parties
- Sex in the Water (Active)
- Sex In Bed (Active)
- Shower Sex (Active)
- Sauna Sex
- Sex Stool (Active)
- Sex Toys (Active)
- Sex Doll (Passive)
- Sex Swing (Active)
- Slave Training (Active)
- Sperm (Passive)
- Cum Swallowing (Passive)
- Spit Fetish (Active)
- Squirting (Passive)
- Striptease (Passive)
- Suspension Bondage (Passive)
- Swinger (Active)
- Sybian (Passive)
- Tattoo Fetish (Active)
- Subservience (Passive)
- Love Egg (Active)
- Vibrators (Active)
- Wand Massager (Active)
- Gyno Fetish (Active)
- Wet Look Clothing
Wanna know what interests me?:
- Anal Hook (Passive)
- Blindfolds (Passive)
- Bondage Tape (Passive)
- Breast Binder (Passive)
- Dacryphilia (Active)
- Electro Sex Stimulation (Passive)
- Violet Wand (Passive)
- FFM Threesome (Active)
- Gangbang (Passive)
- Group Sex (Active)
- Lactation Fetish (Passive)
- Needles (Passive)
- Partner Swapping (Active)
- Cock Ring (Active)
- Piquerism
- Posture Collar (Passive)
- Washing Machine Sex (Active)
- Freckle Fetish
- Tantric Massage
- Tantric Sex
- Whips (Passive)
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I was always kinky. I liked spanking, pulling hair, biting, anal, but didn't know what BDSM was. In my early 20's I had a FwB with an older girl (in her late 20's). We met, hit it off, she told me she didn't want a relationship and I was Read more…fine with that. One day about 5 or so months later she came over and before we did anything she said, "don't freak out" and thought were going on in my head "What the fuck does that mean." Well, I said "Ok, I won't" and she took off her pants and she had bruising all up and down her legs and ass. I didn't freak out, but I didn't understand. I asked, "were you in an accident?" At that point she told me she was into BDSM, and I had questions. We sat for a long while, me asking, her answering and she could tell I was more interested than scared. I asked if I could see her and her Dom together, I want to see what BDSM is. She asked him and he agreed and their next meeting I went with her and met her Dom who was very nice and friendly. I was quiet while they did their scene, it was like a movie, and it was fascinating, erotic and beautiful in a brutal way and I was hooked. When they were done, I asked him questions and he was nice enough to answer. I asked him about when he hit her and how did he know how hard to? And how to *** her without hurting her and he answered. He showed me where and how to *** her to lessen the chance of *** and what to look and listen for so as not to do damage but just bring pleasure. I was still apprehensive after him showing me, but in time I got to feel more confident. She was never my sub, we just played.
Not long after she asked if I wanted to bring another woman in and I said yes. She and I found someone we were both interested in, and she asked if I wanted to "interview her", see if she's someone I'd like to have fun with. I met her and she was attractive, nice and innocent looking. We talked a bit and then kissed and groped, performed oral on each other, it was really nice. The next thing she asked kind of shocked me. She asked if I would fist her. I had never fisted a woman, never saw a fisting video, I just heard people joking about it. Well, I said OK, I'll try it and started with two fingers, then three, she told me how to place my fingers so as not to hurt her which I did, and I got four and then all five. Next thing I knew I was wrist deep in this girl's pussy and I was enjoying it, it was a sensation I had never felt. It's one thing feeling a woman's wetness on your fingers but all over your fist and arm, that's really different. The next thing that went through my mind was "When I fuck her what will it feel iike?" Well after fisting her and giving her a few orgasms and feeing her pussy clench on my arm I found out and she was still tight as hell. I even said, "You're still tight" and she said "Try and pull out. I did and couldn't because she clamped on so tightly. I was excited, surprised, shocked, it was so much fun, and I couldn't wait to tell my play partner. We had played a few hours and had a great time, I told her we'll keep in touch.
Not long after that encounter my play partner and I broke up. We had just had sex and actually I was still inside of her, and she said, "I love you" and her face turned white, and she said she had to go to the bathroom. After coming out said "disregard what I said, I don't want a relationship" and I said "Ok, all is forgotten." Well, a few days later I talked to her about doing something for the weekend and she broke it off with me. She said she has feelings she doesn't want; she doesn't want a relationship and if we keep going on it'll confuse her more and she really didn't want that. I asked if she wanted to talk about it and she said "no, I think we should just have a clean break and not talk to each other again." I was sad, we had been together for going on a year. I had wondered if in time I could fall for her and thought probably, she was fun, smart, kind, attractive and kinky. Well, I talked to the girl we were going to bring in as a third and told her what happened and she said, "that sucks." I told her even though her and I weren't a couple we were really close, and I needed a little time to think, and she said "Ok, I was fun, and she'd like to play more." I never called her back because I met my next plaything and they "Yes they" didn't want another woman. Her boyfriend just liked to watch me fuck his girlfriend. That's another story though, but a fun one.
Since then, I've been with subs, and little, and I've had a lot of fun and learned a lot. I'm always wanting to learn more and try new things me and my partner(s) are interested in.
It seems like when he said hes not poly and doesn't share he meant he can sleep around, and he won't share you with another man. Wording is everything and he didn't say "I'm monogamous." He said, "I'm not poly." which are two different statements. Also "I don't share" didn't clarify if he just Read more… didn't want to share YOU, he didn't say "I don't want to share you with anyone." That tells me he could have meant "I won't share you with another man, but I'll bring in another woman." The guy knew what he was saying, and he hoped you wouldn't question.
That being said it's not bad for you to want clarification. Humans (men and women) can me fucked up. If you want a monogamous or a non-monogamous relationship, you have the right to know if you're potential partner wants the same thing. It doesn't matter if you're a sub or Dom, you want to be on the same page as your potential partner.
Ne_Prophet did a great job explaining what to do and what not to do. The thing I'm worried about is that you're with someone who not only is new to this but also doesn't know when to stop, because you want more and more. I'd really worry that he could go too far and really hurt you or worse.
My Read more… advice is think about the damage that could be done and then find a limit...maybe you passed it? Find another kink that you could get the same rush, maybe impact play. Even impact play has its dangers though, but as long as you're not being punched in the stomach or face, if you keep it to the butt and back and if you do other areas (like pussy and breasts) just keep in mind you can get hurt (if you hit to hard on the clit you might lose sensation). I have a friend who doesn't like being hit hard or hard sucking on her breasts because she's afraid of damage to the tissue, which is possible, but I'm not sure how likely. Impact play is pretty much less dangerous than breath play. I'm not saying stop breath play, just keep in mind the dangers and make a limit even though you want more. The rush you get isn't worth brain damage or death. Also, to the person you're playing with, have him get some training so they know when to stop.
BDMS is fun, I love being a Dom, but limits are important, and every good Dom finds limits. Fetlife and Bloom have some classes, I think I saw a BDSM 101 class. I would say both of you should take it together and ask good questions if they have a Q&A at the end. It's always good to learn. I think Fetlife had a breath play class, but not sure. When I started, I was the opposite of your play partner, I was more cautious and tried to learn as much as I could. In BDSM you can always learn more though.
Non-sexually I'm a geeky rocker, I like video games but I'd usually rather go out than play them. I'm also into sci-fi/fantasy and technology. The music I listen to is mostly rock and rock sub-genres. I enjoy Read more… hiking, camping, the beach, museums, the observatory, playing tennis, or just hanging out watching a movie or playing card or board games. Creatively I enjoy writing, I write poems, stories, and writing a book. My sense of humor is dark and sometimes raunchy.
Sexually I'm Dominant and a Daddy Dom and I also like puppy, kitty, and wolf play. I've never been a 24/7 master and not sure if I"d want to be, at least not around family and friends...too many questions. When we're on our own that's another subject. I love and expect good communication and conversations, I may ask your opinion on things and expect you to give it honestly. Any tie I give you permission to talk don't be shy, say what's on your mind. If you have questions, you may ask as long as you're respectful. If you only want to be Dominated in bed, that's fine too.
I know my fetish list is long, I've been on here for many years and accumulated a lot, just skim them. I'm not into , cutting (not into ), or homosexual sex (I'm straight). If you're not into a fetish of mine, just tell me, I wouldn't make you do anything you don't want to do, it's called pushing which means pushing you to do the things you're interested in, not the things that revolt you. If you're bi and want a girlfriend and we're being monogamous I'm fine with it. Just because I don't want to have sex with another man doesn't mean I should stop you from being with women.
What am I looking for? That's the question and it's hard to say, but when I find out I'll let you know. I'm open to monogamous, ENM, poly, and swinging...you never know who you're going to end up liking so I keep an open mind. I gravitate toward intelligent and creative women and I don't care if you have 3 doctorates, I don't mind a woman smarter than me. I like to say I have an angel on one shoulder and a devil on the other, usually the devil wins. Also, be funny, a good person, honest, kinky yet a little romantic! No addictive hard-core (coke, crack, meth, heroine...etc), pot, and other non-addictive are ok once in a while. Don't be overly jealous, that's my major pet ***ve and won't be tolerated. We'll go out with my friends and yours maybe all together, but I may want to just hang out with my friends alone sometimes and you should hang out with yours as well.
I'm very nurturing and affectionate as well as strict. I love cuddling, making sure my sub/little feels safe. I'm protective, and I try not be too overprotective, if you feel I am you can respectfully tell me and we can talk about it. Communication is very important to me, I'm pretty empathetic, if I feel somethings wrong, I'll ask, and the answer you give I'll take as the truth (but if I find out you lie, you get punished). If I feel someone is trying to take advantage or hurt you, I'll tell you straight out. If you disagree and insist I'm wrong that's fine, but when I'm right I will say I told you so.
I won't Dominate you while we're getting to know each other (I may show a few tendencies though). If you want to take things slow, just let me know, I'm not here to rush anyone, we both have to feel comfortable with each other, sometimes that will be right away, and sometimes it'll take a while.
If you have any questions just ask.